Well I wouldn't really call them "love" issues...It's more a rant/reflection and I was wondering if anyone else feels the same way.
I have this issue...I'm not into commitment at all. In fact, I dislike it. Yeah yeah, I get the point of it and the importance, but I just don't want it. I'm just not wired that way. But I keep meeting people I'm interested in and are interested in me. When this happens, I usually have sex with them and it creates a problem.
I'm really honest. I always tell them that I don't want commitment, or that I do care about them and I'd rather keep things the way they are, but people honestly can't seem to get the fact that you can care about someone and NOT be in a relationship, or want one. I get that the way I feel about these things isn't how most people feel, and it can be hurtful to people but I honestly don't mean to hurt anyone. And I've tried being in relationships with people I did care about and it ended terribly because I never wanted the commitment in the first place...I was just doing it to make them happy, but I totally wasn't.
People connect all of these things to love that I honestly do not, so it makes it difficult. And then they get angry with me when I won't "show" them I love them by committing, and commitment does not equal love/caring to me. I'm at a lost for what to do...my only options seem to be to live a celibate lifestyle or act like I don't give a shit about people, which isn't true. There's always a possibility of change but I've always thought and felt this way, so I doubt it. It's really annoying when people tell me I'll change my mind, like being obsessed with commitment is normal versus being apathetic to it. Anyways...



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