Hi all,
My boyfriend and I (I'm a lady) went to a club in Brisbane (B Confidential) for the first time ever last night. I brought him there as a surprise, and I had been personally curious anyway.
Since it was our first time at a club, we were very awkward - we weren't sure what to do or what the etiquette was! We did manage to talk to one of the managers who gave us some info about what's available and what the prices are. The funny bit was when the manager came up to us to tell us about their washroom situation - the lights in the men's bathroom washroom had gone out so some were using the ladies' washroom. She told me that if I wanted to use the washroom I could ask any of the other female staff, and I asked her who were staff and who were patrons like me. She looked around and told me "Basically...you're the only female here that doesn't work for us". lol.
The dancers were good fun - some were really really good and made both of us drop our jaws in awe! However we did feel a little left out - the girls were having long conversations with the other guys (while some of the guys were ogling me -_-) and hardly anyone came to talk to us. We were debating getting a girl up to chat to us, but we didn't know how.
Rose, one of the dancers, came up to perform and she was AMAZING. She noticed us and danced for us especially, which was great! I tipped her, which surprised her and made her smile.
My boy and I decided to get dessert, and there was an option to get one of the girls to feed it to you. We got that for me, and apparently (according to my boyfriend) when the manager was talking to the girls about it and pointing me out to them all their heads turned around right at me. har.
Rose came over for the dessert, and boy was it good. We chatted about different things and she was tons of fun. I got the feeding, my boy's shaking like crazy (esp when we both got to carress her and Rose fed him too!), and it was tons of fun. We both really enjoyed it. We had to leave soon after but thanked them for their time; Rose was really sweet and I especially appreciated her hospitality.
Both of us loved the experience and want to go back there again soon, likely to buy a private dance for both of us. However, reading through the posts here, I'm not entirely sure if we had inadvertedly broken some etiquette rules or if we could have done anything better. So I have a few questions:
a) I notice that some dancers are reluctant to go up to couples because they reckon the woman would be jealous. What can I do to indicate that not only am I totally fine with it, I quite enjoy it?
b) I don't drink alcohol (the boy does, but moderately). Is it considered rude to not keep buying drinks all the time?
c) How do we get the girls to come over and chat to us? Or does that only happen if you show up regularly? Is it ok to go up to a girl and chat with them?
d) The manager explained to us that touching was OK for private dances (within limitations). Could you just touch or is it better to ask? We asked (which made Rose laugh) but what's standard?
e) How would you tip a dancer? Go up to them during the show, after?
Any advice for our next experience would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much!
- P.B.H. <3


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