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    Ok, help is needed here. Do you say something sexy to customers while talking to them? What? While I am sensual dancer (when it actually comes to dances), during conversation I presenting myself as a friendly and innocent person (unintentionally, of course) rather than person who can be actually sensual. One or two customers told me so. Perhaps, part of problem is that I am trying to convince that I am totally interested in customer's life). I don't know. I getting "nice girl" comment a lot.

    I wonder how to fix this problem...

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    Default Re: Sexy talk

    I get the "nice girl" thing a lot, too--or "wholesome" or "sweet." I think it's definitely a good thing, and not a problem. Everyone likes sweet girls, and usually they're sexy as hell. If that's your angle, work it! Plenty of guys will eat that up.

    I don't usually talk sexy--I did once at a customer's request during a lap dance and it just sounded and felt incredibly awkward. To the point where he said, "Well, at least you're trying."

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    I don't bother getting all sexy until the actual dance. Acting sexy during the initial cold sell seems insincere and a little slutty.

    Of course I present myself as a sexually attractive woman, I make lots of eye contact and maybe even some light physical contact (hand on arm, hand on shoulder). Laugh and smile a lot, you can be "nice" and flirty at the same time, just keep it subtle. Maybe rub your thigh a little "oooh, I'm a little stiff from dancing all night" .

    If you want to be more overt, bring sex up in an amusing light: ask him to tell you a dirty joke, tell him about a funny sex dream you had about one of the girls on stage, if he has his phone out ask if he's ever sent sexy pictures of himself to someone, then tell him a hott story about your own experiences (make it up by all means). These conversations start off in a casual joking manner but can lead to some seriously sexy conversation.

    If you've maintained a sweet and innocent persona up until the point of sale it can be difficult to roll that into sexy lapdance chatter.

    I normally get sorta quiet at the beginning of the dance, then maybe giggle "Oh! that feels pretty nice!" Breath a little in his ear, make a contented sigh, act like you're genuinely suprised by how much you're enjoying yourself. "mmmm, this is always my favorite part of the job,... wow, you smell great, you have such sexy eyes, .... blah blah blah" if he starts getting all pervy at this point and talking dirty just roll with it, he's allready made the leap from "nice girl" to "naughty girl" in his head so there's no need to feel awkward about the transition.

    Hope that helps!




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    some examples of what I say,

    Last night I broke my vibrator. Broke it in half, right where the batteries go in! god I was so horny!

    What kind of porn do you like? I like watching _____. Who is your favorite porn actress? oh, come on, I know you have a favorite! I like ____

    Have you ever had a threesome? I had one last week with my best friend and her husband. They're swingers. It was so hot. This is what happened.....

    See that girl over there on stage? she is my girlfriend. Not like my "girlfriend" seriously, she's just the girl that I mainly have sex with. She's actually the girl that taught me how to eat pussy...

    tee hee hee.....


    Just a sample of sexual things I say to get the ball rolling without being overly sexual or corny. I suck at talking dirty. This always works by keeping the conversation going in the right direction and usually leads to repeat dances/champagne rooms

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    Thanks ! These are good tips!

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    I'm not much for sexy talk at the club but I really like PM Cinderellas and bella de jours comments. I probably wouldn't get into details but it is light hearted and on the subject of sex. If you can be silly or matter of fact about it that is a plus.

    It's almost like being one of the guys and that will score you points on top of being sexy and feminine.

    If a guy asks if I'm bi depending on my mood I'll blurt out out "Hell no! I'm addicted to cock." or bring up having a threesome with two guys instead. Or "I haven't found a pussy I like better than my own" Whatever. You can be a bit on the vulgar side then switch back to being a girly girl.

    The best thing you can do is LET THEM TALK about what they like, as long as you feel comfortable with it. You can just smile and nod or say "that sounds like fun".

    If they are getting too gross I start acting prudish and change the subject. I do this if for a couple of reasons...I get grossed out HA HA and it also challenges him to get back to where we were before which obviously costs more money. Just be subtle and let them know you have a hot button (sexy convo.) but you also have cold buttons, too much info on their part. Don't make them feel bad but let them know they are going in the wrong direction and they will want to correct it!




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    Describing an imaginary threesome has always worked well for me. Either with a couple or two guys and you. I wouldnt usually bring it up though, only if the conversation steers towards sexual experiment or he flat out asks me.

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    Sometimes I ask if they've ever had a one night stand, most men have, and you can "ooo, so what happened, where'd you hook up with her? ect ect." bonus: he will usually start getting horny as he starts to remember the details and tells you about it. Plus it makes him feel "cool" again, like he should be the persuer(sp?) if it was a back in the day or whatever. If he hasn't or doesn't want to talk about it, make up a one night stand of your own and tell him about it. You can even keep up the innocent thing and act like you were seduced, but then you started taking control...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    I don't usually talk sexy--I did once at a customer's request during a lap dance and it just sounded and felt incredibly awkward. To the point where he said, "Well, at least you're trying."
    LMFAO!

    I've only had like two or three guys ever who really tried to do the dirty talking in the back. And it went like this:

    "Oh, yeah, baby, I bet you like that, huh? I bet you like grinding on hard cocks all day. Oh, you're such a slut, you're such a nasty, dirty slut. I bet you really love this cock, huh?"

    "...yup."

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    Lolol, yeah, that's about how it goes for me, too.^^

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    i can't do sexy talk. i can -talk- about -sex- with customers, but i can't pretend to be turned on or whatever during a dance. instead, i just try to have fun and seem like im really enjoying myself. not in a "sexual" way but just in a fun/flirty way. i know i'm doing it right when customers say "you really like your job don't you?" or they make a comment about how i'm fun.

    it's a great way to still be in-the-moment and make them feel special without having to do the awkward stuff.

    you can also say sexual "naughty" stuff in a not-so-serious way. i do that all time. it's not sarcastic, per say, but it's more playful than serious. i know i;m not doing a good job at describing what i mean...

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    Sexy talk is everything to me. I try to keep all my floor conversations centered or nearly-centered on it. If the guy doesn't want that kind of talk, then I change of course, but it's pretty rare for me. My goal is to get them off the floor and into the VIP or the CR and they certainly won't go back there so we can continue to discuss my day or Isaac Newton. So why waste time? Everything I do is building up to whisking them away.

    By "sexy talk" I don't necessarily mean describing intercourse, but talking about my body (while touching my body), my hair, and using sexy adjectives - for example, when asked about my day job, I just say "Oh that's boring office stuff, here is where I come to play!!" (wink wink absent-mindedly stroke my thigh) or "...here is where I come to bounce around!" (bounce bounce look at mah boobies). I really actually mean all this stuff I say, and I like to think they can see that.

    Part of my hustle is to eventually and smoothly ask the guy what kind of lap dance he likes. What does he like to do, what does he like done, etc. And here's what really closes the sale in my experience - inevitably he asks me what *I* like when giving a lapdance. And I lean in, look him right in the eyes, maybe touch his shoulder or something, and say that, well, I like my hair tugged on, or I like to be teased, or spanked, or whatever (all of which is true and again I think he can see that). Lotsa the sexy talk. And many times at this point I can just look at him, lean in, and say, "Let's go."

    If he didn't ask me what I liked, I'd respond to one of his likes with "Oooh I like that too, and I like it when blah blahblah."

    I then make sure that, during the lapdance, the guy actually does all those things I said I liked, and that I verbally punctuate each act - i.e., a moan, "that feels good," "I love it when you do that," or a breathy "you remembered". See, I think they want to walk away feeling like they made us feel good, too. That they made an impression. They want a real back-and-forth, an actual couple-esque experience. I keep getting stacks and repeat customers and I think it's because we do something together, have an experience together. He may be feeling it all a lot more than me, but we both walk away feeling great and, what's more, we look like it (which is also excellent marketing). So when we walk back out onto the floor, I tell him, "We absolutely have to do that again." He nods intensely (which everyone sees). And inevitably we do it again. To me, the sexy talk is what glues it all together.

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