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    My girlfriends son is jealous of me in a way. If she gives me a kiss he clears out his throat and wants one too. He wants to sit between us when were on the couch. We get along and everything it's just new to me. How long should I expect this to last??
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    How old is he?

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    ...let it last as long as he wants until he out grows it or isnt worried about it anymore. Could take a month or years.
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    Aaaawww, that sounds sooo cute... Most kids want kisses when there are kisses to go around. Let him know, that there is enough to go around. It's all good... And with him sitting on the couch between you guys, sounds like a family in the making. I used to do that with my parents. Turn on a Christmas DVD, pop some popcorn, get a big warm blanket to cover all ---> Sounds like a perfect November/December evening to me... A house of love and affection between everyone, now that's what I call a happy family...

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    You need to talk to the mom about it , tell her how you feel and how it makes you feel when he acts this way....talk it out with he r, tell her you want him to be comfy with you ...maybe you shouldnt be kissing in front of him ?

    Her reaction to this situation is important . Some moms are going to react in a very defensive way towards their kids and you will never be right , these kids will sense this and be brats . Anyways talk to her . Sounds like the kid is a little bratty .

    I am a mom and I dont think this sounds cute .
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    Quite possibly forever. He's never going to get desensitized to seeing his mom as someone's girlfriend. Try to think about your own mom's dating life and, yeah, it's just not cool, lol. And depending on how old he is, and the story with his dad, there can be a lot of resentment toward the new guy.

    Try backing off on being pysical with her in front of him. And If you're seriouse about this girl, get to know her son better, make friends and all that.

    ETA: My dog used to howl and jump between us when my boyfriend kissed or hugged me. He eventually warmed up to boyfriend, though when he learned that he could give walks and treats just like me. Granted, he's just a dog, but everyone can be bribbed. Just make sure you mean it.

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    Okay, maybe I was the wrong one to answer this question because I come from a household where my parents have been together for 30+ years, way before I was even thought of. I always saw my parents pop kiss, and they would kiss their children too. There was never a problem about who sits on the couch and where. I will now butt out of this thread since I have no experience on this type of household... I couldn't imagine a family being anything but affectionate and loving...

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    He's 8 and him and I get along fine. I did not mean him sitting between us was a problem in that way but I think it's a way to keep her and I appart. I am getting to know him, we get along great that's not the issue. I too am from a family that my mom and dad have been together from the get go and still are. I'm new to it and just wanted input.
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    Yeah thats a fragile age. My fiancee was 8 when his parents divorced and he said when his mom would have dates in the house he would fake sick so she would ignore them and give him attention. My daughter wasnt so bad with my fiancee because she was 4 when we got together but as she got older she seemed more againt it. Its hard a that age. I am sure the longer your together and he sees you love his mother and arent a threat he will accept it better. Boys are more protective of their mothers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy View Post
    He's 8 and him and I get along fine. I did not mean him sitting between us was a problem in that way but I think it's a way to keep her and I appart. I am getting to know him, we get along great that's not the issue. I too am from a family that my mom and dad have been together from the get go and still are. I'm new to it and just wanted input.

    Yeah thats why you need to talk to her about it ...all kids are different so this might be a phase or it could be a sign of things to come , like him getting more aggressive in keeping you apart . The whole kissing thing is only a problem to some people because you are two are just dating and how many guys does this kid need to see his mom kiss ...ya know ? Its not like you two married ....Hey I kiss my Bfs in front of my daughter , only on the lips and if she shows interest then I dont kiss him anymore ....some guys she doesnt care and some guys she does ....every situation is different ....

    I am starting to be more careful around her now that she is getting older and more aware .....really just talk to this girl ...I mean dont you want to know how she is going to react when an issue comes up between you and her kid ?
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    Thats funny. When my wife had my kids they got all the kisses and i got none so i was jealous. It sucks when you dont get IT anymore

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    Quote Originally Posted by BostonGia View Post
    Yeah thats why you need to talk to her about it ...all kids are different so this might be a phase or it could be a sign of things to come , like him getting more aggressive in keeping you apart . The whole kissing thing is only a problem to some people because you are two are just dating and how many guys does this kid need to see his mom kiss ...ya know ? Its not like you two married ....Hey I kiss my Bfs in front of my daughter , only on the lips and if she shows interest then I dont kiss him anymore ....some guys she doesnt care and some guys she does ....every situation is different ....

    I am starting to be more careful around her now that she is getting older and more aware .....really just talk to this girl ...I mean dont you want to know how she is going to react when an issue comes up between you and her kid ?
    I feel bad for your child.

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    I would give it time and be patient. He might never change, but if you and his mum are going to make a real go of it then all you can do is keep reassuring him that you are not trying to take his mum away from him, and include him as much as possible. This being said as he gets older you will also have to make it clear that you are a couple and that you need time together. Alot of children will adapt easily to new relationships, but some will just love to keep pushing buttons in the hope of keeping you two apart. He is old enough to know what he is doing, yet still too young to deal with his feelings. His mum should also try to make time just for the two of them as this will reinforce the fact that nothing has to change between the two of them. Stand your ground and hopefully things will settle down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoolaTwist View Post
    I feel bad for your child.

    Get a life , I am trying to help this guy out , dont be an asshole ...
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    My mom used to have dates over all the time. I didnt like having to be the one to make myself included, neither did my 7 yr old brother. We liked it when the bfs were the one to invite us over, let us hang out with our mom, bring a movie we like, ask us to help them cook dinner, etc... It will probably last until he gets bored with you or comfortable enough not to feel like he has to compete with you. He will probably leave you two alone after a few months. If you try to push it along in anyway that will only slow down the process!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by HoolaTwist View Post
    I feel bad for your child.
    Whats the big deal?
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