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    Default I think I want to start dancing... how do I tell my husband?

    Hey! I'm a noob to this site so let me start by saying hi and thanks for listening! I've got into pole dancing for fitness, lost about 30lbs and decided I loved the confidence and energy it gave me. I've been teaching now for almost a year and I've had several students get good paying jobs in SC's in the area. I have never thought about stripping in the past, but my husband has been unemployed for about four months now and I'm at my wit's end. We simply can't survive on my salary. There are clubs about 20 mins away... but we know so many people in the area that I'm sure I'd be discovered. There are more clubs about 80 miles away... I suppose I could do amature contests... with less likelyhood I'm recognised...

    Cons:
    I'm married and my husband would freak out...
    I work for a family oriented business and would most likely be fired if they found out...
    I'm not sure how safe it would actually be... plus what happens when the SC and RL collide?

    Pros:
    It would be great motivation to stay in stellar shape
    I definatly know how to do pole tricks
    MONEY
    Having fun hustling and flirting


    As you can see, I'm really torn. I jokingly gave him a deadline "find a job by your b-day or I'm entering amature contests" The only problem is that his b-day is in two weeks and his prospects don't look great...

    What do you ladies think? Has stripping ever cost you a relationship? Have you ever snuck around to strip? Do you think it would be worth it?
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    Default Re: I think I want to start dancing... how do I tell my husband?

    Yes, dancing has cost me a relationship... multiple actually. I was miserable when I didn't dance.

    I know a lot of dance instructors, and in my area only myself and 1 other are actually working professionals in the industry, that's about 11% in our area for teachers who are working professionals. Teaching is a lot different than actually working the club. 1 other girl here tried, and came home crying every night - she just couldn't handle it. At least two others were burned out on dancing. The others have never danced in a club. The last didn't like the way she was treated by management. It's really different to work actually in the club.

    The other thing I will forewarn you about is people won't normally tip for pole tricks, unless you have a pole dancing enthusiast... which are few and far between. If you really want to prepare for this industry you need really great stage presence. You have to smile, interact 1-on-1 with customers and create intimate "moments" if you want really good money. After that it's all about learning to hustle/sales. I might advise you to take the DancerWealth (http://www.dancerwealth.com/) training course as soon as it becomes available online again.

    Personally, I am not advising new girls to get started in this industry now. The average girls are having a hard enough time surviving, and a lot of new girls won't be able to make it in this industry without really good sales skills.
    Britney posted this link in her blog today:
    http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com...e-sellers.aspx

    I think that might be a good thing for you to read before making a decision.
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    I wouldn't dance right now unless I really had to (crossing fingers I don't) because not only is it emotionally difficult to deal with being rejected for 8 hours a night but you get paid less for it.

    Besides I can't even sell free water in the desert.

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    It's not worth it at this time. Just push the deadline back a bit until he gets a job or just tell him that you were joking in the beginning.

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    Default Re: I think I want to start dancing... how do I tell my husband?

    I think if you feel you can really talk to people and hustle them, go for it. Explain to your husband that it is almost necessary because you definitely need the money. Also, there is flexibility with dancing. You can pretty much decide when you will work and if you need to take a break, you can. It may help to say to him that you can stop whenever you feel you have enough money saved up and won't be doing it forever. Good luck!!!

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    Default Re: I think I want to start dancing... how do I tell my husband?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Yes, dancing has cost me a relationship... multiple actually. I was miserable when I didn't dance.

    I know a lot of dance instructors, and in my area only myself and 1 other are actually working professionals in the industry, that's about 11% in our area for teachers who are working professionals. Teaching is a lot different than actually working the club. 1 other girl here tried, and came home crying every night - she just couldn't handle it. At least two others were burned out on dancing. The others have never danced in a club. The last didn't like the way she was treated by management. It's really different to work actually in the club.

    The other thing I will forewarn you about is people won't normally tip for pole tricks, unless you have a pole dancing enthusiast... which are few and far between. If you really want to prepare for this industry you need really great stage presence. You have to smile, interact 1-on-1 with customers and create intimate "moments" if you want really good money. After that it's all about learning to hustle/sales. I might advise you to take the DancerWealth (http://www.dancerwealth.com/) training course as soon as it becomes available online again.

    Personally, I am not advising new girls to get started in this industry now. The average girls are having a hard enough time surviving, and a lot of new girls won't be able to make it in this industry without really good sales skills.
    Britney posted this link in her blog today:
    http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com...e-sellers.aspx

    I think that might be a good thing for you to read before making a decision.
    This is a great answer to the OP's question.

    Right now, even the hardcore hustlers are having problems making money...it is NOT a good time to get into the industry as a newbie. If you're really pressed for money, then I'd go for it. Otherwise, I wouldn't.

    And the pole trick thing is pretty much universally not appreciated in strip clubs. It's the kind of thing that other strippers will notice, but all of your customers (no matter HOW amazing the tricks you can do are) will sit there and look at you like you're wasting your time...since you should be trying to make THEM feel special instead of twirling on the pole.

    As far as your relationship goes? I am of the belief that women should do anything they want to do (within reason), and their partners should support them. If your husband really loves you, then he should love ALL of you...which includes the part of you that wants to try out stripping. What does that say about your relationship if he wants to hold you back? I don't mean to sound judgmental...but he should understand that it is a profession...not a lifestyle.

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