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    Default He took it out.

    Last night I was doing a lap dance. I had my back to the customer for a few minutes, then I turned back around and straddled him. Something didn't feel right; something was poking me in the crotch. Something warm and smooth and insistent.

    the dude's penis was out. poking me in my groin. about an inch away from penetrating me.

    I leaped off his lap and ran out of there yelling, "NO! NO!" I told the bouncer and the guy got thrown out.

    Then I had to go on stage and I just wanted to cry.
    Afterwards, I went into the dressing room to recuperate and the manager told me I needed to get on the floor.

    I called my best friend and she said she was sleeping and I woke her up. So I didn't have anyone to tell. I felt so alone and violated and angry and hurt.


    so I just sat by myself on the floor, did my stage rotations. At the end of my shift, I went in my car and cried, like, a snotty, gut-wrenching, heaving, cry, and called a crisis hotline so i would have somebody to vent to.

    What bothered me, and what bothers me still, was the fact that my best friend (when she DID finally talk to me) and the counselor at the hotline both kept saying, "Well, that goes with the territory." When they said that, I felt blamed--like they were saying, in a way, "I told you so." As though this was my fault because I'm a stripper. As though I should EXPECT to be sexually assaulted, and that I have no right to complain when it does. And the counselor kept telling me that she hears "much worse." I don't care what else she hears! That has no bearing on the crisis I'm experiencing!

    I felt almost more hurt by the way my friend and the counselor reacted to the violation than the violation itself.

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    sorry to hear you had such a bad experience.

    it's happened plenty to me, and after a while you just stop being bothered. it takes a real loser to whip his dick out at a stripper.

    on new years, i did a room with a guy. not the champagne room. the room that's actually a discount compared to regular dances. i know it's fucked up, but i can understand it a little more if a guy pays more, but not in the discount room! come on!

    and the dude pulled his dick out 5 times. yeah. i couldn't stop it, because i waited til the 5th time to say anything to the girl outside the room. that was stupid, but whatever.

    i actually found it pretty funny. because he was drunk and begging pathetically. and his dick wasn't even hard. or at least not hard enough to be able to penetrate much of anything.

    so i stayed in there with him til his time was up, barely touching him. and telling him how i'd gotten myself off before work and how much i loved getting my pussy eating (which is what he was begging to pay for) but he wasn't gonna get a single taste. blah blah blah. and i laughed at him a lot. and he bitched about how mean i was being and didn't leave.

    i made a lot of money (for how things have been, at least) and i was in too good a mood because of that to be bothered by his limp little pee pee.

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    I'm sorry. Your friend and the crisis counselor's reactions were both terrible. But I think you handled it very well. Strip club customers can be disgusting.

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    Default Re: He took it out.

    I think if he had just taken it out, I would've handled it better (not literally--I just read back over that and saw how it sounds. hah). I still would've been disgusted, but not so traumatized.

    It was more the fact that it touched me, unexpectedly, in such an intimate place and in such close proximity to my vagina.

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    hugs...
    it made me so angry reading this. no one should expect t be assaulted at their job, regardless of what it is. your friend was so inconsiderate to say that it comes with the territory. i am sorry to hear you had no one to talk to. as a friend she should have been there for you, not place blame or minimalize what happened. and the counsellor, WOW.so unproffessional. no matter how shes heard much worse, her job is to be there for people when they need to vent about their pain or crisis, not shrug it off cause someone elses was worse. i must agree that you handled it very well. some men can be such pigs.

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    I've had a guy do that before--last summer, one of the migrant workers that come up for track season in Saratoga. Whipped it out, and I didn't notice until it was touching me, and I fucking freaked. Got the bouncer, got him kicked the fuck out, then sat upstairs scrubbing my ass with Lysol for half an hour. I was furious, but I imagine if my best friend had said something as heartless as, "Well, what do you expect, it comes with the territory," I would have been pretty depressed and hurt about it. People are stupid, don't worry about what they say. And it sucks, but even though your boundaries were violated, you're safe, and that's what matters.

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    "Well, that goes with the territory.."

    Wtf, seriously! We're dancers, not prostitutes. I don't know what the hell men are thinking sometimes. They think that the 20 or 60 bucks they're paying for the lap dance entitles them to whipping their dicks out. It's ridiculous. I get guys all the time asking what "services" we provide in the VIP.. they need to be constantly reminded that we are DANCERS.

    Fucking morons. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I think it's messed up that people brush that type of thing off. You as an entertainer should be treated with respect and those stupid pricks should know the basic ground rules of a strip club.

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    comes with the territory? oh just like if a girl dresses sexy and being flirty then she's 'asking for it' or 'must want it'.....*sigh*

    so sorry that you had such a horrible expierence and hope you are feeling better.

    assholes like that guy are the people who have twisted issues and are fucked in the head and need 'saving'...not the strippers.

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    OMFG, I am absolutely horrified that this happened to you, and perhaps even more horrified at the reactions of the people who were supposed to be there to help you.

    I would call back that crisis hotline, and if you can remember the name of the "counselor" (aka judgmental merciless more pious than thou bitch" ask for her supervisor and tell her what she said to you. That was completely and totally unprofessional and frankly inhuman.

    As for your friend, fuck her. Get dancers friends. I hate civilian women sometimes.

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    am so sorry that happened to you hon. And i agree , the way your friend acted would make me question just what type of friend she was. AND yes , i would also call and report the counseler. What if you had been in a worse situation [not saying yours wasn't bad] and she said things like that to a poor girl who had been raped at a party or something.

    There are some days when asshoes like that make me HATE my job , and I have went home in tears more then a few nights over thr yrs , so i understand where your coming from.
    Next time , smack the shit out of the guy before hollering for the bouncer... or better yet , holler for them and then smack him right before they snatch is lowlife miserable ass up.
    It is in no way your fault that someone chose to assult you. What he did was wrong , he knew it was wrong , and you have no fault in it whatsoever.
    I hope you feel better soon , but it will probably take some time. Go do something nice for yourself if you can , and try to find a few real friends. You deserve better.

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    if it ever happens again (which hopefully it won't), i recommend a swift kick/punch/attack to the groinal region.

    getting thrown out is one thing. getting thrown out with an injured package might make him rethink ever doing it to any of us again.
    "If she wants to dance and drink all night, well there's no one that can stop her. She's going til the house lights come up or her stomach spills onto the floor. This night is gonna end when we're damn well ready for it to be over, worked all week long, and now the music is playing on our time. Yeah we do what we do to get by, and then we need a release!" - Against Me!, "Thrash Unreal"

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    sorry to hear you had such a bad experience.

    it's happened plenty to me, and after a while you just stop being bothered. it takes a real loser to whip his dick out at a stripper.
    Yeeeeeah.... No. It SHOULD bother you. I agree it takes a loser but jesus tap-dancing christ. It's happened to me tons of times, and it always sickens and bothers me.

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    man would it be legal to snap his dick in half after he did that to you? that would be nice.

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    Unfortunately, it does go along with the territory nowadays....but I don't mean that in the way your friend or the counselor said it. It is NOT your fault but the fault of the path that this industry has gone down.

    It shouldn't go along with the territory and you nor any of us should have to deal with it.


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    I understand how you feel. I was dancing for a guy and he said he like his tummy to be rubbed. So I gave his tummy attention with my ass. Then something didnt feel right so i turn around an saw he pulled his shirt up. gross. he was obese too. so put his shirt back down. I was pissed.

    I know this doesn't compare to a nasty cock.

    Some guy are just fucking asshole idiots. Did you get paid up front? When I do vip with guy i don't trust i would have them pay up front. That way if you have to end it you already have their money.




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    Default Re: He took it out.

    Thank you all so, so much for the responses. It's so comforting to hear people express the kind of outrage, concern, and compassion that I was needing so badly. I was really scared I would get on here and people would be like, "get a thicker skin." Or tell me I should get used to it, or that I was a wuss to be so bothered by it. I can't thank you all enough for being so supportive and understanding.

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    ^ we're here for you It'll be ok! It is in no way your fault, and in a perfect world that man would have been arrested for attempted rape.

    This industry is tough, though, and the majority of people in it are assholes. I once had my nipple bitten and had a bruise and broken skin, and the housemom and other strippers told me I should toughen up. The housemom told me her boss made her have sex with him once, and so what happened to me on the scale of sexual assault was a 1 on a scale of 1 to 10. The strippers laughed at me when I was bawling about it. This happens, and it's not right. You have to dance very, very defensively. Never give anyone the benefit of the doubt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    "get a thicker skin." .

    I hate that one-lined response and would never dish it out to anyone. I mean yeah having a thick skin helps but fuck we are human right?

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    So sorry and hope that your next dance will be a fabulous one with a 500 tip!!!

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    *sending hugs your way* That imbecile is a disgusting pig who deserves for Lorena Bobbitt (sp? ... whatever) to come pay him a visit while he's wide awake.

    We're all here for you and just because people outside of the industry are callous about your experience doesn't mean it was insignificant. We are all lucky to have each other to vent to when other people just don't understand.
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    ^Agreed! If he wants a woman to pay attention to his wang so badly then he can get the star treatment with a very sharp object...
    Or just pretend that you're going to like straddle one of his legs and *whoops* your spike heel "accidentally" gets shoved right on his dick! bahaha
    But really, I think this can be a lesson to us all... wear a chastity belt...

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    Quote Originally Posted by missmays1983 View Post
    comes with the territory? oh just like if a girl dresses sexy and being flirty then she's 'asking for it' or 'must want it'.....*sigh*

    so sorry that you had such a horrible expierence and hope you are feeling better.

    assholes like that guy are the people who have twisted issues and are fucked in the head and need 'saving'...not the strippers.
    EXACTLY! This is saying the exact same thing. How fucking dare they. I would not be friends with her for long unless she seriously apologized. Damn this made my blood boil.
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    Jeez that is some ridiculous shit. At least the bouncers had your back though. I've worked at clubs where a dude would have to strangle you half to death before he even got a warning.

    You should go fuck your friends boyfriend. then when she gets mad, you can say "What? Its comes with the territory. That's the risk you take when you have female friends."
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    That is terrible! And no it does not go with the territory!

    Good for the bouncers for asking him to leave. I've been dancing for a while and have semi-thick skin and I tell you I'd be angry and upset too. Very few patrons whip it out in front of me and if they do I tell them to zip it up or were done dancing. Again it does not go with the territory.




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    Hey, I really try and stay out of this area though I guess I broadly fit in female-stripper-to-be (one day!)

    But I just wanted to say I'm so sorry. It makes my blood boil that someone on a fucking sexual assault helpline would say something so callous. Friends can be stupid - the person you talked to should have been trained for this!

    Comes with the territory? Perhaps, but sexual assault comes with the territory of being female all too often, and that certainly doesn't mean we should accept it laying down.

    I hope it never happens again, at least not in such a violating way. People suck.

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