sygsyg, I know you feel wronged but you're only taking an egocentric view of the situation. Whether she believed you said "Fuck you" or not, you've already conceded you said "Fuck" which is impolite whether it's followed by the word "you" or not. Now consider the fact waitresses deal with high number of rude, cheap douchebags every night. You may not have committed a serious offense but you very well could have been the straw that broke the camel's back.
As far as bouncers go, you know they're going to side with their coworkers nine times out of ten. Firstly, there's a good chance they could be friends. Even if they're not, they need to be conscious of maintaining a good working relationship. Secondly, bouncers know that the waitresses deal with a lot of problem customers and are more willing to take the word of a waitress they know than a customer they don't. But more importantly, waitresses likely tip bouncers at the end of the night. It's not like the average bouncer gets paid handsomely so he's going to protect his own self serving interests.
I know you were annoyed with the waitress harassing you for drinks even though you hadn't finished your first. I'm sure I can safely say all of us custies have been there. But it's her job to sell as many drinks as possible for the club. A lot of clubs have rules such as the half-drink rule where a waitress must approach a patron about another drink if he has half or less than half a drink left. Other clubs have a one drink every 30 mins average rule. I don't know what others think but not being able to finish your first drink 45+ mins (I assumed time had past since you first entered the club to when you had contact with your ATF hence 45+ mins) after entering the club is a little on the unreasonable side IMO.
One way to get around this hassle is to spend money. Spend money on the girls in regular intervals whether it be buying drinks, getting dances or tipping stages. And by all means, be a generous tipper when tipping your waitress. If a waitress recognizes you as a generous tipper and spender, you'll get A LOT more leeway than the next guy. Again, I'm making assumptions here but it doesn't sound like you were spending any money during that 45+ minute time frame. Whether you knew it or not, you were probably identified as being cheap and neither the waitress or bouncer (as extensions of the club) had an incentive to keep you there since you weren't spending money anyway. I know it was your intention to spend money on your ATF but actions speak louder than words and perception is reality.
There is nothing to gain by confronting the bouncer and/or waitress. You'll be banned from the club and forgotten a day or two later. There's no way you come out on top at the end of the day. Your best course of action is to apologize to the bouncer AND waitress for the misunderstanding. It's important that you do this if you want to continue to patronize the club in comfort without having to look over your shoulder and having to deal with their eyes on you. Even if you could care less, I never think it's a good idea to burn your bridges. Remember that the club can and will continue to exist without your business so it's on you to suck up your pride in this instance.



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If a boss did that at work I'd probably cry then. I don't get thrown out, and I certainly don't get thrown out for something I didn't do.
I go there the past half-decade and suddenly those ass clowns think I'm a troublemaker? I've been there longer than those fuckers!
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