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Last edited by ferox; 03-20-2013 at 12:52 PM.
I've been lurking for a while, and your thread is worthy of my 1st post!
I'm a male, and danced during college for extra $$$. Although it wasn't at a club, the experience is roughly the same.
As long as he's a trustworthy guy, you'll have no issues. Yes, women (especially in groups with alcohol involved) will get touchy and go as far as you'll let them, but he just has to know where to draw the line (in respect for himself, as well as you).
Have a talk with him about it and express your feelings/concerns. Maybe you'll feel better.
Relationship, whitout trust is not worth to have. By, my opinion no external situation should have any reason, to treaten that trust.
If this is the case, and you don't trust your boyfriends ability of mature decission making. The relationship is on the wrong track to begin with. The inability to respect, his decissions and jugement is in a way not recognizing your partner, for what he is. But for what you want him to be. I don't think a relationship like this can last.
Last edited by zoe69; 01-22-2009 at 10:32 AM.
OK I was up waaaay too early, completely read question wrong.
Sorry everyone.
If anyone I was dating wanted to become a stripper I would most likely not be supportive due to everything I have seen in my dancing career.
Is he jealous of you and wants to try and turn the table?
I had an ex that tried this once. He turned out to be someone I no longer associate with (as well as society).
Tell him to go for it and see if he can handle it.
Last edited by short skirts; 01-23-2009 at 06:54 AM.
If he dances for an agency in private parties, he'll mostly be dancing for women at bachelorette and birthday parties. I think it would be mostly older women, but I'm sure he would run into some hot and horny babes.
My question would be .... if he is dancing at a club, is it gay? I know several male dancers and most of them work at gay bars (they claim to be straight) but the clientelle is gay men and there are a LOT of drugs in the gay bars around here.
The guys I know tell me they average 4-500 a night on the weekends. I think there are a some "extras" involved too. (letting custies touch the peen) that goes for straight and gay strip clubs, but... thats only in my area. I'm sure it depends on where you live.


if you are an exotic dancer then you definately shouldn't be criticising him because that would be hypocritical...
if you don't work in the industry which I'll assume you don't then you need to know
he will have many opportunities with women. I am a topless waiter (working my 2nd shift tomorrow night) and I do get women hitting on me... especially drunk women lol.. after 11pm 95% of the women there just let loose and we need to cover our asses from non stop spanking and pinching.
but its within a club premises and the staff have to be professional too.. our club doesn't encourage going the distance with custies.. as we are there to entertain everyone not a select few.
so if he does private shows he can be more adventurous and get away with it.. also remember that if hes got the looks and the body he might realise he can make a lot of money out of it. Some of the guys I work with make $400+ in one night.. (multiple shows) I can't think of too many other industries where you can earn that sort of money while having fun.
This is why I think people are idiots when they think stripping is a bad occupation.
edit: encourage him to work within a club... the money is made during the private shows... but if you can trust him enough let him go with it without interfering. You will get better birthday presents and valentines day gifts![]()





If you are a dancer, Short Skirts could be onto something. Probably he just wants to turn the tables, but it's hard to say without knowing more.
This is not a business easy on the people we date, most people just can't handle it, and it's not necessarily their fault. Standard definitions of love do not include your lover grinding on the crotches of people of the opposite sex. The fact that the majority of the attention is from unattractive people doesn't necessarily make it any easier for the other person.
But he could also be bluffing (or fooling himself), too. Talking about it and really doing it are two different things.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I just started dancing last week and my boyfriend was extremely supportive. I think we both have enough trust with each other. I even joke with him and tell him to be a male stripper cuz hes soo hot. I think living together probably helps too because he knows I'm loyal to him.
It can be a different story if you two live apart, because there is more room for mistrust. If your a dancer I'd say let him do it if you know it's something he wants to do. If he was supportive of you dancing (if you dance) then you should be supportive of him. If you dont dance, well I guess its a tough one and it really depends on both your personalities. Like Djoser said, not a lot of people can handle their significant other in the business and may eventually cause a lot of drama in the relationship.


if he wants to try it, you should encourage him.![]()





Unless you live in Windsor, Ontario maybe. A woman I was dating went to Danny's there for her 19th birthday party, where one of the dancers took off her shirt and was rubbing his dick all over her tits, and her friend got finger fucked and ass finger fucked. Apparently that was tame compared to some of the other shit going on.
Actually, according to the OP's profile, she IS a dancer. Which means he might be motivated by insecurity, wanting to turn the tables as ShortSkirts surmised. OTOH, maybe he is simply motivated by a desire to imitate the OP and make a lot of money, too. Pretending we know which it is from the few sentences of the OP is ridiculous.
In any case, a dancer cannot say their SO shouldn't dance without looking like a hypocrite. Sometimes it's the best way to manage the stress of having a relationship with a dancer, if both are in the business.
OTOH (again, lol) it's no guarantee there won't be problems. I have known DJs and bouncers and managers to be insanely jealous of their SOs, especially when working in the same club. And I have experienced the amazement of having dancers I have dated becoming insanely jealous of the other dancers grabbing my shit, etc.
Also, as several veteran dancer members have described here on SW, there will occasionally be that one extremely hot customer who really got them going, much as they loved their SO sincerely and would never want to hurt them.
To the OP--keep your eyes wide open (as in be aware of the situations that can occur), and don't wear you heart on your sleeve.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I just finished my second shift in a male strip club and we had about 190-220 women pack this place out. Yesterday I had a slightly different opinion on this subject... as I was more supportive of the male seeking out work in this industry.
But now that I think about it... given the state of lawlessness which seems to exist in male strip clubs I think women dancers actually have a point about their concerns of bfs becoming strippers. In a normal SC there is generally a no touching rule and they use a 2 strike your out warning system. So if you touch a dancer inappropriately once you get warned - second time your out of the club.
In the place I work at we don't have a 250 pound bouncer ensuring the male staff do not get harrassed by female custies. We do not have signs saying no touching nor will women get thrown out if they push the boundaries here. We had one crazy gay guy thrown outwhich was quite amusing to say the least. But as a comparison male strippers and topless waiters get grabbed about 10x more than female strippers. We even had female strippers who work at another club and video record a lap dance with her mobile phone! my god.... if a guy tried that on a female stripper he would have a broken mobile phone and a broken head.
You know you are in for a long night when 'sober' female custies hit on you the moment they enter the club. Some of their are well behaved and sweet.. ... japanese custies are soooo fine but their hands have minds of their own. Tell your boyfriend to learn some matrix moves to dodge those wandering hands.
I've always heard that women are far more vicious in the strip clubs to male dancers than males are to female dancers
I don't wanna stereotype but that seems to be the norm
Idk why they feel they are entitled to get away with more, just do whatever they want.
Sucks for you, sorry...I feel ya!!!


some of the women were really sweet to me which makes the night and job worthwhile... but its the fact that some of them can get away with more which makes it tough... I have this belief because I'm a topless waiter than means I'm off limits for touching... the custies can touch the male strippers instead.. and most of them are more muscular than me too.. but it seems some women won't hold back when they see a shy and conservative waiter. I think its because I spend more time out on the floor than male strippers too... so they think... 'ok ladies no male strippers out here yet.. lets go for the waiters in the meantime'
I do wear white briefs which have a glowing effect under club lights.. maybe I'll try different colors next week and hopefully I won't get groped as often. It would be funny if female custies got thrown out for inappropriate grabbing thoughJust need a female security guard to overlook the place
In every single job there are pros and cons to everything and we just need to deal with them.





Seems like Lucifer is learning the ropes pretty quickly, lol.
Except you can just can that shit about not being as muscular. If you have had the gymnastics background as you described, there will be hordes of women who will actually prefer the look you have to the steroid beefcake boys.
Furthermore, if/when you actually get onstage it will be a tremendous help--every female dancer I have ever worked with who had a gymnastics (or ballet/modern dance) background showed it onstage--to their great advantage. They aren't always conscious of it, but I can tell.
I don't doubt women can be more difficult than men when it comes to the male dancers, either. Though the one time I did see male dancers performing*, the women were fairly well-behaved--but they were also dancers themselves, so may have been better than the usual.
There are so many ways that sexual role-playing and biological/behavorial imperatives are twisted around and confused in the clubs, we could write a book about it. You can clearly see it happening in the female stripclubs, and I think it's probably more evident in male stripclubs, though I can't say from experience.
I know I've been grabbed so much in ten years as a DJ, I no longer give it a thought, unless they are meanwhile saying things in strange languages maybe, lol. I'll be on the mike and lining up the next song and some girl is doing a package check, it happens sometimes. I pretty much let it happen, I'm not going to slap their hands away. But if I saw a guy doing the same thing to a woman I would think he was being an asshole.
Gender roles...boundaries...equivalence but not really--it's confusing.
Women in general aren't supposed to act 'slutty' around men, according to the classic western Romantic view of sexual relations, which still dominates behavior in the USA for the most part. So when they have the opportunity to cast off the atavistic, repressive constraints beaten into their heads, it can be explosive.
*I would never have gone on my own, but two years ago when the SW fest was here they wanted to go and I got dragged into the place, almost literally--I really didn't want to go but they had honored me by including me in the party, it would have been rude to refuse. I sat back against the wall and gave them singles (DJs always have a lot lol) to tip the guys. It was interesting to watch the dynamics and compare it to what I have seen in my clubs. But I was definitely ready to go after about an hour of that, haha!
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I think some male strippers are over conscious of the way they look and resort to steroid use. Some of the guys I have worked with are 220lbs + and if you look around at other clubs you will find most male strippers are chemically enhanced.. least it appears that way. I heard when it comes to being a good performer its 50% confidence 50% appearance. Women love confidence, humour and someone who can entertain. I guess steroids give a self confidence effect too.. which is all good but not my cup of tea for now... im sort of thinking diuretics like clenbuterol which help decrease bodyfat quickly.. guess I'll have to weigh up the pros and cons of using something them as I don't want to jeopardise my longterm health for a few extra dollars per week - not worth the investment.
Gymnastics, ballet, yoga are great to have behind you because it gives you confidence on stage to perform and its never too late to take them up. Because I'm not a buffed out steroid gun.. I would be looking at using some athletic moves on stage like back flips, backsaults, splits to spice up the performance. All of these exercises would help women dancers too in big ways as there are lots of flexy exotic moves they can do on stage which guys love - splits on pole, inverted hangs, splits in high heels, straddle 360s around pole. My favorite female dancer used to do a headstand while in splits with high heels and would intentionally fall into the custies lap on the chair while in splits. She was by far the best performer I have seen in SCs.
The best custies so far from my perspective are asian women (particularly japanese.. some of them have a thing for caucasians here in Australia), dancers and the older divorced women are the best customers. I was fortunate to serve 2 dancers who tipped me straight away soon as I served them. They got a lap dance later and recorded it on their mobile phone lol... I asked them what would happen if a guy done that to them at work
A male strip club is a unique environment with very few males to judge and criticise their behavior. So as a result you do get some wild out of control women in there.. and also... most of them are celebrating hens night so they seize the opportunity to be non stop ass grabbing pervs for one night only.





If he wants to try dancing in a club, I would say go for it! See if he can handle the heat. If it's private parties... that I always see as a concern.
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