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    Default Acting "horny" with customers.

    I can't do it. I feel really, really ridiculous. Does it make a difference? I've been doing this 7 years and I still rely on the "Intellectual Barbie" persona, as I fondly refer to it.

    Same with acting ditsy. One of my girlfriends swears by it, but it feels really forced when I try to do it.

    Worth learning, or no?

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    I won't do it. I have had guys ask me to talk dirty to them and I can't do that either. I'm the same as you I like to have intellectual conversations, and once I do that I'm not going to turn around and start to act slutty. It might work good for some girls, but if your not comfortable with it don't do it.
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    I can't do it either. But I admire people who are able to be that detached and see it as a job enough to be someone entirely different.

    Then again when I watched a friend do this I felt uncomfortable and embarrassed for her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by davka View Post
    I can't do it either. But I admire people who are able to be that detached and see it as a job enough to be someone entirely different.

    Then again when I watched a friend do this I felt uncomfortable and embarrassed for her.
    i could have written this myself, even down to the last part

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    Quote Originally Posted by p-bunny View Post
    .. thats why some strippers become alcoholics i think. I've never socially drank before but once i drink some goldschlager, i'm able to feel on shoulders and smile and talk about sexy things like nuts. ill give them the strangest compliments and they will feel so flattered.

    but if im not drunk, i am intellectual barbie as well lol. no matter how drunk though, i still dont sit on a lap for anything less than twenty bucks. no "preview" dances. buy VIP or nothing, pal. Without the alcohol i feel dumb as hell, like im lying to them or something. god help me lol.
    Me too. As bad as it is, alcohol helps me tremendously at work. I make so much more money when I drink and it makes the night go faster too, lol.

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    i refuse to do it, seems humiliating to me, especially if you get a customer who is freaked out by it. Then there is also a fear that you might be too believably horning thus making the customer feel he has every right to sexually molest you. No thanks.
    I think acting horny would work for customers looking to get off and I'd rather not deal with these types of customers anyway.

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    Yeah, I am just getting home and I feel as though I am surrounded by it. A lot of girls at my club employ this hustle.

    I'm glad I am not the only one. That makes me feel a lot better. I'm a good "actress" as in, acting like I am into them, but the dirty talk and "OMG LETS DO A DANCE U MAKE ME SO HORNY" is too much for me.

    And by the way Rockell, I do my one shot when I get there to warm up. It does help, otherwise I get hella fed up FAST.
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    I have to wonder how often this happens to girls who do the horny act
    stripper- omg baby lets do a dance I'm so horny!
    customer- no problem babe how about you just take off work and we go fuck in my car
    stripper- omg no lets go do a dance!
    customer- okay but i dont have to pay right? becuase youre horny and therefore by letting you grind on my hard cock I am actually doing YOU a favor. in fact, you should pay me!

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    i'm just a big drunken airhead.


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    cant do it either...

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    i'm strongly in favor of having multiple tricks up your sleeve and being able to switch between a handfull of diffferent personas. i do agree that this particular game is harder to fake than most. I don't do this with every guy, i usually just try to be what i think he wants me to be, but some guys want me to be the horny coed. i founs that i feel to silly doing this all the way so i just memorized several comments that i feel ok saying with a straght face, so that method works for me. things i'll say " ooo baby i'm suppose to be turning you on, not the other way around." "you're getting me all riled up lets stay longer.." i also don't do this straight off my approach, but after i know he's spending and have guessed thats what he wants me to say.
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    Quote Originally Posted by saphire123456 View Post
    i'm strongly in favor of having multiple tricks up your sleeve and being able to switch between a handfull of diffferent personas. i do agree that this particular game is harder to fake than most. I don't do this with every guy, i usually just try to be what i think he wants me to be, but some guys want me to be the horny coed. i founs that i feel to silly doing this all the way so i just memorized several comments that i feel ok saying with a straght face, so that method works for me. things i'll say " ooo baby i'm suppose to be turning you on, not the other way around." "you're getting me all riled up lets stay longer.." i also don't do this straight off my approach, but after i know he's spending and have guessed thats what he wants me to say.
    now its my turn to say that I could have written this myself; even to the very end.

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    Quote Originally Posted by p-bunny View Post
    .. thats why some strippers become alcoholics i think. I've never socially drank before but once i drink some goldschlager, i'm able to feel on shoulders and smile and talk about sexy things like nuts. ill give them the strangest compliments and they will feel so flattered.
    That pretty much sums up dancing for me. When I am sober I talk too much, rattle on about not sexy things, am very cold and do not want to touch or be touched, and definitely don't keep the conversation focused on the sale.
    I come from a really cold family and have a history of loveless relationships, it's hard for me to be intimate with people (I am even this way with my husband sometimes) It's so out of my element to be that way, but drinking is the only way I can do it.
    Hence why I am trying to find a real job. It can't go on like this forever.

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    Can't do it either.....

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    When I started dancing, I had a friend that was working at the club too, and the acting horny thing was her major strategy. I would feel very embarrassed and uncomfortable watching her do it and I just couldn't follow suit, no matter how much money I could make doing it. And she would freak out at me all the time, and tell me that all strippers did that, and I couldn't strip without doing it, and I could never be successful at this job, and so on. Watching her, I just felt it was so transparent and over-the-top. And then she had all these stories about half the guys "attacking" her in the back, and she was having several people kicked out every night, but she saw no correlation between her act and the weirdos.

    Of course, this "friend" also told me that a lap dance basically consisted of jacking the custie off through his pants, and I was like, "I can't do that." And there was another freakout about how I was just a bad stripper and so on.

    She always had so much money, or so she would say. It always happened to be a good couple hundred more than me, though I could never verify it. But then she was always more than a month behind on her bills, and she didn't have any kids or a bf she was supporting or anything. And I gradually figured out she was just lying about her income. She lied about a lot of shit. And she had a lot of issues about being a stripper, and she had some pretty severe drug and alcohol issues that she was in denial about, and she was overweight and continuously gaining more, and she was in denial about that, too.

    Well, it's a year later. We are no longer friends in any sense of the word. She works at a different club now. And I think I make pretty decent money, and I've never had any depression issues about my job. And in this year, I've maybe had five customers that I've gotten kicked out for getting grabby.

    So, I think that while that act might work for some people, it attracts the really unsavory customers too, and it really probably doesn't make that much more money. Plus you gotta keep in mind that not all men are idiots. For every 1 guy that act works on, another 10 are probably just as embarrassed for you as we are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by saphire123456 View Post
    i'm strongly in favor of having multiple tricks up your sleeve and being able to switch between a handfull of diffferent personas. i do agree that this particular game is harder to fake than most. I don't do this with every guy, i usually just try to be what i think he wants me to be, but some guys want me to be the horny coed. i founs that i feel to silly doing this all the way so i just memorized several comments that i feel ok saying with a straght face, so that method works for me. things i'll say " ooo baby i'm suppose to be turning you on, not the other way around." "you're getting me all riled up lets stay longer.." i also don't do this straight off my approach, but after i know he's spending and have guessed thats what he wants me to say.
    You sound exactly like the talented women I reference when I say they do it while not being it, just being a hustler/actress/money maker. Your approach sound healthy, non tacky, and effective.

    The friend I saw would say weird things, make really corny "horny" faces she thought were sexy, but looked stupid- and would rub up on guys and put her boobs on them and rub their necks and shoulders before she even started a conversation. I thought it looked very trashy. It made her money, and she tried to school me- but I made my own money just fine with my own comfort levels.

    I think being what ever the moment calls for is a very good talent to have as a dancer. I don't have it so much, so I utilize other strategies.
    Originally Posted by ViolaStrings
    I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.

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    What I mean is, it looked like begging.
    Originally Posted by ViolaStrings
    I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.

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    I can turn it on and off like a light switch. If I can tell that's what the guy wants, I switch into "ultimate seduction mode," haha. But I do it more with my eyes, movements, facial expressions etc. than talking dirty. The closest I've ever gotten to talking dirty is something like, "Mmm that feels so good" or little sighs and moans when I'm on their lap. Heavy breathing into their ear works, too. I've become very good at playing the part. No one in my "real" life would ever even suspect that I'm a stripper unless I told them.

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    If the guy seems like he enjoys thinking I am actually getting excited over his lap, and forgetting he is paying, and likes to believe (for 3 precious moments) that I am actually getting off on him, I'll play it up. I'll admit- I've even pretended to orgasm right there on his lap if he's paid me well. Most men at clubs - especially the ones I tend to do well with- are lonely and seeking attention from a hot female who will pretend she is very interested in him and even horny for him. Whatever. It's all an act for the moolah. They can't imagine not being horny/hard when in a club, surrounded by naked young women....so when I tell him "OMG How could I NOT be horny right now?! This place is all about sex! I get pretty wet dancing...it's a major turn-on being onstage...love the attention...getting my "wild side" out.....etc etc." they absolutely buy it and usually feel more comfortable and happy.

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    Right, it's just acting or "make-believe," and it definitely helps to get repeat dances, imo.

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    yesterday at my club.. i was giving a dance and in the booth next to mine I could hear the girl moaning(kind of loudly) and it made my dance reaaallllyyy uncomfortable. I dunno what was going on in that booth... but it was. gross.

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    guys seem to thionk i have a slutty look and thats the kind o performance that works best for me. personal experience - they expect me to be horny more then the average stripper. at irst it bothered me but not anymore. Now i just say the nastiest diriest things that would never in a million years turn me on. at irst when i was pressured to share my sexuality with them i felt horrible about dancing but now its kinda a thrill on those boring nights. i dont like a lot o touching from the customers and im a sensual dancer but i have a filthy mouth its out o control. i moan only i they are spending a lot o money though.
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    I can do it but more so body language than conversation...if I'm giving a LD on the floor than I try to sell the dance to the other customers around by looking "slutty" but I'm more so into my own persona and the song than the actual custie.

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    I'll only do it if the customer is really drunk (read: beyond ability to converse). Then I do it to amuse myself. I'm 100% the "intellectual barbie" persona the OP described. So it's funny as fuck to me when I act horny and the drunken customer doesn't realize how clearly fake I'm being.

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    I can completely play both parts and it's so much easier to use on new comers and first timers - def not for the regulars.
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