I work at a bank & long story short, I think my supervisors know I dance. Can I get fired for this?

I work at a bank & long story short, I think my supervisors know I dance. Can I get fired for this?




No, what you do in your spare time as long as it's not a criminal act is not any of the bank's business! Now, that's not to say that they won't fire you for it, and blame it on something irrelevant... People don't run into a lot of SW ladies to see that not all strippers are ding bat trash whores, so they may judge you in that sense assuming you can't be trusted around money, even if you have already proved to them you can. I hate that they found out, and maybe you just need to deny those rumors.
deny if you are ever confronted with it. They might not fire you on the basis of being a stripper alone, but if they find out about it they might nit pick and find another way to fire you. Some people have their stripper stereotypes and don't want their employees giving their a company/business a "bad image"





while not true in all cases, businesses that deal with other people's bodies, other people's children, other people's money etc. usually take a rather dim view of 'strippers'.





Some employers/companies have a decency clause. Depending on what it states, they could terminate your employment for certain things. I can't imagine a bank would have one, it's mostly for jobs like Melonie listed, but it is possible.
I worked for B of A when I first started dancing and never had any problems. I did let my direct managers know what I did. I ran into a few guys at the club, but they were all cool about it.



YES you could be fired...
I work have worked for a bank for the past 7 years and I would suggest familiarizing yourself with your company's code of ethics or decency policy because every company is different. Of course it may sound like getting fired from the bank because of also being a stripper sounds (and IS) discriminatory , but 'the bank' could justify it if with a number of bullshit reasons like 'protecting company reputation' or even 'preventing office distraction'. but also know that you could be let go just for having another side job such a part time cashier if they feel like you arent making your primary job top priority or poor work quality due to or caused by distraction, stress, long hrs from a second job.
I would say that if you handle customer account or work directly with the public, you would have a greater chance of getting fired. I work 2nd shift in processing and do not deal with customers or the public, but I did work with a girl who got fired from the bank because she was cocktailing at a SC...
Know your company policies and keep your dancing job to yourself, and i would not admit or tell anyone anything unless confronted by head or main boss (dont say anything to immediate coordinators or lower-tier management!!!!!NO MATTER HOW THEY COME TO YOU ABOUT IT!!)
ALSO, keep track of what is said to you and how you are treated by your superiors if your dancing career is brought up and know that you always deserve to be treated professionally and with respect and if you feel like that has been violated then do not be afraid to LAWYER UP!!!
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!
HOPE THIS HELPS!!
Last edited by missmays1983; 12-21-2008 at 01:33 PM.

This is gonna happen to me soon! I can feel it. I work at a very small, local, community bank & I was eavesdropping on the customer service reps & they were talking about how a member had all these charges for champagne rooms & funny money & they said the name of the club I dance at. Oh boy![]()



soxysassy,
i really think that you will find it interesting and useful to know also that those customer service reps you mentioned that were discussing the customer with the SC charges to his account could be fired for even talking about that- that for sure is a violation of 'code of ethics'...that is a HUGE no-no to discuss how much and where a client spends their money...but back to dancing, have you thought about calling your HR department (maybe even anonomously) to find out or contacting a lawyer?
i've been trying to find out everything i can about this as i am looking to start dancing soon part-time...and soon as i find out anything i will definitely let you know, and keep me posted as well.
best of luck




yes, and i have worked there for 7 years...i don't wanna lose it because i've worked there since i was 18 and have great benefits and 401(k) which is why your post really caught my eye..as i am wanting to start dancing on the wkends...



by the way, what is 'funny money'....

Wow 7 years? Congrats! I really do enjoy working at my bank. It's been almost 2 years for me
Funny money is like "fake" money. If the custie doesn't want to use their credit card in the ATM, the club can charge their card for whatever amount the custie wants & the club gives them like monopoly like money to spend & the girls can cash it out at the end of the night. Girls, did I explain this right?



how long have you been dancing soxy?
im still in my 'research phase', havent started dancing but i am hell-bent on it!! aiming to start round end of january or mid february...



and thanks for the congrats and i am glad to hear that you enjoy your bank job as well btw...having a job that one enjoys is a luxury not many people are afforded...=D



It depends on your employment. Most states are "at-will states," meaning you can be fired at anytime for anything unless it violates a public policy law -- ie., discrimination based upon age, sex, religion, race, religion ect.
If you work for a company with an Employee Manual - read it and see what it says about termination. The company is bound by its policies in its manual. So you would have recourse in that regard.
If you have questions about it, spend the money and get an opinion from a local employment attorney and have them review the Employee Handbook.
Michael
www.AdultBizLaw.com



^^^good point about the 'at-will' or 'right to work' states...

Soxy:
do they know you work there or were they just making fun of the guy for his charges? To be honest, I don't think its appropriate for them to be laughing about or discussing a members private banking information, even amongst themselves. I do webcam part time and get direct deposits from that company, I would raise a living hell with the bank if I overheard somebody doing that in regards to my account....
As everybody said, some companies do have decency clauses, some do not. Believe it or not when I worked at hooters (for like 2 weeks lol) I found out they had a decency clause that stated you couldn't be a stripper and also work at Hooters...ah, the irony.
It's a tricky thing because they could always fire you for something unrelated (being late, letting you go bc of budget cuts, whatever)....but it sounds like they don't have any direct evidence you dance right? Just that they were making fun of the guy for having the funny money charges?
I believe this to be accurate. Even if you do not lose your job, you do not want to be the person that everyone judges or gossips about, it can make your life a misery. It depends on your stance, but some may argue that being alienated in your workplace is worse than having no job at all.
I believe to be full of a lot of sound advice. I know there are people on this board who are very open about what they do, and that is a very good thing. But it depends a lot on your circumstances. Sometimes you just have to be secretive for an easy life. Even if there is someone at your work who says they don't mind strippers, they may not like the idea of one working for/with them. That's real life.
Some professions will state conditions along the lines of not engaging in activities that bring your name or that of the profession into disrepute, or undermine public trust. Some list particular examples (e.g. not paying taxes), but rarely will they state "no stripping".
Stripping is a legal occupation, but make sure you keep everything you do as a stripper all above board (e.g. pay your taxes) and keep it separate from banking. If your day job does take steps to fire you, seek legal advice. If you contest the sacking, you want to seem professional, both in your stripping job and in your day job.



proffesionalism and appriopriate personal conduct are PARAMOUNT!!!
THIS GOES FOR ANY JOB OF ANY FEILD!!!
here are tips or things to consider (yes they may seem like big 'duh' examples or like common sense...just saying...)
1) using one job to advertise for the other....just easier to keep it seperate...regardless of what the jobs are, dancing or no dancing...
2) doing drugs...just because the office jobs hasn't given a random drug test other than the one given at time of application or hire, doesn't mean that they won't or can't...if you want to keep a job then be able to pass a drug test plain and simple...
3) do your job, whatever it may be to the best of your ability and have a good work ethic meaning take pride in your job whether you like it or not, or regardless of how long you intend to stay at that job. be dependable and on time, follow the dress code, etc.
4) stay out of the gossip...gossip cycles round and round the workplace, regardless the type of job...dont make it easy for someone to twist or take what you have said out of context...be courteous, but not a doormat...be able to say no. drama is drama is drama...stay far away from anyone or anything that comes with drama...
5) know the 'chain of command', regardless of the job. if there is a problem in a workplace, there are appropriate channels to go through, and going against this can actually hurt someone who is in the right, even if just a little....'chain of command' regards the different levels of management...know what level to go to with what problem...by this i mean
-if i notice things on my desk are missing, that should be reported to immediate supervisors or co-ordinator first (lower-tier management)
-i am sexually harassed or intimidated at work...im going to to my head boss of my particular department.
know where to take which problem or concern, and then go higher if needed...and you always have the right to get a second opinion if you feel your concerns or problems have not been resovled or you have been treated unfairly...
if you are unsure of the chain of command,code of conduct, or any of your employers policies, refer to any handbook or employee materials given to you...this information shouldnt be hard to come by as it is information usually required by law that you are provided with by your employer...
6) RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!!!....the best thing you can do for yourself is inform yourself and do your homework...the more research you do, the better the decision you can make and the harder it is for you to be taken advantage of or misled...a little bit of diggin' can really make a difference in the outcome of almost any situation.
7) hold tight to your class and diginity...if you arent trash, dont act like trash...if someone has a negative oppinion of you for no reason or bullshit reasons (such a being a dancer) that just shows what an imbecile they are and unfortunately even the classiest, smartest people still get judged...but dont make it easy for people to talk shit or judge by having a shitty attitude or neglecting the appropriate behavior when it is called for.
anyone else please feel free to add....
Last edited by missmays1983; 12-28-2008 at 05:12 PM.

They don't have evidence I dance but I remember this 1 day, being the dummy I am, I went to SW on my work computer & the next day, there was a meeting about how supervisors can see what websites you're visiting & 1 of the supervisors who is around my age & I'm really cool with came to me privately & was like "I just wanted to let you know, we can see everything you're doing & I mean everything..." I'm pretty sure he was hinting at something haha



^^^you might be ok then...just watch where you go on the internet at work...we have meetings about that all the time...i dont even use the internet at work on my work computer.




Not true! I think it depends on what position you hold. I work with a Bank Manager who had to okay it all with her corporation headquarters that she hosts my pole dancing parties for Pole Champ Inc. I think that was because she is in management, but she still had to ok it and was worried they would say no. If they had found out without her mentioning it, she would have been fired.
I pretty much agree with what MissMays' and PornLaw stated. Review your Handbook, review your contract (if any), keep your personal life personal, and do your job.
But above all, make sure that you are a good employee -- the employer is making lots of money from your work. If you bring in a boat-load of money, they'll bend over backwards for you to retain you. If you are costing them a lot of money (be it you are not a productive employee or that your moonlighting is causing problems with other workers or customers), they'll bend over backwards to get rid off you. And unless the HR people or your supervisor are really dumb, they'll find a defensible way of getting rid off you.
As far as seeing a lawyer, yeah it might be helpful, but it might not be worth your money. Although I generally think that money spend on prevention is better than spending on a fix later on, your case is relatively straight forward. Read you handbook and don't do anything stupid to get fired.
One more thing: besides keeping your moonlighting at a SC private for privacy sake, you may also want to keep it private due to another reason: a lot of companies are afraid of hostile environment lawsuits. If a "jerk" co-worker finds out about your dancing, and starts yakking about it, or flirting with you, or starts to discuss your dancing work openly with you, he may cause a hostile environment, based on which a female co-worker may feel uneasy; if something happens to her, she'd later probably go after the company with a hostile workplace suit. Thus, in order to prevent such suits, some companies go overboard with trying to squash anything that even remotely could be interpreted as causing a hostile environment, and wont hesitate to fire anyone in such pursuit. Not that I think that this is a good reason to get rid off you, but it may happen.
Finally, what state do you work in?



Deny, deny. If they did fire you I'd agree they would chalk it up to some other petty excuse, other than the fact that your a dancer, but if you could prove that you were fired based on the mere fact that your a dancer that's discrimination and a lawsuit. Document any small injustices /problems that you encounter in case.
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