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    Angry boys and tattoos

    Ok, I know I'm always preaching against letting the chauvanistic male establishment dominate me, but I guess even I'm not immune. My bf is throwing a hissy fit over my latest tattoo. I'm curious if anybody else has ever had to deal with this shit. He is perfectly fine with my career choice, but God forbid if I get inked. Nevermind the fact that he was ogling a heavily tatted rival at my work. Fucking hypocrite!
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    Screw that. It's there and you are obviously not changing that for him. Let him cool of about it. He'll get over it. No need gettin upset.





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    I got in a huge fight with an ex over her tattoo once. Though the circumstances were a bit different. This is not meant to be a defense of your boyfriend, but it reminds me of what happened.

    The deal was, we were going to get one each together, and I was going to draw them up. I'd been a professional illustrator for years and also had done bodypainting several hundred times at that point, mostly involving large tattoo sized designs. So I knew about the importance of position/placement, and had already seen literally thousands of bad tattoos badly positioned. Especially in Daytona, where there are more bad tattoos than anywhere in the entire nation, lol.

    If anyone was going to draw a really cool design, impossible to duplicate, for the woman I loved (or so I thought at the time), I felt as qualified as some guy with a bunch of stencils--which is what the majority of tattoo 'artists' in Central Florida use. Though I have seen a few guys who were good freehand, they are actually quite rare.

    But no...

    We are walking back from the beach one day with her friend and they decide to stop in a tattoo shop right there, just to look. Her friend is egging her on, and she is getting more and more excited about the pictures in the books that any fucking asshole in the entire world can have, the same as hers. I am getting more and more pissed off that our deal we made is being completely forgotten, and she is only noticing that I am pissed and thinking I am an asshole. Plus the tattoo 'artist' is making jokes about it being on her ass. She's a dancer, I have actually seen her giving lapdances, not a big deal--but in combination with my foul mood, it was not helpful.

    Finally we leave after she made arrangements to come back two hours later. I had already walked outside and was sitting on a bench, pissed as hell.

    Then we have our big fight when she finally asks me why I was being such a dick in there.

    I remind her that we had agreed I was going draw it up, why was she disrespecting the bond we had made, and my proven ability as an artist for years? To then get a lecture aboiut how the tattoo guy was 'a real artist', who had supposedly done a fantastic job on her brother-in-law. I saw that later, it was the most fucked up version of an Egyptian ankh sign I have ever seen, with the top loop about 60-70% smaller than it's supposed to be, an abomination permanently in place on this dumb fuck's arm for 40-60 years.

    So 'the artist', when he wasn't copying designs out of books, was a visual butcher. But I only suspected that at this point.

    The climax of the fight came back at her house when she screamed 'I need this, I am sick!!'

    I forget what disease she thought she had, it's been a few years. Her friend is screaming that it is her body to do with what she pleases, which is of course correct, but leaves out that I might not want that body any longer then, if I feel disrespected. Taking it too seriously, I know--and I figured out later that I really wasn't in love with her, so the whole thing was just fucking stupid.

    I said I was going to take a nap, she and her friend said they were going to get something to eat and would be back in a half hour. She was going to wait to get the tattoo a little longer. Well two hours later, they are still gone. At this point after all the fuss and yelling, I was so disgusted I didn't care if she was getting it or not, I called a cab, took it to the bus station, and got on a bus for the 50 mile or so trip back to Daytona (she lived in St.Augustine and she was my ride).

    They wondered where the fuck I had vanished to when they got back. We broke up not much later, but stayed friends and even laughed later about the tattoo (which actually turned out OK unlike her brother-in-law's, since she picked a good design out of his books, and picked a good spot for it, and he didn't fuck it up.

    Bottom line, of course it's your body, you can do with it as you choose. But not all guys are going to feel the same about that body with ink on it for the next 50 years, or piercings in it. Getting mad at them isn't much help, I think it's human nature.
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    lol. i've had guys give me shit for NOT having any tattoos. like i'm less of a person or less "real" because of it. bear in mind the biggest ass about it had a bunch of high class porn in his bathroom, the sort where the girls do not have tattoos or have very small ones, so i think he was just trying to be a jerk.

    but still.

    guys are stupid.

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    I had a boyfriend who was in the military, and he was deployed while I was in college. I spent around six months kicking around the idea of getting a tattoo at the same time as my best friend, and we both designed our own. We are both in illustration/fine arts fields and had designed tattoos for others. When I finally had my design finished, I emailed it to my boyfriend (very excitedly), and told him where on my body it was going.

    He FREAKED out.

    I pointed out that he was planning on getting a tattoo when he got back (specific to his unit), which I told him was extremely hypocritical. His reasoning was that his tattoo "meant something" and mine was stupid, useless ink on my body. It wasn't meaningless.... it's a stylized astrological design that I feel reflects my personality.... but that's another story.

    He reacted so badly that I cancelled my appointment, and my best friend went by herself. After I broke up with that person (for other reasons), I eventually got my tattoo. And I love it.

    Respect your significant other and expect the same, but no one besides YOU should control your own body. It's a fine line.

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    It doesn't matter anymore. He left me. He says its not over thew tattoo, but because of my flagrant disregard for his feelings. It hurts, but I'm not going to waste my time brooding over it.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    It doesn't matter anymore. He left me. He says its not over thew tattoo, but because of my flagrant disregard for his feelings.
    Apparently the "feelings" he's referring to are not feelings of love and compassion for you, nor feelings of respect for your legitimate desires.

    It hurts, but I'm not going to waste my time brooding over it.
    The less you think about it, the less it will hurt.

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