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    So I go to the SC maybe once every two years, this last adventure was a special occasion for a buddy of mine so we went two nights in a row a friday and a saturday. There was one girl I was immediately attracted to. I gave her a little money on the stage, got a little smile and sat down. She later visits and we have a good little talk. I make it pretty obvious that we are college students who have maybe enough money for a dance and a few tips. She hangs around for a while longer as we just BS about whatever before she takes off. My buddies and I enjoy ourselves the rest of the night before we take off. I catch the girls eye a few other times throughout the night but thats about it.

    The next night we decide to come back because it's my buddies last night in town. So I see my girl first thing as we get in there, she immediately recognizes and gives an almost blushing smile as she finishes her stage rotation and then comes to visit for a few. We talk for a good 15 or so mins or so about whatever, I ask her a lot of questions and tell her a bit about myself. It's a pretty mutual converstation and pleasing for both of us...I didn't really get the feeling that she's trying to hustle unless she is doing it in a very passive way...she actually tells me how much of a rip off LD's are and never asks for one herself. Eventually it gets to a point where I feel like I'm taking up her time when she could be making money so I encourage her to go do that and tell her to come back sometime later so I could buy a dance from her. From our convo I learned a few things about her(i think), she's been working for only 3 months, doesn't really like what she does, commutes from out of town so she can keep it a secret.

    So anyways, she comes back and chats again a little later for about another 15 mins or so. We talk about more of the same and I just feel like we are genuinely enjoying ourselves regaurdless the setting of her being at work. So, the DJ calls in all the girls into the dressing room for a special and I let her know that I'd be that customer for her. So during the dance I noticed she placed her hand near mine and I slowly weaved my fingers with hers (this is me being as handsy as I get). Other than her being naked the dance didn't seem to be that sexually exotic but more romantically errotic that I eventually got a nice short kiss towards the end of the last song. It was a 3 for 1, so things had time to develop. After that dance and a final stage rotation she pretty much spends the rest of the night in my lap just chatting and enjoying ourselves. I felt a little bad because she spent as much time with me as she did and I didn't really have any money to give her but at the same time she still seemed to enjoy herself just hanging out with me. My buddies and I eventually have to get going (early flight). I wasn't really sure but I figured I would give it a shot anyways, so I asked for her number. She hesitates for a second before she says she hasn't ever done that before, she puts her number in my phone along with her real name*i think*. The number is legit, she's msged me back to confirm this. So she obviously gotten to me a little bit or else I wouldn't be on this website telling my story. Now, I need some insight from girls who know the scene better than me.

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    -I go to the SC maybe 1 time every 2 years only on a special occasion
    -I'm a college student and naturally don't have money sitting around for this to be a regular occasion and I let her knows that
    -I'm 1 year older than her **
    -She's single **
    -I'm at a similar level of attractiveness as her
    -She is fairly new to dancing 3months **
    -She seemed to be genuinely having a good enough time with me to hang out for over half of the night knowing she wouldnt make more than about $50 off me.
    My question...
    -Was/Is she hustling?
    -IF she was
    *Why would she try and hustle somebody who is obviously not able to put out money worth the time
    *Why would she give me her number/name?


    I've met my share of scandelous women, but I really have no idea what to expect from a situation where women are required to be scandelous/hustle to make their money. It's seems pretty logical to just assume it was a hustle but I thought I'd try and get an opinion before I just blew this girl off as if it was just business.

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    I think, and I'm actually 99.9% sure that she was being legitimate.

    I think that if she was hustling she might be the worst hustler E.V.E.R.

    And the fact that she gave you her phone number AND that she text you first lets you know that she's really into u.

    I've never gone out with someone I meet at the club but this is only cuz I'm married. but to be honest I've had secret crushes on guys I meet at work and if I was single I would totally date them.

    If you are really interested in her, then I think you're safe to make your move.

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    Isn't this question more fun the 10,000th time it has been asked on here?
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    It has, but i'm actually gonna agree with innosense, strictly for the fact that she only danced 3 mnth and that he's around her age. Its only at the 6 mnth mark when we become conniving jaded bitches. So I think she really meant it.
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    Strippers are people too (duh), and they do occasionally find people w/ whom they're compatible.

    Her newbie-ness makes me think she was being genuine. Either that, or as someone hinted above, she might be the worst hustler ever (she's doing the REALLY slow hustle of making you think she cares, catering to you conversationally, etc, and will later try to make money off of you). I'd be more inclined to believe the former though.

    Lots of inexperienced strippers are stunned at how many people they get to meet through their new night jobs, and aren't very picky since they're not used to having such a wide variety of options. That's why it's so much more likely to get a chance with a new stripper than the more experienced, "I've seen everyone, I know what's out there, and I know exactly what I want" strippers.

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    The fact that she "messaged" you says its more than likely more hustle, if you and her talked and did all the hand holding stuff then a phone call would've been the next step, or she may have a boyfriend so it was easier to just send a text.

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    Wow, the girls think it's real, and the guys think it's hustle.

    I don't know what it is other than a cool adventure that you will simply need to explore and experience. Whatever happens, give us an update later so we can further flesh out the "does she like me?" SW database.

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    Does it matter?

    By which I mean, you never really know when you meet someone whether the interest is "real" anyway. (In or out of the club), maybe she was into you that night but won't be later, or maybe she was into you and it will only get better, or maybe she drunk, or maybe she was trying to make someone jealous, or maybe she was mad at the BF or GF and just wanted to flirt with someone, or maybe she was hustling you.

    The only way to see is to do what you do and see what develops. "Hustling" is no more of a reason to hold back than any other reason it might not eventually work out.

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    Does the OP of any of these type of threads ever come back with an update of what it turned out to be?

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Strippers are people too (duh), and they do occasionally find people w/ whom they're compatible.

    Her newbie-ness makes me think she was being genuine. Either that, or as someone hinted above, she might be the worst hustler ever (she's doing the REALLY slow hustle of making you think she cares, catering to you conversationally, etc, and will later try to make money off of you). I'd be more inclined to believe the former though.

    Lots of inexperienced strippers are stunned at how many people they get to meet through their new night jobs, and aren't very picky since they're not used to having such a wide variety of options. That's why it's so much more likely to get a chance with a new stripper than the more experienced, "I've seen everyone, I know what's out there, and I know exactly what I want" strippers.
    I tend to agree. If she was experienced I doubt this situation would have happened. Maybe she was half genuine and half the worst hustler ever. As in, maybe she does genuinely like you, and half-heartedly wants $ out of you.

    I'd just wait and see. And be prepared if she DOES end up liking you, and DOES want a real relationship with you, that you have the confidence to deal with her chosen occupation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    I tend to agree. If she was experienced I doubt this situation would have happened. Maybe she was half genuine and half the worst hustler ever. As in, maybe she does genuinely like you, and half-heartedly wants $ out of you.

    I'd just wait and see. And be prepared if she DOES end up liking you, and DOES want a real relationship with you, that you have the confidence to deal with her chosen occupation.
    Haha so many guys love the idea of dating a stripper, and then they realize that strippers are actually strippers when they start dating them. "No really. Yes. I go out and take my clothes off in front of hundreds of people every week. Mmm-hmm. It wasn't just a ploy to get you to like me."

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    To the OP, be careful what you wish for you may get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Innocense View Post
    I think, and I'm actually 99.9% sure that she was being legitimate.

    I think that if she was hustling she might be the worst hustler E.V.E.R.

    And the fact that she gave you her phone number AND that she text you first lets you know that she's really into u.

    I've never gone out with someone I meet at the club but this is only cuz I'm married. but to be honest I've had secret crushes on guys I meet at work and if I was single I would totally date them.

    If you are really interested in her, then I think you're safe to make your move.
    I AGREEEEEE!!!

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    Haha, I love the responses. Especially these ones at the end! So I'ma give a little update since it seems to be in demand. I checked the post this morning and saw i think the first 6 replies. So, I decided to give her a call. Now let me warn you, I was planning on calling her back before I made the initial post just to kinda see where things stood. After reading so many other posts on here about PL's and fallin for strippers I was pretty discouraged and was just going to lay it all out whenever I called her. Well I shouldn't have done that because I kinda feel like a dick now. After I mentioned the word "hustle" to her, she responded "what and awful way to say it." Just put it this way, I felt like I treated her like a stripper stereo type instead of a person. She seemed very happy to get my call at first and I still landed a date. Even if what I said wasn't really that bad, I think it was just some of my inner worries spilling out...hopefully I can overcome this or this will likely be a short adventure.

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    ...make sure she's not looking for a sugardaddy (that'd be you).

    Ahh...strip culture.

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    Wow. SW's menstrual cycle is right on time.

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    maybe she likes you but i think you are a little vain to say you are just as attractive as she is. i notice that most guys who say "im attractive" usually are not

    If she was more attractive than you then would you have spent money on her?

    as long as youre tipping on stage at least you prove to not be a complete assholes, but waiting for a 3 for1 to get a dance seems a little rude...even if you are broke. But who knows, maybe she hasnt had very good bfs in the past and takes what she can get and isnt too picky, and truly does have a crush on you.

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    Well what you say about my attractiveness may be true, but that is partly why I said she is at a similar level of attractiveness as myself...which still is likely giving myself more credit than I deserve. In my experiences physical attractiveness varies widely depending on individual preferences.

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    OR maybe she works s l o w. Sure you have no money now, she might be waiting for you to graduate, then get a real job, and THEN, she's got you right where she wants you. lol

    kidding. Someone that new, usually dumb. Wasting all her time on you at work, tisk tisk. She probably still feels intimidated and afraid of rejection so she spends all her time with one dude. I did it too when I was all brand new. Now, I make money. And stay clear of the cute young boys-unless they actually do have money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sinthiakittykat View Post
    OR maybe she works s l o w. Sure you have no money now, she might be waiting for you to graduate, then get a real job, and THEN, she's got you right where she wants you. lol

    kidding. Someone that new, usually dumb. Wasting all her time on you at work, tisk tisk. She probably still feels intimidated and afraid of rejection so she spends all her time with one dude. I did it too when I was all brand new. Now, I make money. And stay clear of the cute young boys-unless they actually do have money.
    lol i spent time on guys who even told me they werent gonna get a dance because i felt bad just walking off...MY FIRST DAY. After my second day I stopped feeling "bad" for walking away though and now I dont even let a guy finish saying no before I walk away lol.
    It must be a newbie thing too, but 3 months, geez, you'd think she'd know by now.
    And damn, why arent said cute young boys visiting my club? Its so rare that cute young boys will come in, and when they do they arent usually my type or sometimes look a little TOO young :-(

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Isn't this question more fun the 10,000th time it has been asked on here?
    The fun part is figuring out the mystery (truth or fiction).

    To the OP, you are going to have to explain how you got the idea of 'hustle' in a way to regain the limited trust she built up in you. If it were me in that situation, I'd say that <my buddies told me about some bad stories and I was somohow influnenced by that. I know I shouldn't have been because of the straightforward talking we did last night. They didnt talk to you; I did. I sincerely want to apologize.> Because you both are pretty new at this deal, it may work. But you really need to feel sincere.

    Aaaah, young love, where did ye go?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Wow, the girls think it's real, and the guys think it's hustle.
    Yeah, I noticed that too. Strange, for the OP's query is pretty much identical to other 99,999 queries, but with opposite ratio.

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    What can I say...I pretty much just have my way with girls, too much pick-up-artists I guess. Watch out Ladies! jk jk

    Haha...sad that I have to explain the word "hustle" to somebody who strips, after reading these forums I thought it was just part of stripper lingo. I don't even know if I want to bring that back up with her.

    I think I've gotten things sorted out a little better now...I love the tease/mystery/rollercoaster of the chase though so I'm going to take things slow and just enjoy for now.

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    ...That's because he is a 'destitute' student and he told her so. What is she going to get from him otherwise, a discount on used textbooks?

    Slow (at her pace) is the word because she gets so many <stupid> propositions from other guys and will get very tired of them soon. Still I have to wonder about her motives for dancing in the first place. Opportunities come around sometimes, but this is her work. So why is she finding dates there?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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