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    it cases fights with me and my new bf of 4 months. we have a lot in common and insie i am very romantic andi love him but ive never ever been good enough at showing my feelings when im in a relationship. he is special to me but he isnt convinced. How can i get into the habit of romantically expressing mysef to him lol so he doesnt dump me? im tired of struggling with this, i want a serious relationship with him though. im pretty sure this is an effect stripping has had on me with all the different men i meet, now since i found one i actually like i dont know how to do the real thing since ive done the fake thing for so long. he doesnt understand
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    what is it that ur "not" doing?

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    Do you mean the smiling, eye contact physical things or the emotional things?

    If it's the physical, then some people are just not very tactile, others are, if you're not then it's going to be hard to force yourself to at in a way that isn't natural for you. If it's something that has been affected by work then maybe you need to make more of a concentrated effort to separate 'work you' from 'real you' - e.g. don't nuzzle and stroke the custies if it means you feel less inclined to do it IRL - find other ways to give the impression of 'intimacy' at work and save that for real life. Maximize the real life experiences you have - i.e. eating with your partner: have a cosy dinner at home for the pair of you with candles and lots of finger foods that you can feed each other, it's very romantic and something you'd never do at work; take baths together, again lots of candles, some scented bath oils; when your together hold hands, tangle legs, create that physical involvement and take time to show how much you enjoy his company, a smile or holding hands wherever you are and ignoring the rest of the world create that romantic bond that's hard to beat.

    If it's more the emotional stuff then tell him how much you love him more often; make 'i love you' the last thing you say before you go to sleep at nights; leave him little notes in his coat pocket telling him you can't wait until you see him again; buy him thoughtful gifts and present them with a note or card that tells him how much you appreciate him, like personalized beer http://www.beeronthewall.com/

    Just show how much joy you take in being with him.

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    Default Re: Im not romantic enough

    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    it cases fights with me and my new bf of 4 months. we have a lot in common and insie i am very romantic andi love him but ive never ever been good enough at showing my feelings when im in a relationship. he is special to me but he isnt convinced. How can i get into the habit of romantically expressing mysef to him lol so he doesnt dump me? im tired of struggling with this, i want a serious relationship with him though. im pretty sure this is an effect stripping has had on me with all the different men i meet, now since i found one i actually like i dont know how to do the real thing since ive done the fake thing for so long. he doesnt understand

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    Default Re: Im not romantic enough

    Give him a big hug and kiss every day and then tell him you love him. Then fix him a sandwich.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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