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    When your money tanks so badly that you can't even pay basic living expenses...how do you know what the problem is?

    I know the economy sucks, and is probably not going to start picking up till mid-2009. Maybe that's the problem.

    Or maybe it's me? I feel burnt out. I've gained weight in the past year, and it pretty much shot my confidence and hustle down to nothing. I have such a hard time even approaching people because I feel so self-conscious and embarrassed about how I look. And hustling and asking for money has become near-impossible because I don't believe I'm selling a good "product" at the moment. In the back of my mind I'm always thinking "why would he buy a dance from a fat chick?"

    Or is it my club? If it's my club I'm shit out of luck, because this is the only decent club in my city that I know of...and the nearest big city is two hours away and doesn't have much to offer either. But my club is just never busy! I'm sick to death of showing up to twice as many girls as customers every freaking night. And this is something I can't put my finger on or accurately describe, but my club has changed over the past year and now has a lot of negative energy, for lack of a better term. Could that be affecting my money too?

    I've been thinking of taking a trip to New Orleans to work, but there's no guarantee that it will be busier down there...I'd hate to make that fairly-expensive trip and come home even more broke than I am now! What if it's not just my club that's slow as hell? What if it's pretty much everywhere that's slow right now? Which brings me back to "is it the economy?"

    I used to make great money. I never imagined as a stripper that I'd get to the point where I couldn't pay my bills or put gas in my car. This is not meant as a pointless 'downer' post; I'm just really confused as to WHY my money went down the toilet.

    And I'm not sure what to DO about it. Take a risk and go to NOLA? Take a break and stock shelves at Target for a semester? (because even though that sounds like hell, I'd be making more doing that than I am getting naked now.) Try another club? Try another club after taking a break?

    So...if anyone else has ever been in this situation...how do you know what the problem is? Any advice?
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    Default Re: how do you know...?

    Well, has your club seen a downturn of customers? Are other girls making less money?
    You say that you think it is you- gaining weight, inability to sell. If you can't go to the gym, find a way to work out at home, or walk/run outdoors. It may be cold, but can still be done. Working out will improve your spirits, and you will loose weight.

    If you can't pay your basic living expenses though, perhaps you should look for another job (day or night) depending on your schedule so that you can at least pay your bills, regardless of what the problem might be.

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    Find a buddy to stay with for free and travel if you can. I dont know what city you're in, but is there a larger one nearby?

    If you cant do that, I also suggest a day job til you get on your feet.

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    Thanks, you two.
    Travelling is out of the question because of school, and after working tonight I don't think it's my club or the economy that's the problem. Some other girls are still making decent money (yes, without extras)...all signs point to burnout. I am just going to do the "day job" thing for a few months and get myself refreshed.

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    I think the day job is the way to go for you. for alittle while at least. itll give you new perspective on stripping.
    maybe you can work a weekend night at the other clubs in your town to get a feel for them.
    theres alot of better clubs in my town than the one i work at. i like the layed back atmosphere and lest compitition in my crappy club.

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    Oh sorsi..... please dont worry. I was just talking to a good friend of mine who has been feeling the same, saying almost exactly the same stuff as you. It is so hard at the moment and I live in Australia. You just have to keep really strong and hold your head up and i guarantee that men are not thinking you are fat or anything like that.... its just where your head space is. You can never make money when you are feeling bad about yourself.
    My advice would be to concentrate on you first, make yourself go for a walk everyday, eat healthy food, drink plenty of water it keeps your mind positive. If that still doesnt work then maybe look at some part time work that you can financially fall back on. Just know that you are not alone, you'll get through it!!

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    actually...I think I've got a plan now.

    The thought of going to a club and trying to hustle dances makes me want to puke, and the thought of working some shitty retail or office job makes me feel like I should just off myself if it's come to that. I can't ever go back to the bullshit and petty corporate nonsense of the retail or restaurant industries, after having the freedom and flexibility of dancing for two years now.

    Then I realized that it's not the dancing that's burning me out...it's the hustle. All the top clubs in the city have a hard hustle and pressure to sell dances or go home broke. And with my current headspace, I'm going home broke.

    Then I realized there are a handful of small stage-only clubs on the outskirts of the city that I can hang out in until I tone up, clear my head, get back on my game and get my confidence back. The money potential in these little stage-only clubs would probably make most of you shudder in horror, but it's still more than I'd make working retail, and it's more than I've been making trying to force myself to hustle dances in my current burnt-out misery.

    So I'm going to audition at a few of them on Monday night and go from there. It sounds like the perfect solution, because I absolutely love doing stage and putting on a good show. It's just the hustling I need a break from. So hopefully I can chill out and just do stage in a low-pressure environment for a few months to cover my bills before going back to my regular lapdance club...which BTW is actually a great club, but I can't appreciate it when I'm all pessimistic and sad and can't even approach a guy because my confidence is shot. So yeah...it's not my club, it's me.
    I talked to one of the managers before I left and told him what was up (that I was burnt out and needed a break), and he said I could come back whenever I wanted to, so I think that's my plan.


    Wish me luck?

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    Default Re: how do you know...?

    Thats sounds like a great idea to me..... its a great start knowing what you want and what you dont want. Goodluck with it all............

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