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    One of the djs at my club is so awesome, totally cute and fun, doesn't have a girlfriend, and pays a lot of extra attention to me when we work together. I have had my eye on him since I started working there and every shift we work together, he gets a little more flirty, telling me how nice it is to watch my booty walk away and always saying how he's crushing on me.

    I know he doesn't act like that with the other girls, but I am a little wary of the fact that it could be the 'hot stripper' fantasy coming into affect. Do you think he is really into me? And I've never dated someone I worked with, is it probably not a good idea if he really is into me?

    (He's so cute... he even picked me up the other day after I finished my stage set and told me he was gonna carry me and take me home with him. Hehe.)

    Please set me straight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by judashearts View Post
    ....telling me how nice it is to watch my booty walk away and always saying how he's crushing on me.

    Hmmmm. Sounds like typical DJ speak. I'm willing to bet that he says that to other girls too.

    What sucks is that because I don't know you or him, know the club and whatnot, it's really hard to say. I mean there's always a chance it could be genuine, but really to me it sounds like stuff I have heard almost every DJ I've ever worked with say to alot of girls. I have DJ's say that flirty stuff to me and I am married (and they know it).

    As far as the dancer-DJ boyfriend and girlfriend situation goes, I've been around it several times, and there was nothing but drama. There are a few girls here on SW though who are currently in a relationship with and work at the same club as their DJ man, and have no probs at all.

    Every situation is different and people are different.

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    Don't date coworkers. It's bad news. If you did I'd switch clubs to avoid drama. So if you like your club and dont want to swap over, I'd just enjoy my crush and continue on my merry way.

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    sounds like any other dj. Every club I've worked in the djs flirt with me.. it's just what they do.
    I agree with the rest of the girls... not a good idea to date a co worker.

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    As long as you don't get jealous when he talks to other girls in that fashion, it could work. However, you are better off not pursuing it even if you switch to another club because you'll just be wondering if he's flirting with another girl like that. Just enjoy the attention.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    Hmmmm. Sounds like typical DJ speak. I'm willing to bet that he says that to other girls too.

    What sucks is that because I don't know you or him, know the club and whatnot, it's really hard to say. I mean there's always a chance it could be genuine, but really to me it sounds like stuff I have heard almost every DJ I've ever worked with say to alot of girls. I have DJ's say that flirty stuff to me and I am married (and they know it).

    As far as the dancer-DJ boyfriend and girlfriend situation goes, I've been around it several times, and there was nothing but drama. There are a few girls here on SW though who are currently in a relationship with and work at the same club as their DJ man, and have no probs at all.

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    When it comes to dating coworkers, or sleeping with them, whatever etc I can say I've done it many times and it always leads down a road to hell and usually one person leaving the place of employment.

    There was this guy I work with, for a long time we talked every day and were sorta flirty, which was sooo fun, innocent, enticing and just.. a delicious place to be. Where there is no drama, all flirting and sweetness. Well, then we fucked. Then we fucked some more. Then we stopped fucking (various reasons, no particular drama it just sorta fizzled out). Now we barely speak at ALL and it's soooo awkward when I'm around him. He used to be so easy for me to chat with before and now I just haven't a clue what to say with him and every day is uncomfortable.

    I say you have a great, fun, flirty and innocent situation going on. Enjoy it and DON'T ruin it! And I agree with the others who said he is most likely that way with the other girls. Don't ruin it.



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    It hardly never works out. I can't tell you how many times I've seen a girl have to leave a club that is really profitable for her, because she got involved with the staff. If you guys were to be together, and then break up, think about how you'll feel when he starts to hit on yet another girl. You know he's not going to quit-it's harder for djs to find work, so then you'll be the one to leave. Not to mention, if you decide to stay, Think of the drama it would create once he started fucking another girl there. Bad news all the way.

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    Not all dj's are like that. There's nothing wrong with dating a co-worker, as long as you BOTH dont get jealous of one another, you should be ok. Love comes in many forms, you never know, he may genuinely be into you, and think you're the cats meow? he may be as the rest of these lovely girls have said? who knows really? Maybe see what happens down the road? I know many folks who have dated and caused alot of shit, then again, I know folks(co workers) who've hooked up w/others and are happy. Different strokes for different folks.

    Keep in mind too: he may be a bit shy around women, you know, like talking to them in a "Hi, I like you" sorta way? Maybe he's trying to make friends? Maybe he does think you're the cats meow? Not every guy is smooth with the ladies, and some, have huge phobias when talking to girls in general, let along dancers, for fear they'll look like a: dork/asshole/playa/etc. if you dig him, as much as he apparently does you(and thats what you have to ask yourself), then maybe go out on a date with him, see if there's any chemistry between the 2 of you? dont put out on that date, then see what happens. Maybe keep talking to him, and see where it goes? you just never know.

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    Thanks girls! I know I wouldn't get jealous because I am not at all the jealous type...

    As for right now, I think I'm going to take your advice and just enjoy the attention for a little while. If it is meant to be, we will end up dating down the road. I don't see him acting quite this way with any of the other girls (he is faaaaar more flirty with me and he doesn't ever make those sweet comments to the other girls), so I am pretty sure he's really into me, but I'm definitely going to hold back for a while and just see what happens.

    If it's meant to be, then it'll come, right?

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    i mean go ahead and enjoy the attention but if it fades away and moves to another dancer how will it feel then?

    Just keep focused on work.Dont burn bridges or make it hard for yourself to work there..dating a dj can do all those things :0)

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    ^^exactly what she said. so be careful! okay the dj i know did that to me (and only me it seemed) and i started liking him only to find out he lied to me about his age, had wife & kids etc. the sad part is he's tried to take me out before and we've kissed.

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    "Just keep focused on work."


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    i thought you could get fired for dating a coworker?.

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    Don't even bother to enjoy the attention. Ignore it and keep hustling. I'll confess that I once hooked up with a DJ, and it was fun dating him in secret, but I made it a point to keep my distance and drop it soon after it started b/c I didn't want anything to get weird. Fortunately, no bad feelings ever arose between us and we're still friends to this day.

    I'll never do that again b/c I know that was a fluke... it always turns out bad, even the "harmless flirting".

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    Absolutely not. I know you're going to do what you want no matter what anyone says...I did. Dated a DJ a couple months, he turned into a complete asshole and now he is rude to me at work and its just miserable working with him. I'm changing clubs now...

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    Wow. You guys are definitely making me think twice. Thank you!!

    I love the club I am at right now so I don't think I will try to pursue anything with my dj. It's really not worth it.

    And pinkpuff: One of the other djs at my club dates one of the other dancers and they met there. There's also a bouncer that dates a dancer, but I think they started working there together after they had dated for a while. It's not 'advised' at my club to date other employees, but it's definitely not frowned upon. Hehe. Everyone is like a family there, it's really quite awesome.

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    I really try to be good about not sleeping with dancers I work with, after a few bad experiences way back.

    I despise the dog DJs, they are sure out there, too! But it is part of the job to make the dancers feel good about themselves, and the smart ones will return the favor and cheer up a good DJ if he/she is stressing or having a bad night or just not feeling it. I sure appreciate the ones that take care of me when I am not on it some nights. This kind of thing can and will lead to flirtation from what I have seen, which can and should be harmless and part of the job.

    Then there are the exceptional people who mean what they say, or say what they really mean with the important ones. Dangerous...

    Even if he is a veritable knight and would be devoted to you there could be serious trouble in certain situations. Other dancers seem to love to test these relationships, especially if you are good looking and can really hustle and they are jealous. Managers, bouncers and owners can get jealous of him if they are nursing a crush on you (I have lost at least one job for this reason). He can be the greatest guy in the world and very secure, but even a secure man can suddenly develop trouble in his mind if the woman he loves is in the Champagne Room for three hours with a good looking rich guy doing everything he can to win your heart.

    You could have the best, most secure relationship in the world, even under the extremely challenging conditions of a stripclub. But then if you break up you have to deal with each other all night every night you both work. Hard enough at any job, but in a stripclub it's about as tough as it gets.

    I have slept with dancers in clubs without any trouble, but more often than not it was a lot of trouble indeed, and as I said above cost me at least one job.

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    Thank you so much, Djoser. That made up my mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by judashearts View Post

    I don't see him acting quite this way with any of the other girls (he is faaaaar more flirty with me and he doesn't ever make those sweet comments to the other girls), so I am pretty sure he's really into me, but I'm definitely going to hold back for a while and just see what happens.
    Just how are you so sure that he doesn't make comments like that to other girls? You don't sit at his booth the whole night... I mean really?

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    ^^So true. When I had my fling with a coworker, I kept an eye on him just out of curiosity- we had no ties to each other of course- he was still screwing at LEAST 1/3 of the dancers. He played it off very well. I learned my lesson.

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    There are exceptions to the Dog Rule amongst male employees, but not many, lol.
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    The DJs, the managers, the bartender, the bouncers: they will all try to sleep with you.

    The more intelligent ones will act like there is no one else and completely ignore all the other dancers until they get you in bed. Then they nail ALL the other dancers as well!

    Srsly, just DON'T!

    ETA - djoser is right. All guys that work at SC's are not like that. We had a bouncer who was a former Chippendale and he was a total sweetheart. Not a dog at all. Hottest man I have ever seen and a total sweetheart because he had years to get it out of his system. That was the only person I have met though and I danced for over 10 years at numerous clubs in many different areas of the country!

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    Is it weird that my dj smacks my ass??? lol.

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