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    I've been dancing for about 8 months. A customer started coming into the club in August with his buddy & only showed up when the football team had a home game. He would throw compliments at me & at first it was no biggie but then it started becoming redundant. Then he started coming in more frequently, like twice a week, even when there were no home games & he said when I wasn't there, he would ask around if I was working & he constantly says like "I'm not a creep. I'm not stalking you" blah blah & when he mentioned that once or twice, it didn't bother me but now that he says it to me all the time, it really is starting to creep me out. Then he started bringing me goods (snacks, foods, body products) & even started coming without his buddy. I'm really creeped by this but then again, I never had a regular so I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid...is what this customer is doing normal?

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    Default Re: Am I being paranoid? Is this normal?

    I think thats something only you would know. He sounds like a regular to me , but i'm not there. Whats important is does he make your feel uncombterable? Why?

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    Men like this ALWAYS creep me out. Over the years and in different jobs I've had there have been a few men that kind of latch on and are overly interested - they've been harmless for the most part but need a certain distance.

    As long as he keeps the interactions to work and doesn't try to get OTC you are okay. You're well protected at work just be sure he doesn't get any personal info like what kind of car you drive.

    I think part of the the "I'm not creepy" lines he's giving you is because he knows that he's acting a little too geeked about you - he's trying to make himself feel better about his crush.

    If he doesn't give you money though that's a big problem - but if he pays you properly for your time and remains respectful - enjoy your first regular

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    ^^ Yeah--I'd agree with Charlee on this one. I'd say that as long as he doesn't start asking you for details about yourself, milk it for all it's worth.

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    He sounds like a regular to me... I find that I get the most money (measuring over a long period of time) from the clingy ones...

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    Thanks y'all. He just acts so different from another regular of mine. The other regular doesn't constantly say "I'm not a creep. I'm not stalking you" but I guess everyone reacts differently. Note: be careful with the info I provide

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    be careful with that one. he's -probably- harmless, but sometimes the "clingier" type of regulars also turn out to be the demanding/jealous ones. IOW, the type that one day randomly becomes enraged because you're sitting with a different (probably bigger spending) customer. as long as he doesn't start talking about being in love with you and whatever i wouldn't worry too much. if that -does- happen, i wouldn't continue to sit with him... but that's just me. i'm not fond of the false/pretend relationship kind of regular. friendship is fine (very rare, but fine).

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    Trying to prove that he's "not a creep" is the only thing "creepy" about that. Most regulars will crush on you and bring you things. Maybe just mention how much you like the gifts... and see if he stops referring to himself as "not a creep".
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    he is a reg but a special kind you need to be wary of, I like to call these guys the GFE - "Girl Friend Experience" regs. They want personal attention and will bring you gifts and can be very profitable but you have to be careful and keep boundaries in check. Make sure he knows you have to pay attention to other guys "for your job" giggle and say you will "get in trouble" with the club if you don't work the room.

    even if there arn't other big spenders be sure to chat to other guys for a little while whenever he is there so he doesn't get used to having ALL your attention. that will help prevent the above mentioned jealous freakout if you find a real hi-roller you want to sit with all night. and if you do find someone else you want to milk give him the same line, "hey i'm having so much fun but that's one of my regulars over there who came in special to see me, I have to go say hi to him for a second..."

    always act like you really want to talk to THEM all night but you just HAVE to work the room *sigh*

    finally alert your bouncer/dj/bartender about this guy so they can have your back if a situation does arrive and NEVER give out any personal details (like the neighborhood you live in etc) if he stays till closing make SURE you get a walk out and take the long drive home or pay your cab to loop the block if you think a car is following you.

    hope that helps! GFE guys can be BIG money as long as you have the patience for it....of course they always burn out eventually realizing you arn't "in love" with them the way they wish you were....but if you keep a handle on the situation everything can be drama free and fun

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