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    I go to the club 2-3 times a week during the day, I am picky on my taste for women, 80% of the ladies at this club are 7.5 plus (according to my scale, and I would gladly do anyone that is 6.75 and up). I have 5-6 dancers that approach me regulary because they know that at least I will buy them a drin or 2, plus tip at the stage. THere is this one gal that I met 2 months ago, hot as hell, a 8.75 on my scale, and we have done several CR, lapdances galore, she gives me "extras" here and there (that I never requested, but I would be a moron not to accept), but when she sees me there she attaches herself to me and the 3-4 hours I am there she is there with me, the magic is gone in me torwars her but I am still nice and I listen to her chaotic life (many dancers need a good listener mor than a chatter) I try to help with advise, a little but its mainly "listening and reassuring her". But is not fair that I cannot chat or do stuff with the other dancers there, I mean, GO AWAY!!! gomes to my mind but I don't want to be mean to her, shes a cool woman. How do I tell her without hurting her? The only time I have to myself there is when another customer of hers is there or when one of her regulars (i know who they are) walks in and I tell her "look baby, your regular, don't let me stop you from making money, go check on him." What do I do? I am not attached to anyone there but I enjoy diversity, yet, i do not like to hurt a woman.

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    Some people are gonna come in here trying to flame and all but these situations do happen. Some guys don't really want the "he's MY regular" thing and like to do like you say have 5-6 dancers you like and constantly check out more. To answer your question just gradually interact with her less and less, lil less tipping/dances/conversation, try to be occupied when you see her not occupied with something/somebody. She'll eventually get the message and back off some, well some do some don't. There's a dancer at a club i've been going to for years that i did this like four years ago and still to this day if she has had a lil to much to drink she'll start bringing it up about how i threw her away when i found a new favorite

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    Explain to her gently that a strip club is your candy store and that you are there to sample more than one flavor. Just say im checking out some other dancers tonight. Other than you. Not wasting her time is the kindest thing a custie can do. Let her know you can "chit chat" after shes done making her $ and youve had some fun,lol. Usually its the other way around but sounds like you need to explain to this dancer how a strip club works :0)

    Shell keep coming back around to try to make $$ and further aggrevate you if you arent kinda blunt, its our job,lol.

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    It's a rare dancer that a customer can put up with for months or years on end and a rare customer that a dancer can put up with for the same time frame. As has been discussed here often there is an inherent shelf life for both customers and dancers. Once in a while though dancers and customers find a jewel they want to hang on to for a long time but that is rare.

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    wow you really rate women in .025 steps. wow.

    that being said, if you dont have the balls to say you dont wanna do dances with her, talk, etc. than why not go to another club for a while??
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    Well, I've been on the opposite end. I can tell you that it really made me wake up and realize what I was doing. I was forced to question myself "Why?".......Why am I sitting here droning on and on about my life for hours at a time to this guy, when I should be out on the floor doing dances and making money?
    It made me come the the realization that I was burnt out and ended up taking 4 months off. It was the best thing that could've happened to me. Now I am back, full steam ahead and making better money then I did before.

    Anyway you decide to tell her, just do it. Not only will you be doing yourself a favor but if you really genuinely like her as a person, you'll be doing her a favor too. It sounds like she is miserable at work. You should not be responsible for having to dish out advice to a dancer about her fucked up life.

    BTW the guy that I referred to above came in last week and it was the first time I saw him since I've been back. He said that I "looked happier" and "seemed different". I sat with him for about 20 min, had one drink/ one dance then took off.

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    Chances are there is no way you can tell her without hurting her...or annoying her but that's an occupational hazard.

    She'll get over it, move on, and quite possibly ignore you.

    How much money are you spending on her?
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    I am not sure, about 2k so far maybe?

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    I can see that my post was completely looked over.

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    I tought your post was accurate and interesting Cherry. Thank YOu

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    Quote Originally Posted by shadowfast View Post
    I am not sure, about 2k so far maybe?
    Sorry, I didn't really phrase that properly. How much do you spend per visit? She may be using you to "vent" on but if you spend regularly she is also obviously trying to keep the cash flowing into her garter as much as possible and not the other ladies.

    Again, dumping a dancer or cutting back on what your spending on her happens all the time in clubs. It's your money. You don't owe it to anyone when you walk in the door.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shadowfast View Post
    I go to the club 2-3 times a week during the day, I am picky on my taste for women, 80% of the ladies at this club are 7.5 plus (according to my scale, and I would gladly do anyone that is 6.75 and up). I have 5-6 dancers that approach me regulary because they know that at least I will buy them a drin or 2, plus tip at the stage. THere is this one gal that I met 2 months ago, hot as hell, a 8.75 on my scale, and we have done several CR, lapdances galore, she gives me "extras" here and there (that I never requested, but I would be a moron not to accept), but when she sees me there she attaches herself to me and the 3-4 hours I am there she is there with me, the magic is gone in me torwars her but I am still nice and I listen to her chaotic life (many dancers need a good listener mor than a chatter) I try to help with advise, a little but its mainly "listening and reassuring her". But is not fair that I cannot chat or do stuff with the other dancers there, I mean, GO AWAY!!! gomes to my mind but I don't want to be mean to her, shes a cool woman. How do I tell her without hurting her? The only time I have to myself there is when another customer of hers is there or when one of her regulars (i know who they are) walks in and I tell her "look baby, your regular, don't let me stop you from making money, go check on him." What do I do? I am not attached to anyone there but I enjoy diversity, yet, i do not like to hurt a woman.
    having self respect and not wanting to catch stds from strangers makes you a moron? okkkkk. thank god not all men in this world are like you
    lol seriously though, if she is giving away extras she aint an 8.75

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    From your post, you're clearly "not that tired of her." If you truly were, you would just be up front and honest and tell her. Seriously dude, WTF? I've been told alot worse. How will she know what you really want or expect if you don't tell her. As much as we think we're mind readers, we might miss a few signals here or there. You can't chat it up with her and continue to fuel the conversation, then complain in the next breath that she should have moved on. Oh, please...

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    As of the last 4 weeks i have spent very little on her, I mean i cannot at least buy her a drink but the las month has been of no lapdances. As for the 8.74 my scale applies to looks only, personality ratings are a whole different dimmension. Yesterday I was this close of telling her off, yet again, a dancer or not, she is still a lady and I cannot be rude or disrespectful to a woman, no exceptions. I was raised by my mom and 4 sisters and I have learned that you simply just DO NOT DISRESPECT a woman. Theres this waitress i am fond of, I just enjoy her energy and I can actually have a fun conversation with; at the same club I go, and when the waitress was sitting next to me or just bumped me with her hips, the dancer I speak of in this thread started... "oh so you like her?... and blah blah blah, startes a jealous rant... "you wanna fuck her....oh?" and so on... Was a good oportunity for me to tell her "look baby, I need a timeout from you, go make money plz, I need some air".... when she saw me again 1 hr later leaving she was like... "werent u leaving an hour ago?"... and then she rolled her eyes and walked away... I didnt follow her, hey! it works on my favor... if shes mad thats her problem, plus it free's up time for me for other gals..

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    plus shes got a bad temper... when shes "honest" she does not take rejection too well. I am not afraid, I am just playing the tact game but u right, if I get feed up i migh just tell her

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    Quote Originally Posted by jennahoff View Post
    wow you really rate women in .025 steps. wow.

    that being said, if you dont have the balls to say you dont wanna do dances with her, talk, etc. than why not go to another club for a while??
    Best solution....

    Hard to believe that a person can put together all the 'features' of a particular group of women and rate them that closely. In clubs most all women have some positive features and negatives ones. I have to study each woman and her features for quite a while before I can rate them to any degree. Guess I'm just too analytical to be able to do that. Usually I just rate, if you call it that, them as 'interesting' or not. Makes sense since you choose to spend time/money or not. And sometimes the 'not' ones have something clever or hot to say or do.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shadowfast View Post
    I was raised by my mom and 4 sisters and I have learned that you simply just DO NOT DISRESPECT a woman. Was a good oportunity for me to tell her "look baby,
    wow you really sound so respectful....

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpuff View Post
    wow you really sound so respectful....
    I don't really see anything wrong with what he's saying. He's being as honest as possible. It is how he is. I may not agree with a lots of things customers say but why the attitude? no offense. This is what this forum is here for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shadowfast View Post
    I go to the club 2-3 times a week during the day, I am picky on my taste for women, 80% of the ladies at this club are 7.5 plus (according to my scale, and I would gladly do anyone that is 6.75 and up). I have 5-6 dancers that approach me regulary because they know that at least I will buy them a drin or 2, plus tip at the stage. THere is this one gal that I met 2 months ago, hot as hell, a 8.75 on my scale, and we have done several CR, lapdances galore, she gives me "extras" here and there (that I never requested, but I would be a moron not to accept), but when she sees me there she attaches herself to me and the 3-4 hours I am there she is there with me, the magic is gone in me torwars her but I am still nice and I listen to her chaotic life (many dancers need a good listener mor than a chatter) I try to help with advise, a little but its mainly "listening and reassuring her". But is not fair that I cannot chat or do stuff with the other dancers there, I mean, GO AWAY!!! gomes to my mind but I don't want to be mean to her, shes a cool woman. How do I tell her without hurting her? The only time I have to myself there is when another customer of hers is there or when one of her regulars (i know who they are) walks in and I tell her "look baby, your regular, don't let me stop you from making money, go check on him." What do I do? I am not attached to anyone there but I enjoy diversity, yet, i do not like to hurt a woman.
    Wow are you out of Dallas by any chance??!! LOL!!!!!!!!!
    I know the same chick!!
    Man oh man, what a trip it's been.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lola025 View Post
    I don't really see anything wrong with what he's saying. He's being as honest as possible. It is how he is. I may not agree with a lots of things customers say but why the attitude? no offense. This is what this forum is here for.
    i just find it hypocritical and hilarious how he goes on this huge rant about how his mom taught him to be respectful, then afew lines down he mentions he calls the girls "baby"

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpuff View Post
    i just find it hypocritical and hilarious how he goes on this huge rant about how his mom taught him to be respectful, then afew lines down he mentions he calls the girls "baby"
    But it isn't mommy that teaches you that sometimes a woman doesn't want to be 'respected'.
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    Couldnt it just be that you are used to being disrespected often to the point that you find it impossible that a guy can respect women? Besides, what is wrong with "baby"??? it's not just the word, its the tone you use.

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    calling a woman "baby" is a disrespectful term
    i am not used to being disrespected which is why its so painfully obvious when someone is using a disrespectful term...because it just sounds odd to me.
    ask a hardcore feminist and she can break it down for you better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpuff View Post
    i just find it hypocritical and hilarious how he goes on this huge rant about how his mom taught him to be respectful, then afew lines down he mentions he calls the girls "baby"
    Uh, talk about hypocrisy.

    Yeah, the term "baby" is offensive, but then again, so is the term "girl". We are not talking about girls but about women.
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    Heres what you do....when she comes up to you at the club, starts bla bla'ing your ear off, instead of buying her a drink and a lapdance just tell her you arent looking to spend any money tonight youre just looking to get an easy fuck. Guaranteed she will go away and not come back, AND you wont damage her self-esteem.

    That OR the whore will fuck you. Win/win I say.

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