Sorry- kinda long
Scenario: Friday night, I've been working for 6 hours and made bumpkiss. I'm psyching myself out... is it my outfit? is it my makeup? do I smell funny? I'm getting all wound up and don't even want to approach customers at this point.
I gather the courage to walk up to a guy and start my standard sales pitch "hiya, what're you guys up to, ooh where are you from, blah blah blah" after a minute he tells me I'm wasting my breath because he's been waiting for a dance from me all night. Oh, ok.
As the dance ends he pipes up: "You know what your problem is? You know that you're just hot sh*t. You walk around here looking so confident, we all know you make more money than any other girl here" etc etc. HUH?
Obviously I'm not feeling very confident at this point, but I do make a concerted effort at all times to project an air of confidence and control. My theory has always been that men want sexy, self assured dancers and if you act like you deserve the best they will give it to you. I walk through the club with a slow but determined stride, I keep my chin up and my chest out, I look men in the eye and when we converse I don't play dumb.
After the lapdance I go up to another customer (college kid, been there for a while, bought one or two dances but rejected many offers, in my POV he's gotten stale at this point). I try to take my confidence down a notch. I alter my body language, I look down a bit, I act goofy. Within 5 minutes he's asking me for a VIP room!
Is there a lesson to be learned here or was it just a coincidence that as soon as I changed my game the entire night turned around? Has acting confident ever come between you and your money?



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