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    My club is doing really really bad lately and so I'm wanting to try and earn more tips in general, especially for chatty customers who want to interview me or whatever the fuck their motive is. I always get complimented on my conversation skills, but I've only ever had a handful of guys understand that it's appropriate to freakin' tip me! It's just that I'm a day shift girl and it can be sooo slow that I'll bare through a chatty customer for an hour just because there's no one there, and even though I may be enlightened in the ways of a strip club jedi master I still have no tip.

    So how do I ask for more tips from these guys who just wanna talk my ear off? Or maybe I should just be completely up front about it? I love being blunt about things but when the club is so slow I worry about that type of hustle actually working. Maybe some cute one-liners that get the point across in a non-offensive way?

    One time I got so frustrated that I told a guy I was starving and unless you feed the hungry stripper I'm leaving. (I was seeing food instead of dollar signs lol) He refused to tip me lol Kinda fucked up because it was the truth! I had no food in the fridge and was ravenous. I should have just BBQ'd the customer right then and there!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Electrum View Post
    My club is doing really really bad lately and so I'm wanting to try and earn more tips in general, especially for chatty customers who want to interview me or whatever the fuck their motive is. I always get complimented on my conversation skills, but I've only ever had a handful of guys understand that it's appropriate to freakin' tip me! It's just that I'm a day shift girl and it can be sooo slow that I'll bare through a chatty customer for an hour just because there's no one there, and even though I may be enlightened in the ways of a strip club jedi master I still have no tip.

    So how do I ask for more tips from these guys who just wanna talk my ear off? Or maybe I should just be completely up front about it? I love being blunt about things but when the club is so slow I worry about that type of hustle actually working. Maybe some cute one-liners that get the point across in a non-offensive way?

    One time I got so frustrated that I told a guy I was starving and unless you feed the hungry stripper I'm leaving. (I was seeing food instead of dollar signs lol) He refused to tip me lol Kinda fucked up because it was the truth! I had no food in the fridge and was ravenous. I should have just BBQ'd the customer right then and there!
    If they say no to a dance, I'll ask if they'd like to pay me for my time so I can keep chatting with them. Sometimes they say yes, sometimes they don't.

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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    I usually say something like "Hey I've really enjoyed chatting with you. Are you ready for a dance?"
    If they say no, I say "Really? (look of disbelief) You don't want one? I thought we were having a good time!"
    Then if they still say no, or give an excuse that is difficult to counter, I'll say, "Well hopefully I see you up at the stage, I should be up there in XX minutes." Say this as you are getting up slowly...its a less rude way of excusing yourself and implies that you are looking forward to spending more time with them.
    As a rule, I try not to spend more than 5 minutes chatting with someone who is not actively tipping me for my time.

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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    I totally agree. But I have a problem just getting up from the customer without tipping me. It is a crock of shit that they want to talk your ear off but no tip. ASSWIPES!!!

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    On Tuesday I sat down by this dude that totally didnt seem like he wanted to talk to me at first lol....but i stayed anyway. he ended up tipping me $500....just for sitting there. WOOHOO!!!
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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    ^ Well, I've never received tips like THAT ( lucky!) , but I did become somewhat skilled at the "sitting on my ass" hustle. I would just chat for 5-10 min. or so and if they didn't want a dance I'd say " I'm having fun just visiting with you. Would you be open to tipping me for my time so that I can stay here and hang out with you?". It doesn't work all the time, but it will work on some people and it's better than nothing for sure.
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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    It's been difficult everywhere. I've never been much of a talker. If he isn't spending something within 10-30 min (depending on how busy we are), I'm usually gone. I wish I had a tip for you.

    You're starving line was really funny, even if it was true. I can't believe he didn't give you SOMETHING. Some guys can be so pathetic. He probably buys his wife jewelry from Wal-mart just so he doesn't have to spend a lot.

    (Not that Wal-mart is bad, but if you can afford better quality for a loved one, you should)

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    ^ Well, I've never received tips like THAT ( lucky!) , but I did become somewhat skilled at the "sitting on my ass" hustle. I would just chat for 5-10 min. or so and if they didn't want a dance I'd say " I'm having fun just visiting with you. Would you be open to tipping me for my time so that I can stay here and hang out with you?". It doesn't work all the time, but it will work on some people and it's better than nothing for sure.
    I just thought of one more thing that *sometimes* works. After you have asked this question and they say no to tipping you for your time, politely point out that you get paid in tips only. Some customers really don't know this, some just need to be reminded. For example: "Really? Just so you know, I am paid in tips only, not an hourly wage. I really appreciate when I am tipped for my time." The delivery of this is important so as not to sound like a total bitch. If they still say no, look them right in the eye and say "Ouch, that hurt." Then excuse yourself and move on.

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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    How much of a tip should you ask for if you are just giving them your time?

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    Default Re: Asking for more tips when it's slooow

    i really like the idea of,
    would you like a dance? no?
    would you like to tip me, so i can stay here and talk?

    that way it seems like it's not you , it's management.
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    Thank you all so much for the tips! I'm going to try some of these as soon as I get back to work. Haven't been there in about a week because it's been soooo slow I'm actually loosing money. Maybe it's just xmas in MI and everyone is a Scrooge with their money... err... wait... what's money?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annie108 View Post
    How much of a tip should you ask for if you are just giving them your time?
    I'd say 1/2 of the hourly VIP price. So if your club charges 600 for a VIP, of which you get 400, I would say it's fair to ask for 200-300/hr for sitting and chatting. If you think you could get 400, great, but you have a better chance of charging slightly lower than that. If they're willing to pay for VIP, then it's your call.

    My club just has a flat rate of 250/hr or 20/dance, with no private rooms, and girls can negotiate lower hourly prices if they wished to (but not lower dance prices).

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    If I waste time talking to a guy who doesn't want a dance, I'll straight up ask for a tip... There's no method, just, when they don't want a dance I smile and say "How bout a tip?" Usually they give me one.

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    Asking for money is asking for money. You just have to suck it up and do it. If a guy is not looking to spend he'll tell you and won't tip you, no matter how nice you are.

    I try to be conscious not to conversate to long because the cheapos out there love to take advantage. I've had guys say that I should be tipping them for their time. As if... That, however, will never deter me from asking. They can only say "no" and, so what if they do. Someone will eventually say yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BeBe View Post
    Asking for money is asking for money. You just have to suck it up and do it. If a guy is not looking to spend he'll tell you and won't tip you, no matter how nice you are.

    I try to be conscious not to conversate to long because the cheapos out there love to take advantage. I've had guys say that I should be tipping them for their time. As if... That, however, will never deter me from asking. They can only say "no" and, so what if they do. Someone will eventually say yes.
    So you just up and ask...

    I still haven't mustered up the courage to up and ask for tips during conversation..

    Ok, how do you ladies handle this: I've had guys think they were doing something nice by saying, "Here's something for you sticking around and talking with me" and handing me $2-5. Now, personally I'd rather receive nothing than this shitty amount, but I still take it and smile..how can I ummm let them know that I appreciate the tip, but that it's to small??







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    There is nothing wrong with asking for tips if it is done tastefully. I will say something like "if you had a great time in my company, please tip accordingly", give them a huge smile and hold out my garter. I'll admit, I don't ask for tips regularly, but if I do, that is one way I will ask (I wear garters; sometimes I get guys asking what the garter is for, which is basically an invite to ask for a tip). Heck, this is the UK and it won't always work, but getting something is better than nothing. But don't sit for ages and then expect a large tip, this is why it is better to only sit for a small time so that any tip you get won't be hugely disproportionate (on the low end of course) to the time spent with him. I would also advise against pushing relentlessly if he doesn't want to dip back into his pocket.

    What makes me cringe if this is done in poor taste, which I have witnessed on so many occasions. I remember once doing this VIP where this guy paid me and another girl £600 per hour each for 2 hours. At the end she asked him for tips, which he gave us then she complained it wasn't enough TO HIS FACE! Talk about a lack of tact, I was absolutely mortified!!! He was really disgusted and I had to apologise on her behalf. When you have (had) a well spending customer, tread this line very carefully. It might just cost you in the future and you don't ever want to seem ungrateful.

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    I have found that asking for tips to lower to middle income customers will usually yield a modest tip and MAY not hurt the possibility of him getting a dance from you the next time he comes in.

    However, if you work at an upscale club in a major metropolitan area, and you ASK a well heeled businessman for a tip, you MAY get a single tip that night, but it's more than likely you made your way onto his Never Talk to Her Again List. I have seen scores of newbies loose high rollers because they are trying to nickel and dime him.

    Personally, I don't ask for tips. I think it's tacky. If anyone ever directly asked me for a tip I 1. would probably ask how they earned it and 2. would NEVER use their services again.
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    I really think you just have to assess every situation individually...... there is no right or wrong way to ask, it just depends on the customer and the rapport you have built with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    I have found that asking for tips to lower to middle income customers will usually yield a modest tip and MAY not hurt the possibility of him getting a dance from you the next time he comes in.

    However, if you work at an upscale club in a major metropolitan area, and you ASK a well heeled businessman for a tip, you MAY get a single tip that night, but it's more than likely you made your way onto his Never Talk to Her Again List. I have seen scores of newbies loose high rollers because they are trying to nickel and dime him.

    Personally, I don't ask for tips. I think it's tacky. If anyone ever directly asked me for a tip I 1. would probably ask how they earned it and 2. would NEVER use their services again.
    I think it's important to distinguish the types of tips in these situations:
    Saying "the dance cost $20, but tips are also greatly appreciated" is one thing.

    Asking if a guy would like to tip you so you can sit and hang out with him also has different implications than simply asking for a tip because a guy doesn't want a dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Electrum View Post
    My club is doing really really bad lately and so I'm wanting to try and earn more tips in general, especially for chatty customers who want to interview me or whatever the fuck their motive is. I always get complimented on my conversation skills, but I've only ever had a handful of guys understand that it's appropriate to freakin' tip me! It's just that I'm a day shift girl and it can be sooo slow that I'll bare through a chatty customer for an hour just because there's no one there, and even though I may be enlightened in the ways of a strip club jedi master I still have no tip.

    So how do I ask for more tips from these guys who just wanna talk my ear off? Or maybe I should just be completely up front about it? I love being blunt about things but when the club is so slow I worry about that type of hustle actually working. Maybe some cute one-liners that get the point across in a non-offensive way?

    One time I got so frustrated that I told a guy I was starving and unless you feed the hungry stripper I'm leaving. (I was seeing food instead of dollar signs lol) He refused to tip me lol Kinda fucked up because it was the truth! I had no food in the fridge and was ravenous. I should have just BBQ'd the customer right then and there!
    When you get these chatty kathys who want your life story dont indulge them immediately. just smile sexy and reccommend that we sit down and order some drinks or a bottle ( i get commission) if they are that interested in me. Say something spunky like if you wanna get know me better lets get a bottle and talk, or you can take me upstairs and we cant talk there. If they say NO, just keep a sexy attitude and say something like "i guess ill stay a mystery to you then" then wink ,and walk the fuck away.

    If you want to be compensated for your time you have to enforce that your time is valuable and not give it away for free. I am not afraid to walk away from a non-spender and save my energy for custies that are really into me and willing to do dances/tip. I make more for less this way, and even if i have a bad night, i havent given alot of my effort away for free.

    I WILL NOT tell my "story" or play "ask a stripper"to 10 guys a night, it wears me out. so i keep it mysterious unless they are gonna compensate me some how.

    I dont how ever reccommend plopping down next to a guy that may not be into you and then saying pay me for my time. He may not want your time so figure that out first,LOL.

    Dont beg for tips. Just take a break , and wait for more men they will come. If not it may be time for a club switch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cadencetyme View Post
    When you get these chatty kathys who want your life story dont indulge them immediately. just smile sexy and reccommend that we sit down and order some drinks or a bottle ( i get commission) if they are that interested in me. Say something spunky like if you wanna get know me better lets get a bottle and talk, or you can take me upstairs and we cant talk there. If they say NO, just keep a sexy attitude and say something like "i guess ill stay a mystery to you then" then wink ,and walk the fuck away.
    I like this idea. It won't work all the time, but it seems like a great thing to say if you get the "chat only" vibe from guys.

    I get no commissions from drinks, but this could be useful in some situations.

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    While I understand Britney's and Bunny's feeling uncomfortable asking for tips, here in America, we live in a very tip oriented society. In a country,where wait staff often make something like 2.00 an hour, it is expected that the bulk of their wage is made up by tips. Having been a waitress, I know that the people we serve don't always leave 15% even for top notch service. Some leave 10% or less; some leave nothing at all. People really need to be educated about who is supposed to be tipped and what amount.

    Now, I know a lot of dancers don't get paid to dance. In fact,as we all know,dancers essentially pay to dance. So tipping is important. Now I think there are ways to ask for a tip with tact or without tact. Or you don't even have to ASK for a tip. For example,if your potential custy does not want a dance but seems like he wants to hang out, you can say "Sometimes if a gentleman does not care for a dance but wants to spend time with me,he can buy me a drink and/or tip me for my time!" As it has been stated before in other threads, many customers have no idea that dancers aren't being paid to dance. If he does not seem amenable to tipping you, you don't need to hassle him. In fact,if he doesn't take the HINT,you are simply wasting more of your time. I hope I'm not being MASTER OF THE OBVIOUS here. Cheers, Harlow

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    I have found that asking for tips to lower to middle income customers will usually yield a modest tip and MAY not hurt the possibility of him getting a dance from you the next time he comes in.

    However, if you work at an upscale club in a major metropolitan area, and you ASK a well heeled businessman for a tip, you MAY get a single tip that night, but it's more than likely you made your way onto his Never Talk to Her Again List. I have seen scores of newbies loose high rollers because they are trying to nickel and dime him.

    Personally, I don't ask for tips. I think it's tacky. If anyone ever directly asked me for a tip I 1. would probably ask how they earned it and 2. would NEVER use their services again.
    There is a difference between asking for a tip and asking to be compensated for your time. I never ask for tips after doing lapdances or VIPS either, but if a guy just wants hang out and chat then I will give him the option of buying a block of my time (I name the price or we negotiate). I dont see anything wrong with that.
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    @carmen_b that is a good approach because I can at least hear the custy saying 'why don't we just do a dance instead?'

    Let them know your time is not free.




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