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    Default Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Short question: Can a customer be a regular of more than one girl in the same club?

    Long situation: I've been a regular of one girl at a club for a few years now. Nothing OTC aside from her having my number and texting me every now and again (and I wasn't looking for anything OTC). I'd probably see her on average maybe once month or so when I happened to be there on the same night as her and we'd chat for awhile, lapdance for awhile, chat for awhile after, and I'd leave happy. She always remembered what we had talked about last and what was going on with me, she'd tell me about what was going on in her life, and if she was there I would basically spend my time and budget on her for the evening.

    Then she moved away and was gone for about 6 months. During that time I struck up much of the same "regular customer" relationship with another girl that worked there. Again, no OTC or extras or anything like that, although she also got my phone # and would shoot me the occasional text. Like the first girl, we had some nice conversations about what was going on with her and I'd come in, we'd chat for awhile and have some private dances and I'd spend my whole evening in the club with her.

    Then the first dancer moved back, things didn't work out where she had moved to. Now, if I end up at the club and both of them are there, it's kind of awkward. They both seem to be kind of territorial toward me and each has made snippy comments about the other one to me in private.

    The whole thing is kind of weird. I think they are both very cool people and have a good time chatting with both them and getting dances from both of them. There's no relationship with either beyond being a good regular customer that they feel comfortable enough to talk to, but if they are both there I get the feeling that I am hurting one girl's feelings a little if I spend time with one and not the other (and I don't always have the time or budget to hang out with both of them on the same night). It ends up in that odd place where it's not like either one is my girlfriend, and I shouldn't be feeling guilty, but they both have some sort of connection to me and possessive behavior toward me and so it ends up feeling uncomfortable.

    Ideally I'd like to still be able to hang out with either of them just depending on whichever one sees me first or something, but I don't like the idea that I'm causing friction between them or upsetting anyone.

    So, for you dancers, any tips on how to handle this? Do you have regulars that are also regulars of other girls, and is that okay? Is this the sort of thing you hash out between yourselves in the dressing room? Do I need to say something to them about it? I haven't discussed it beyond "oh yeah, she's another friend of mine" and left it at that.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Dude, it's your money. Spend it on one girl or spend it on ten. Yes, some girls will flip you attitude, some will even try and trash the other ladies that you spend money on. In most cases however everyone will be fine with it. If a particular dancer is dumb enough to give you grief about spending money on other dancers I would suggest you dump her. I certainly have in the past...
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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Do these girls hate each other? if not then why dont you invite BOTH of them to sit with you and alternate spending money on both of them. Couple from girl A, then a couple from girl B.... Seems win/win to me and I have done that before under different circumstances

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    Do these girls hate each other? if not then why dont you invite BOTH of them to sit with you and alternate spending money on both of them. Couple from girl A, then a couple from girl B.... Seems win/win to me and I have done that before under different circumstances
    Yep, I've done this with a couple of dancers and it's great fun. Gets a little expensive but what the hell, it's only money.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    I suspect there will always be a degree of tension between two dancers in this situation. However much they might like you personally, you're also a source of income for them. If you're spending on dancer A, you're not spending on dancer B (and vice versa).

    Hence, they'll be looking to maximize their own personal share of the cake. Thus the 'snippy' comments they make about each other.

    Competition over scare resources....

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    I agree that it's your money and you can do what you want. From a dancer's perspective of what makes me happy.....

    I've shared regulars with other girls. The regulars that I love spend the exact same amount on me every night whether the other girl(s) is/are there or not. I don't have any feelings of jealousy and I don't feel the need to be jealous or aggressive because I know whatever you are spending of the other girls doesn't matter because you will always spend X on me.
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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    There's a lot of possible solutions here, none of them wrong. If you're not resigned to going into the club on a certain night, see if there's a way that you can see one while the other isn't working.

    Otherwise, they're just going to have to get used to you splitting your proceeds. You can always concentrate that towards whichever one is the better sport about it.

    And if anyone thinks they need to get the permission of someone that they're spending money on to take their business elsewhere, the cart is definitely pulling the horse. Grow a spine already.
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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    I always tried to meet with them separately to avoid drama. I have to admit it was kinda fun, though, to have two competing strippers at my table A lot of drama and faux affection because both wanted my money. I always wound up spending most of my money one of the women. It pissed off the other dancer but she always came back next time.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Hence, they'll be looking to maximize their own personal share of the cake. Thus the 'snippy' comments they make about each other.
    I speak from personal experience when I say the above is NOT always the case. In my post I said that I had a similar experience though the dynamics were not the same.....sometimes, just sometimes the "snippy stripper" isnt lying to make the other dancer look bad in an attempt to have "all the cake". We dancers see the behind the scenes behavior therefore we know the "real" attitude of the seemingly sweet strippers. We see and hear things the customer will never see or hear. Not to mention alot of customers go about the "changing of the guard" in less than tactful ways.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    invite BOTH of them to sit with you and alternate spending money on both of them. Couple from girl A, then a couple from girl B.... Seems win/win to me and I have done that before under different circumstances
    I think this is your best solution. Just make sure you are spending on them equally so they don't get more catty.
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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    I think this is your best solution. Just make sure you are spending on them equally so they don't get more catty.
    Great thread OP. I am in a similar situation: a regular to 2 in same club, and last visit, a third edged her way in. I'll explain in a trip report.

    I do try to spread the $ equally, but how are the dancers going to know how much I spent on which dancer, especially on a busy night? It's not like they have time to count... Maybe a naive question, but what is the typical amount of "sharing notes" that goes on, especially between to women who "share" a regular?

    Ideally, I envision hourly briefings where dancers share notes and bust out from the locker room with velociraptor-like tactics.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Happy View Post
    Great thread OP. I am in a similar situation: a regular to 2 in same club, and last visit, a third edged her way in. I'll explain in a trip report.

    I do try to spread the $ equally, but how are the dancers going to know how much I spent on which dancer, especially on a busy night? It's not like they have time to count... Maybe a naive question, but what is the typical amount of "sharing notes" that goes on, especially between to women who "share" a regular?

    Ideally, I envision hourly briefings where dancers share notes and bust out from the locker room with velociraptor-like tactics.

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    lol believe me if you've put yourself in the "her regular" category most of the time they'll know how many dances, stage trips, etc.. you've made to another dancer

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    You are in change of your money. Don't give them the chance of controlling you. It's just business; it is not marriage.
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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    I routinely get dances from two to three or more dancers per visit at my favorite club. The ones I see regularly know this up front and don't seem to mind. During my last visit, after we were done, one regular went and got another regular for me (I tipped her). This is a little different from the OP's situation because I developed relationships with these women concurrently, but it does show that the "multiple favorite dancers" concept can work.

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    Give the most money to the girl that "pleases" you most. Let the games began.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darkfall View Post
    Short question: Can a customer be a regular of more than one girl in the same club?
    Short answer: Yes.

    On average, there will probably be 5-7 girls at the home club who consider me a regular. However, I'm not exclusive to any dancer by any means. I don't go to the club to see any particular dancer and if I'm unable to get dances from one because she's busy or I'm busy, there's always next time. I've always been one to get dances from a bunch of girls and they know this so there has never been an issue of "ownership."

    Sure there are some girls I favor over others (for a myriad of reasons), but the amount I spend on each girl is consistent from visit to visit so it's not like they're competing for my business either.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    What George Baily and Bob_Loblaw said.

    If I were you I'd dump em both and find some dancers to give your money to who aren't so competitive towards each other.

    As a dancer I've always learned that it is the customers money to spend how he sees fit and no girl owns a customer. If he is waiting for someone he will tell you to come back or not. Are these two smart enough to offer a double dance yet?

    If custy allows me to, I'll spend his money for him. I don't have any regulars who are soley mine and those that I share with know how much they are spending on each girl. Seriously! It's basically who gets to him first or if they have a time set up to meet or not.

    Not only that multiple girls at my club interchangably talk about the regulars they share. There is a lot of money going around my club so the girls are actually not as cut throat as you would think. Only the girls that are new or who don't make any money get all freaky with 'ownership' issues.

    I'd actually be creeped out if I had ONE CUSTOMER who'd never test drive other girls. Unless he's from out of town that's a straight up stalker!

    I will also say if any man, customer or outside the club tries to force me to compete with other women I wont associate with them any longer. That is not how a man takes care of his woman, or women in this case. Same goes for non dancer friends, if cock blocking is a regular habit for them, they get cut.




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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    a lot of the customers that come to my club are "multiple dancer regs" but then again, it's a little different for us girls, because we don't do private dances...all of our money comes from the stage or conversation. so there is less room for girls to be jealous of another girl "stealing her customer" i work in a very friendly environment....we don't have any of those "one girl per one customer" rules when sitting at a table. if the guy is a regular that we have all grown to know and love, it doesn't matter if there are four of us sitting at his table. but if one girl notices that he is tipping the others more than her, she will usually take the hint and leave. a customer will almost always tell you if you're wanted...you just gotta know what to look for.

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    This is just another good reason why I always try to be a regular to the club instead of to a particular dancer. I do have my favorites, but to me variety is the reason for visiting a SC in the first place.

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    If the two girls get snippy with each other, leave the drama and look elsewhere. One club there were two gals I liked and both were good friends of each other, so I didn't have that problem.

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    Have them wrestle. Or maybe they can get rid of their jealousy in a spanking session with each other. Or hows aboot a kiss and make up session. lol

    Seriously though. it's your money. If they can't handle your decision, dump them.
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    I don't mean to sound rude, but I would think the right question in this situation is not being asked. A lot of girls on this site will probably not like what I say but here goes.


    First of all after three years of being a regular why do you feel it necessary to constantly make excuses that nothing more is going on? If you aren't hanging out AT LEAST watching football games and grilling burgers and hot dogs at your place in a comfortable friendship after three years you need to find a different girl to talk to or something better to do with your time. Why should you be worried about these girls being upset with you for spending time with another girl on a regular basis while you are clearly making an overt effort to clarify that nothing is going on with either of the girls? Your question states that you are emotionally involved in your mind but afraid to state that to the girl and you might want to move on but are afraid to make either girl upset by your actions. If you are comfortable with a three year relationship at a strip club not amounting to a real friendship outside the club, you are going to a strip club for the wrong reasons. After three years of eating at a certain restaurant I would be super angry if the manager didn't invite me to his halloween party. After three years of the same hairstylist she would uninvite me if I forgot her on christmas. After three years of the same personal trainer if that guy wasn't buying my sneakers I would have to fire him. I think my sister regularly buys dinner for her manicurist and goes barhopping with her.

    Why do you feel comfortable handing over tip money for three years, but not asserting that you should be real friends after that length of time?

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    Default Re: Being a regular customer of multiple dancers in the same club?

    I love this.. if other dancer gets bitchy that makes her look bad. I'm there to have fun, not deal with her self esteem issues.

    I absolutely love to share my regs - and there are several that I do share, with dancers that I think are very cool. Double dances are sex on a stick hot.

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