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    Silly question, but this guy tells me that women don't have as high of a sex drive as men b/c they aren't attracted to multiple people within a short time. If I'm sexually attracted to one guy, I usually spend my time obsessing about him, instead of checking out anything that walks.

    I thought your sex drive was how often you think about sex and how often you want it. You can think about having sex with one person a million times a day, but this guy says that a high sex drive is measured by wanting to do it with multiple people. But if I like someone, why can't I just obsess over them only? He says that if my sex drive is so high, then I must have to be attracted to other men around me.

    Anyhow, I was just saying that I thought women's sex drives can be just as high. It's just that some people are more selective. You can be really horny, but that doesn't mean you're going to do it with just anyone.
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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Apparently it's a complex topic, therefore it's not surprising that some would disagree about the definition. Here is an interesting article on the subject:

    http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/se...-women-compare

    How often one thinks about sex works for me.

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    This is a big difference between men and women.women I feel,are more monogamous-therefor we generally think about one person. Although,I usually don't think about one particular person unless there are feelings involved,other wise-I think about every sexy thing that walks by me!!
    I thinks sex drive is how often you crave sex.
    for me,it's literally every day.
    I've been called a nympho before,because I have a very high sex drive..but what a lot of my guy friends don't understand is,I really DON'T sleep around...alotta men on the other hand,do sleep with multiple people..My boyfriends are usually very lucky,because they get laid pretty much everyday That's just me. I'm gona enjoy it while I got it!!!!! I love sex. The science of sex,the act of sex...just everything about sex is interesting to me..sex sex sex..can I say it enough? seeex?
    I guess it depends on who you ask.
    ask a man,and you'll probably get a completely different answer!!
    I think men and women have equal sex drives..
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    ^That's what I meant. You can have a very high sex drive, but that doesn't mean you will do it with a lot of people. Putting your thoughts into action is totally different, b/c some people are concerned with the consequences of sex..When you fantasize about sex, there are no consequences.

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    I really do think it depends on the individual. There are women i know who have a high sex drive and will sleep with many people to satisfy that (which to me makes me think they just haven't found the quality and so are going for quantity) and there are men i know (my guy being one of them) who have a high sex drive but focus that all on one partner ( differing from my previous partner to such an extent in that he doesn't use porn and focuses all of his sexual energy on me - which makes me a very happy bunny!).

    That monogamy is a genetic gender difference i believe to be BS - if we couldn't override or progress from our 'genetic' programming then we'd all kill animals with our bare hands and eat meat and be dandy with it. You kill me some bears and make me a fur coat, then you can get with all the other women you like.

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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    I thought it was how often you think about sex and the desire to have sex.

    I have a high sex drive I wanna have sex everyday, but only if Im with someone and really feeling them.

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    Sounds to me like he wants to get his excuses for cheating in early. Shame on him.

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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Sex drive has to do with how much sex--not how many you want to get a min with while masterbating or rolling over after shooting his load. That concept has nothing to do with the reality of a sex drive becuz it's based on a fanasty. Reality of a sex drive is how much sex is some1 actaully having and how much they can handle.

    Who says women want less or less partners anyways? As a lesbian who has dated nephos trust me women can have O after O so when I was with a woman who's sex drive was as high as mine that meant we sometimes ate or skipped meals, slept maybe 4 hours here and there and had sex like that all our freetime. That was insane 8-16 hours of sex a day for the 8mos we were together which is probably more then many people get in thier lifetimes.

    As for # of partners I'm trying to cut down seriously.

    For me some1 with a high drive drive is some1 who has lots of sex all the time--not some1 who eats with thier eyes or would like to have more.

    Now I don't know what an adverage sex drive is , but I'm told it's some1 who has sex 2-3 a week so I assume any1 who has less then sex twice a week has a low sex drive.

    I don't know if sex with yourself counts, but I guess it would if a person has a high sex drive and just doesn't get enough verses some1 who just doesn't want any. I know I don't function and am a major bitch if I don't get sex all the time, but I think I have a sexual addiction ontop of having an extremely high sex drive.

    Anyhow so that's my take on sex drive--it's about how much sex they are driven to have not how much they find a zillion people hott and sexy and would like to have sex with.
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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Agreed with everyone else. The guy's definition doesn't really work. But he's wrong anyway - I and other women I know can most definitely be attracted to multiple people simultaneously.

    Just speculation, but I wonder if this guy would be threatened by a woman who either liked to have lots of sex or who was capable of wanting many men within a short period of time.

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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Quote Originally Posted by moll_flanders View Post
    I know can most definitely be attracted to multiple people simultaneously.
    Yeah, but it's not something I'm ready to admit. Ideally, I want to invest all of my sexual energy into one special person. If I was attracted to multiple people (yes, it's happened), I would rather push it back in my head haha.

    Now I don't know what an adverage sex drive is , but I'm told it's some1 who has sex 2-3 a week so I assume any1 who has less then sex twice a week has a low sex drive.
    I read an article where a couple had sex a few times a year, yet they both were happy. The guy also didn't want more sex. A sex therapist said, "As long as you two are happy and your libidos match, what's the problem?"

    Just speculation, but I wonder if this guy would be threatened by a woman who either liked to have lots of sex or who was capable of wanting many men within a short period of time.

    That's what I thought too. Plus, some guys want to think that when a girl turns them down for sex. It's easier to think "She must have a low sex drive" than think "She turned me down b/c she's not attracted to me or I don't please her."

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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    to me, sex drive is how much i actually want to have sex. i think about sex a lot, like a lot a lot. but i can go pretty long periods without wanting to actually have any at all, usually because no one can really turn me on in that time.

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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Sounds like his GFs didnt want more sex as often as he did, so he found another one who wants sex when he wanted more. He's just inexperienced. Why does it bother you?
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    Default Re: What's your definition of a sex drive?

    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    to me, sex drive is how much i actually want to have sex.
    me too.

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    Sounds to me like he wants to get his excuses for cheating in early. Shame on him.
    Agreed.

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