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    Hi,
    I'm a newbie..danced at 1 club for a couple months in the beginning of 08' and have been dancing 6 weeks now at a different club (was travelling in between; not working).

    From reading these threads, regulars is what I am looking for!
    The sweet guy, who spends generously for your time, gives presents (seems exciting, hasn't happened yet), and doesn't expect extras.


    *How do you find these men?


    I hear the girls talking about their "regulars" all the time. Even at the other club I worked at. is it JUST a matter of time being at one club....or is there something/someone in particular to look for and what do you do when you find them?

    thanks for your insights

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    I started cultivating regulars right away...the trick is to treat them like any other budding relationship by dropping hints about seeing them again and just really treating them like a person, getting to know them instead of simply trying to squeeze as much money out of them as possible upon first meeting. I think guys pick up on that, so I try to back off a little bit and let them come to me. I also remember names and details, so the next time they come in they feel special.

    Usually it's the reg who begins the 'reg' relationship; by asking for your schedule or your cell number so they can come in when you're there again. So if you aren't comfortable giving out your number, buy a cheap pre-paid phone or something that is ONLY for SC custies. I haven't tried creating another email address for regs, but a few people here have suggested that as well.

    Text messaging my regs is what has helped me tremendously!! Just a casual "hey baby what's up, I'm working tonight, wanna come see me?" works wonders. Ha!

    Just look for that guy who is smitten with you. He'll be easy to spot due to the $$$ he spends and the interest he shows in seeing you again and again and again....

    The only bad thing about regulars is most of them seem to think that eventually, you guys are going to meet OTC on a date or something. It's hard to play the balance game sometimes by making it a little more personal with OTC communication via the phone, yet still keeping them at a distance and making sure they know they can ONLY see you at work.

    Sometimes regs will keep you afloat if it's a slow night, other times they are just freakin' needy and annoying.

    That's been my experience so far, anyway. Good luck

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    thanks for the tips, they're all really good:-) I hope I get some regs!

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    Male perspective... I am a regular sort of with one dancer in that I'm a repeat customer.

    There are bad regulars and good regulars. You want a guy that doesn't want your number, doesn't want extras, and follows the rules. The guy that just goes to SC to relax who respects all the dancers (tips) and spends some money. Also that isn't clingy and sucking up all your time.

    Here are some traits to look for:
    1) Single, not in a relationship ( presently )
    2) Goes to SC alone or with one friend
    3) Isn't getting wasted
    4) Polite
    5) well dressed but not over dressed
    6) over 25 but under 45
    7) has a good job, clean cut...

    Hopefully he is not ugly, but he probably won't be the hot guy in the room.

    Here is how to get him:
    1) No BS. I'm talking about asking him to buy you drinks or food right away ( that's later ). Don't overcharge.
    2) Don't ask for VIP right away, get him to buy a couple LDs first
    3) Don't ask for a tip. That's such a turn-off. If he is a guy you want, he will tip. I tip more if they don't ask.
    4) Sit with him for a few before bringing up the LD.
    5) Be flirty (not naughty)... just light touching will form some intimacy. It's a fantasy. We (most of us) know that it isn't real.
    6) Probably will prefer sensual but enthusiastic LDs instead of "cut you in two" grinding
    7) After the LD (assuming he behaved) give him a little hug or a peck on the cheek. I'm a sucker for that.

    After he has bought a VIP or couple LDs... leave him alone unless he asks you to sit for a little more. He probably won't.

    Anyway hope that helps.
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    Quote Originally Posted by seeker80 View Post
    Male perspective... I am a regular sort of with one dancer in that I'm a repeat customer.

    There are bad regulars and good regulars. You want a guy that doesn't want your number, doesn't want extras, and follows the rules. The guy that just goes to SC to relax who respects all the dancers (tips) and spends some money. Also that isn't clingy and sucking up all your time.

    Here are some traits to look for:
    1) Single, not in a relationship ( presently )
    2) Goes to SC alone or with one friend
    3) Isn't getting wasted
    4) Polite
    5) well dressed but not over dressed
    6) over 25 but under 45
    7) has a good job, clean cut...

    Hopefully he is not ugly, but he probably won't be the hot guy in the room.

    Here is how to get him:
    1) No BS. I'm talking about asking him to buy you drinks or food right away ( that's later ). Don't overcharge.
    2) Don't ask for VIP right away, get him to buy a couple LDs first
    3) Don't ask for a tip. That's such a turn-off. If he is a guy you want, he will tip. I tip more if they don't ask.
    4) Sit with him for a few before bringing up the LD.
    5) Be flirty (not naughty)... just light touching will form some intimacy. It's a fantasy. We (most of us) know that it isn't real.
    6) Probably will prefer sensual but enthusiastic LDs instead of "cut you in two" grinding
    7) After the LD (assuming he behaved) give him a little hug or a peck on the cheek. I'm a sucker for that.

    After he has bought a VIP or couple LDs... leave him alone unless he asks you to sit for a little more. He probably won't.

    Anyway hope that helps.
    Why do you think age determines a good regular? Also, why do you think a good, non-clingy regular would necessarily be single?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Otoki View Post
    Why do you think age determines a good regular? Also, why do you think a good, non-clingy regular would necessarily be single?
    After I wrote that I changed my mind on the upper age limit. Certainly an older guy could be a good regular.

    The lower limit I just determined from experience. I know what being a guy under 25 is like socially and mentally and I think there are number of factors that would prevent them from being a "good" regular. Emotional immaturity, tendency to get drunk, obsessing, arrogance, not yet financially stable etc. I'm still under 30 so I'm denigrating myself here too a bit

    As far as being single... I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a married guy going to clubs.

    But on a regular basis, attached to one dancer all the time? That just seems... like a potentially bad situation for both parties.

    Certainly you'd have to watch out for single guys that could get clingy. But they are also free to come more often, and if they don't have a family to support, are free to spend more money on you without impacting others financially.

    Just some opinions, sorry if I am lurking a little too much on the pink side.

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    I know I'm a guy, please don't give me a spanking,.........

    seeker80.....guys are not allowed to post in this section unless you are industry or it is pertinent to the discussion. What advice you or I could give on this subject only applies to ourselves and since you or I don't have to get 'regulars', any advice we give is going to be worthless.
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    Having a customer turn into a regular isn't something you will be able to force happen. You should treat every one who comes into the club the same. Kill them with personal attention and focus on their little details. Remembering a customer's name, a little story they have, or something they wore on a previous visit will make them feel like they are special. And they all are to some degree as the more personal attention you can provide each one, the more comfortable they will be spending money on you. So remember some facet of a customer, no matter how small it is. It's personal to them and they'll think there was something special about themselves that they stood out from the crowd to you. Use this basic human trait to your advantage, it pays off.

    Like all customers on initial meetings, show small signs of intimacy with them; such as touching their arm or leg, sitting on their lap (if allowed in the club) or sitting down for a drink with them (in moderation). Focus the conversation on them, turning it back to them when the focus comes onto you. The more people talk about themselves to someone, the more they feel a bond to that person. It should be your priority to quickly build these types of bonds with customers, and to remember some of the important details. This is called building rapport, and you need to be doing it with every customer you can.

    On a customer's second and third visits with you, you should have built quite a sufficient amount of trust with them, and you can test the waters with asking to get private dances on a much longer and/or frequent basis. When you are met with Zero objections, you likely have yourself a new "regular." It's not difficult to cultivate regulars, but it does take a certain amount of skill and grace to gain their initial trust to build those bonds. With practice, you should be able to sweet talk most guys into buying a few dances from you during the night. Make the most of this time spent with them! Every minute you spend with them taking their money, make them feel like they are the most important person in the room. They won't forget their experience and in a way it can be addictive to them.

    Good luck hun and go make some new regs!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ann0707 View Post
    Hi,
    I'm a newbie..danced at 1 club for a couple months in the beginning of 08' and have been dancing 6 weeks now at a different club (was travelling in between; not working).

    From reading these threads, regulars is what I am looking for!
    The sweet guy, who spends generously for your time, gives presents (seems exciting, hasn't happened yet), and doesn't expect extras.


    *How do you find these men?


    I hear the girls talking about their "regulars" all the time. Even at the other club I worked at. is it JUST a matter of time being at one club....or is there something/someone in particular to look for and what do you do when you find them?

    thanks for your insights
    a lot of times regulars are not worth it. they tend to get obssessed with you and a lot of girls lie and feed their crush for them which just ends up hurting the two of you. i personally cant lie to men like that so any regulars i do have tend to be short term since i make it clear i have no intention to ever see them outside the club. but basically if a guy is polite, spendy, and shows interest in your dances or asks what your schedule is, you should give him your email or myspace to keep him posted on when you will be at work. if he likes you he will show up just to see you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by glambman View Post
    I know I'm a guy, please don't give me a spanking,.........

    seeker80.....guys are not allowed to post in this section unless you are industry or it is pertinent to the discussion. What advice you or I could give on this subject only applies to ourselves and since you or I don't have to get 'regulars', any advice we give is going to be worthless.
    Whoops, I didn't even notice what board this was. Thanks for being on it, glambman.

    As for regulars, some girls find them awesome and worthwhile. Certainly, if you get the ones who don't play games and simply appreciate you as a person, they're great. However, I am leery of regs because eventually you might start depending on them too much for your income. I don't know how to describe my gut feelings, but the SW mantra is: every regular has an expiration date.

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