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    I thought after the first day I would be all ready and comfortable with it. I just worked yesterday and today I'm feel super super nervous again. I actually think I'm more nervous today than I was yesterday.

    Were you guys nervous for awhile until your emotions settled down?

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    It's so weird because naturally I tend to be very nervous... pretty much all the time. When it comes to dancing though I am not. I think you'll probably get over it. How many days have you worked?
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    A girl I know has been dancing for almost five years, and she still gets nervous sometimes, before she goes out. Sometimes it's the stage, but sometimes it's just talking to customers. Me too!

    But there are things I eventually started to love about it that keep me going. I just tell myself to buck it up through the first fifteen minutes, half hour or so, and after that I'm in the swing of things and focused on the goal. Sometimes, by the end of the night, i wish i could stay longer!

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    I actually wasn't nervous at all for my audition, but once the job actually became a JOB rather than something fun I experimented with on a Sunday night, it's like my nerves realized that this would be a regular thing...and that's when I started getting nervous. It takes your body a little bit to adjust to the environment and the actual dancing.

    Even now, after over 2 years of stripping, I get nervous if I go into work when I'm not working (like if I'm just dropping in to sign up on the schedule). It's ridiculous! It's like only my stripper persona can be confident there.

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    I was really really nervous the first few times I went on stage. I complained to the dj that my hips and leg muscles were hurting like hell, and he said something like "Thats because you're so tense out there. You gotta relax." Hearing that made me go "Hmm, you know, I really don't care THAT much about what those customers think of me. " Ever since, I have been so relaxed on stage that people call me the laziest stripper.

    You might try just doing something to break the tension. Like dance to a really stupid weird al song that makes you laugh. Just ACT like you don't give a shit and eventually you really won't.

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    I get nervous when I go to a new club and there's a ton of girls. I usually lurk in the corner until I find someone that I can talk to.
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    the first couple weeks we started dancing, a best friend that i started with and i experienced something we called "stripper shits". as in, on the way to work, and once immediately there, both of us totally had the shits from being so tense and so nervous. after about two weeks, all of that stopped thankfully.

    working at a new job anywhere can be stressful. you're not used to it or good at it yet, you don't know your coworkers very well, and it just takes some time to settle into. once you do, it's fun and comfortable.
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    Yeah, I used to be SOOOOO nervous. It still comes and goes (in real life as well), but basically when I start to get nervous I just think: Who cares? If I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it. Being nervous about it doesn't solve anything. You just have to tell yourself it's no big deal. Once I do that, it's like Lily said... "buck it up through the first fifteen minutes, half hour or so, and after that I'm in the swing of things and focused on the goal. Sometimes, by the end of the night, i wish i could stay longer!"

    This is so true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    It's so weird because naturally I tend to be very nervous... pretty much all the time. When it comes to dancing though I am not. I think you'll probably get over it. How many days have you worked?
    I'm the same way....

    My first time I thought i'd be scared shitless...in fact I was scared for over a year to even start but one day I just went into the club and strangely wasn't nervous at all.
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    I still get nervous sometimes, if I haven't worked in awhile, or if there's something at all unusual about the crowd. But it will usually go away the instant I start dancing.

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    yeah I still get nervous about approaching guys to hustle, and right before I go onstage I always feel like I have to pee even if I dont haha. but yeah just take a deep breath and keep going and you will be fine. the jitters always disappear when I get onstage and start dancing, and see how hot I look in the mirror!

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    I've danced since '95 and I still get nervous!
    It's hard to put on the game face sometimes.
    It will become easier the more you do it, give it some time and you'll start feeling more confident.

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    The first month or so I worked I literally had to remind myself to breathe. It wasnt even like I'd had any bad experiences initially or anything it was just that fact that I'd only ever stripped for a bf or something not an entire room full of people. After that first month though it got easier. The only time I get nervous now is if I take any time off, but that usually only lasts til I get on stage and then I think to myself 'yeah I can do this'. It will get easier. Just give yourself some time to adjust.

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