View Poll Results: As a customer are you motivated by the hope of getting a date with a dancer?

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  • Getting a date with a dancer is my main motivation

    2 1.32%
  • Getting a date with a dancer is a significant motivation

    6 3.95%
  • Getting a datewith a dancer is a minor motivation

    12 7.89%
  • I would accept the chance but do not actively seek a date with a dancer

    75 49.34%
  • I am not interested in getting a date with a dancer

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    Default Question for Customers: Motivations

    I've always thought one of the underlying motivations that will bring guys regularly into strip clubs is the hope that one day they'll manage to arrange to meet a dancer outside of work on a social level (bf/gf, friends or whatever).

    I'd be interested in finding out how common and how strong that motivation is, so have accordingly started a poll (anonymous of course). Could you answer honestly and indulge my curiosity.

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    I voted not interested. For me, the club is nothing more than a place to have fun and be entertained.

    In terms of dating/friendship, I don't go around looking for women in any particular profession. A person's job does not define who he/she is.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    To me, a better question for guys who would answer yes, is well...why. What makes a stripper so special that there's some semblance of having something that a woman working a mainstream profession doesn't have?

    I suppose on a reptilian level, that one is easy to answer.
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    I limit my SC activities to Las Vegas, 600 miles from my home, so dating would be a little difficult. No dates, no extras, just another place, other than a casino, to blow ridiculous sums of fun money. And I'm a little out of the dancer dating demographic

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    by "date" or you asking them if they're trying to take the girl out to dinner, a club, etc? likely with the hopes of getting laid? or are you asking if they're trying to do so with the intention of developing a relationship?

    because, i'd say i get asked by at least 75% of the customers who i spend any time with, if i want to go out to dinner, or a night club, or whatever. i'm guessing at least 95% of that 75% are just trying to get laid. occasionally guys will ask (happens maybe once a month) to take me on a vacation (vegas, the keys, whatever).... likely with the same intention.

    it is on even more rare an occasion that a guy expresses interest in "getting to know me better" in a way that suggest he wants a relationship. usually that only happens with regulars i've known for a bit... or with the occasional really lonely or really emotional random customer.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    by "date" or you asking them if they're trying to take the girl out to dinner, a club, etc? likely with the hopes of getting laid? or are you asking if they're trying to do so with the intention of developing a relationship?
    PP, I deliberately left it open. There will obviously be customers who would love to get laid. Others may have hopes of a more long term relationship. Other may just be curious to know what a dancer is like outside of work. My main interest was whether the lure of some form of OTC liaison was a significant factor in bringing customers into a SC. And when in the SC, whether that motivation influenced their behavior.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    I said I would "accept the chance, but don't actively seek a date". Truthfully, I've been asked out, and have accepted dates with dancers. That is the only way that it could happen as far as I'm concerned. Knowing what I know from experience, and knowledge gained here and elsewhere, I keep the business reality foremost in my mind always when I go to the club. It's a nice surprise when it happens though.

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    I chose i am not interested in getting a date with a dancer. I've been out with some dancers before but never went into the stripclub with that intention (made the first move), now i don't even take accept the chance when offered because i found it ruins my stripclub experience.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    I never actively seek out OTC "activities" but when it is offered I jump on it (so to speak).

    For me, OTC "activities" has ranged from clothes shopping & a movie to sex.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    Maybe I would follow up on a hint (or even drop one) from an older dancer whom I knew was not an 'extras girl' or a drunk or druggie. I don't need trouble in my life, even in exchange for a couple of nights/days of sex. I'd rather it be someone who can be a friend too. So it's gonna be limited, and it's CERTAINLY not going to be with someone who is all hung up on 'leagues.'
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    I picked "I would accept the chance but do not actively seek a date with a dancer". I don't think that a person's line of work should interfere with developing a relationship, wether you're a dancer or whatever other vocation you're involved in.

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    I don't go into the club to date dancers, but if they wanted to meet me outside for dinner, not as a date, that might be ok.
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    A SC is my life-size X-box. What goes on in a SC stays in the SC. What goes on OTC stays OTC. In my mind the two shall never meet.

    I am not interested in getting a date with a stripper. I am happily married, and I go on dates with my wife, so I am not looking for a romatic date. I go for lunches and dinners with (both male and female) friends, co-workers, clients, vendors, bosses or subordinates all the time, so I am not looking for a social date. There is zero reason, zero motivation, for me to go out with a stripper.

    Besides, it would be a very boring date for both a dancer and I: I am 20 years older than an average dancer -- what interests me she has no interest in, and what intrest her, I have no interest in.

    As far as getting laid goes, the question is academic. I am married. I have terrific sex with my wife. Even if I didn't have terrific sex with my wife, having sex with another woman is cheating in my book. I don't cheat.

    Yeah, in a fantasy world I'd love to have sex with a stripper; but then again, in my fantasy world I am a ripped 20 year old with a 13" dick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    ... i'd say i get asked by at least 75% of the customers who i spend any time with, if i want to go out to dinner, or a night club, or whatever. ...
    'Penny, do you believe that these customers really mean it, or do you attribute it to CS?

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    I voted that I would accept but not actively seek. For the past twenty odd years I would have voted that I was not interested in dating dancers. Since I am recently separated from the soon-to-be ex Mrs yoda I am a bit more open to the prospect. Of course, I'm a money train to all of my favs so the chances are slim to none that it would happen...
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    i never actively go for a date and in the last 10 years it has never really come up. But with the economy where it is today, i have noticed new dancers coming in to the scene and have been seriously approached by a couple in the last couple of months. both were very new to the business. since all of my club activities are in different states from my travels i am usually in town from one to 3 days and besides a hook up i do not see anything else coming of the situation. I did have to say yes to one young lady that had been in the business for 3 days. the chemistry was just too much for me to say no. Funny thing is she was there for one week to make house payment while she was waiting to be reemployed. i asked the club manager and he verified. came back a couple of weeks later and sure enough she was gone. It was kind of sad, because she was probably one of the best dancers i ever had, regardless of the time we spent together afterhours.
    After that huge ego boost two weeks later i am in a club with one of my employees, taking care of him, he falls in love of course,-----ha! tried to warn him---while she was actively getting him to get more hundrends from me!! we are on couches in divided by a drink station with both of our dancers----mine was really lame that night---pretty but a dumbass--when she gets up to go change clothes(nothing new) although she never came back and actually left the club....lol. i guess she could tell i was bored and i was the boorish client that she didnt want to be with that night, either way i was glad to see her go even if it did take some of my thunder out of the previous young lady that i took otc. just brought me back to reality not to mention it was kind of sucked that my top employee was there to witness it......lol

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    I voted Getting a date with a dancer is a significant motivation. Phil said he left definitions open in terms of answers. By date I am talking about otc and money not bf/gf. Bf/gf would be a pretty unrealistic expectation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    To me, a better question for guys who would answer yes, is well...why. What makes a stripper so special that there's some semblance of having something that a woman working a mainstream profession doesn't have?

    I suppose on a reptilian level, that one is easy to answer.
    I wondered that, myself. The only guess I can come up with is as a status symbol, like trophy wives.

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    ^^^

    I've always had a theory that because most customers only see dancers at work (and hence have no idea how they behave outside of work) they assume that the dancer will continue to behave in the same way outside of work - delivering 24/7 horniness and lap dances.

    I think it's also a question of accessibility. Outside of work, if the average customer met the average dancer in a bar (both being unaware of each others ITC lives), the odds are long that dancer would actually be interested in a conversation, let alone being picked up. At work, any dancer is keen to make conversation - as long as it results in $$$'s.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    To me, a better question for guys who would answer yes, is well...why. What makes a stripper so special that there's some semblance of having something that a woman working a mainstream profession doesn't have?

    I suppose on a reptilian level, that one is easy to answer.
    Quote Originally Posted by Otoki View Post
    I wondered that, myself. The only guess I can come up with is as a status symbol, like trophy wives.
    I think its all a ego thing where the guy is saying to himself "i'm getting something free from her that these guys are paying to try and get".

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    well obviously most men would go to a gents club to have fun or to fill some kind of void which they are currently not getting..

    If I have 0 contact with women for a specific amount of time (longer than 3 months not 1 week lol) sometimes I consider going to them.

    So you could say I go just to have some contact and interaction with women. The ones I do talk to appear to enjoy my company... but I'm well versed in the way they are meant to conduct themselves too.

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    What I think is cool is that you can have several strippers at your table and engage in heavy flirting and drinking and generally just getting crazy (while tipping and buying drinks of course). When it is all said and done they leave and I leave no harm no foul. It is business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bsteve View Post
    'Penny, do you believe that these customers really mean it, or do you attribute it to CS?
    oh i'm sure they mean it, i just think the vast majority are asking for a date in return for assumed sexual favors.

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    Default Re: Question for Customers: Motivations

    ^^^

    I did once ask a dancer I know to keep score for a week. She totaled it up and came up with 85 requests for a phone number and/or a date from the 8 shifts she worked that week - that's about 2 requests an hour.

    My poll has about 55 responses now - 37% for not interested and 53% for I'd take a date if it was offered to me, but wouldn't ask. That surprised me a little because all the anecdotal evidence I have from the dancers I know suggests they get at least 2 - 3 requests a shift for a date/number.

    Which leaves a number of possibilities:

    (a) Male posters on SW are not typical of the great viewing public.
    (b) The posters didn't respond accurately - unlikely because it's an anonymous poll.
    (c) UK males are more likely to ask for dates than US males.

    Thoughts?

    Phil.

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    i have only been on this site for a little while---but i would tend to go with (a). i believe we are outnumbered by far from the others, but i genuinely think that we have more respect for the profession even if we do post some things that get a slap on the wrist from a dancer.
    We will NEVER fully understand their position regardless of how long we are on the other side and though this website will not fully educate us, i do believe that it is a step into the right direction and will give the customer more insight to what is actually going on in the dancers head and let the dancers know that we are all not a bunch of pervs out there trying to hookup with an preceived easy lay----which i believe an educated man already knows that this is not the case.
    If during one of my visits i remember one or two things that i have learned from dancers on this site that helps me stop from doing something that will make them uncomfortable and make the experience more enjoyable for all then it is working.
    I just caught that i put down enjoyable for all---------------Does every dance that a dancer gives for a man looked upon as get me through this tonight or do you ever enjoy yourself at work.....i mean i do not think i could go to work every night and not enjoy it sometimes.
    that just gave me an idea for a new thread----i will search and see if it has ever came up.

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