As mentioned, I'm assuming I'm [substantially] older than you, so by your time "openness" may have diminished due to both improved awareness ("Political Correctness") and a newfound confidence on the part of some Blacks that they might not get lynched for kicking some ass in response. In fact, as to the movie incident, I was shocked by the initial comment and then doubly shocked as we were leaving to see (for the first time in my life) four muscular young black men sitting two rows behind us in the same theater.
Except for the Indiana visit, which was pretty much a blue collar steel worker area, I grew up in "the better part of town", i.e. mostly middle class professional or white collar with a few single mother waitresses thrown in, in what can fairly be described as the armpit of Florida (no offense to anyone living there, but I'm sure I can get Djoser to back me up...

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And you're right, those weren't examples of outright hatred. In fact, we were the local liberals, supporting JFK and LBJ, not Goldwater or the John Birch Society.
But the behavior was commonplace. And I wonder, if I were the guy in the gas station for instance, how many comments like that from snotty white kids would I hear without being able to answer back before I started to hate white people and transmit that hatred to my own kids? This is the age that Rev. Wright also grew up in (though earlier), and I'm not convinced urban centers in the north were much better than our little southern shitholes.
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