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    Default SO UPSET and DISGUSTED!!! <long>

    Okay I need to vent or I. am. going. to. lose. my. mind!!!

    I have this ex who I have been on and off with since high school, so almost four years now. He and I had a really intense relationship and went through ALOT together. When we first got together, he was a football player, got okay grades, had nice friends and was built and cute, not to mention he treated me like a princess. Well his best friend died in Iraq two years ago and ever since then, he and his other best friend who is still alive took a turn for the worse - unbeknownst to me, they started doing drugs, all sorts, all at once, on these huge binges. I don't even smoke cigarettes so silly me was stupidly oblivious to the signs and what was going on. Skip through the last two years, when we've been on and off since I kept catching him in lies about doing the drugs (and even selling them at a few points) and would break up with him/believe he was finally fucking clean and take him back because I loved the him I remembered.

    We've been broken up the better part of this year and he moved back into town a little over a month ago. He came to my house, tried to talk to me, we had a big fight about how I didn't trust him BUT THEN I was an idiot and let his tears and his romantic speeches win me over. I should have KNOWN something was up because he lost like thirty pounds, is sickly pale and evidently lost his job and is never returning to school because he's too fucking lazy! Ever since then, I've let him stay with me at my room that I rent in a house since he has nowhere else to stay (did I mention he's mysteriously alienated his mother, father and all of his friends??). I helped him job hunt, loaned him money (which I of course never got back), treated him like a king, was super sweet and affectionate towards him, had him to my house for Thanksgiving so he could be with a family ... you get the picture.

    He doesn't know I dance but he does know that I get paid in cash. Well, right after Thanksgiving I thought I had lost a hundred dollar bill. Then two weekends ago on a Saturday, I left work with my wallet that had around $400 in it from that night's work. I went straight home, went to bed and got up in the morning to take my sister Christmas shopping. When I went in my wallet...you guessed it...ALL my money gone!!! STUPID ME thinks I must have left my purse out at work and someone swiped it.

    Then, I find out he went to my mom's house one day (lied to me about where he was and lied to her, saying I knew he was over there), and when he left he mysteriously left a bunch of downstairs windows unlocked for himself. That sounded suspicious so my mom checked her jewelry and lo and behold, about $6,000 worth of jewelry is missing including the only thing I have left from my dad, the wedding ring he gave my mom and she was going to give to me on my wedding day!!!

    It gets worse!! We knew he lied about being over there, but my mom thought the house cleaner could have taken her jewelry. Now, in the past two days, my poor roomates got dragged into this fiasco! One of them is missing about $300. They had their friend over last night who left her purse in the open and promptly discovered the contents, $200, missing this morning. The guy roomate had his PSP and all the games taken as well as his expensive set of tools. Oh and the cherry on top?? We didn't know about the roomates shit missing til tonight when my ex was over and told me he needed to have a cigarette. He stepped outside my room and shut the door behind him; I assumed he went outside until my girl roomate banged on my door to tell me that she had just come home to find her door to her room closed (she'd left it open) and the door to her bathroom closed (same deal). She was confused and opened the bathroom door to find my FUCKING EX hunched down in her bathroom with the lights off, clutching a stack of Playstation games and trying to HIDE from her!!! After she yelled at him and asked what the FUCK he was doing, he went nonchalant in the front to actually FINALLY have a smoke and was standing there looking innocent when I stormed outside to yell at him for being a fucking pig and a liar, not to mention a selfish loser!!!

    When I add up all that money, it is such an astronomical amount!! And all of it is probably going up his fucking nose!!!

    I. AM. SO. PISSED!!! I'm sure my roomates hate me for bringing him here! And I lost so much money, plus with December being so slow, that I literally have almost NO christmas money and am going to have to borrow money from some poor person to even be able to pay my rent!!

    AGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH pleaseeeeeee someone make me feel better
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    Default Re: SO UPSET and DISGUSTED!!! <long>

    Been there......except

    -$100k
    from my MOM

    I now have partial feeling in right arm and limited use of hand.

    Lesson learned???

    Sometimes money lost is better than staying with some loser who steals from one who loves them more than anything else in the world.

    Drop him.

    Money spent for lesson learned to never be repeated.

    I'm sorry that happened to you and your family.

    People change, you can't turn him back into the one you fell in love with. Something else has ahold of him and you can't change it.

    Do your best to not fall into his traps again.

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    I'm so sorry. Trouble is, most of us are too nice to think the worst of our friends.

    Your only 'fault' is you tried to help someone who betrayed your trust - and that you tried to help shows you've got a good heart.

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    I would think calling the police would be a very good option at this point. It might get you back some of the stuff he stole and perhaps get him to straighten up his life a bit (he is obviously history now in yours). Sympathies

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    yeah actually i never say this! i would call them too.fuck that. your MOM?! yup some time down might let him wake up some. and you might be able to recover the jewelry and you would be protected lest he really goes off the deep end. chalk it up sis. the bitch got you. now you are smarter you know some shit to look for in your next relationship. be safe.

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    Please I would just find where he keeps his baggie and slip in enough shit cut up in there that he would OD . I'm not kidding it would be the lastime he got high off my dime. People you loved and trusted that betrayed you and fucked over yr family don't deserve to get away with it. Plus no1 will care or think anything of a loser junkie dieing from buying a batched mix of shit it happens all the time.

    I know alot of people recover from addiction and then grow a conscience and feel sorry for all the shit they did to others, but that's a small percent and they are very lucky they didn't try that shit w/me becuz I'm not so forgiving.

    I had an ex I tried to help fight her addiction and when she wasn't on that shit she was a great girlfriend I loved infact I met her before the drugs fucked up her life and somehow that's how I began dancing to watch over her, but when she would get her hands on that stuff I hated who she became and made her choice ultimated between me or that shit.

    Well ofcourse I had it when she tried to pimp me out for her drugs and when she finally crawled back home to say sorry and beg me to take her back I came this close to straggling her for real --well partly becuz she enjoyed that during sex , but this time it was different and she was begging me to end it for her which I was soo upset and sad for her at the same time becuz that shit owned her soo bad it made her suck a loser waste sorry excuse of a human being that lived for nothing, but to be a slave to her addiction and hurt every1 else around her. Anyhow I almost killed her, but had she robbed from my mom and if I knew then what I know now about her being that I found out she got pregnant and now has a crackbaby that would have been justified in my mind. Becuz I'm warpped like that I know. She's very lucky to be alive inspite all the drugs and people she has screwed over in the process.

    I'm not saying you should feel that way about yr ex or ever kill somebody(even if they deserve it), but just realise yr ex is a loser junkie --not a king deserving yr love and support and cut all ties and let him hit his bottom to focre him to get professional help or die becuz there is nothing you can do for him, but hurt yourself while what he loves is his drugs.

    If nothing else call the cops on him and file a restraining order out so he knows to stay away. Buy a gun and have it loaded if he ever brakes in again. If he figured out you are danicng he might try hitting you up again so don't allow him to think you would allow it.
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    I have given this some further thought. If the facts are as egregious as you suggest, this is what I think you should do.

    In this matter you have a very compelling amount of circumstantial evidence. Money and property disappearing after his reappearance in you life; strange matters such as the windows being unlocked; numerous people that have had items missing. And there is the clincher – the roommate that caught him in the act. A strong case.

    This is a possible option: Talk to the other people that were robbed and ask if they would be willing to testify at trial. Go physically to the local police station and ask to talk to a detective. Hand him/her a copy of your post here (well written, by the way). Give the detective the location where they can find this guy and, if possible, the time he is most likely to be high (that does not sound too hard in this case). If he is high they may take him in. If he is not, they will probably ask him in for questioning and take their sweet time during the interview. They will wait for him to start drug withdrawal during the interview. He will be miserable. They will pounce on him when the cravings get really bad and he starts sweating and shaking. At this point he will blurt out anything just to get out of the station. An arrest should shortly follow.

    Court is a hassle – but we are talking about thousands of dollars taken from people that have only shown this loser kindness. The saddest part is that if you get him arrested you are probably doing him the biggest favor of his life.

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    this is weird, but i would make a list of everything stolen and from who, and then set a trap for him. look into how much getting a small camera costs, and set up something that looks expensive or valuable but is of no actual value to you. catch him on camera, call the police, give them the list, and the videotape, and where they can find him and that he's probably on drugs. it would make for a very strong case.
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    no one got hurt, right?

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    The hardest thing to get your head around is that what you have is a pure scum junkie - only they wear your loved ones face, speak with their voice... know all your fucking secrets and weaknesses.

    (Yeah... he's in full swing at the moment. Kiss him goodbye Hun, he probably won't ever come back.)

    If you ever want your stuff back everybody needs to make police reports. (I'm.. not fond of them - but if it's in a hock shop that's the only way to get it back.)

    Because fuck him. Your Mom and your Roomies are just normal folk and that's not cool. Their only mistake was not taking a bat to this prick the moment they set eyes on him. Not cool.

    Consider this the full expense of you learning this lesson. If you haven't you'll have to do it again. Each lesson costs you more. Yes I said each and shut up, I don't want to talk about how I know that. Don't trust anybody! So hell yeah that includes the ol' 'down on their luck' itchy tweakers, wearing your friends face.

    Ooh! And one more thing, this might save you some trouble - as a general rule most junkies can always go home (sort of..) - even some pretty scummy ones can get some food and stay a few days in their room before they need to make a move. There is always the slim chance their parents are assholes (you'd wanna find other sources of evidence besides their word - otherwise it's one sided BS at best) but pretty much 100% if their parents/grandma are done - they ain't worth spitting on.

    I don't know.. one of the shittiest scumbags I ever met once said to me "Once they've stolen your ability to trust - then they've stolen everything." To which I just scoffed - if they'd taken that first you and I might have more stuff!

    But it was not 'til years later that I realized he was bang on. It's really hard to balance that one. Do you wanna be naive, trusting and get shafted out the ying-yang. Or do you wanna be cold, hard - smart.. but miss out on everything? (They're just little things but they're nice.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miaowren View Post
    The hardest thing to get your head around is that what you have is a pure scum junkie - only they wear your loved ones face, speak with their voice... know all your fucking secrets and weaknesses.

    (Yeah... he's in full swing at the moment. Kiss him goodbye Hun, he probably won't ever come back.)
    So true. Once somebody is on drugs this bad, they aren't even a person anymore (at least not the same person you once knew) and probably never will be again. It's sad, but if you don't wash your hands of him now and cut him completely out of your life, he'll end up destroying it.

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    people like that need to hit rock bottom before they realize their mistakes. its completely understandable to love him and care about him, but you have to remember you love yourself more. and care about him enough to let him go and get better on his own, you keeping him around is indirectly feeding his addiction

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    File a police report!!!


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    Hey guys, thank you so much for all the thoughtful and supportive replies. I would have never in a million years pictured something like this happening in my life. But your replies have really helped and I appreciate them so much!
    Originally Posted by MarvelGirl
    I am, however, very concerned about hair syphillis. I can't seem to find any information about this horrible disease caused by high heels. Somebody please, help me out here before I catch it.

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    What you think about and thank about, you bring about. xox Lexi

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