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    Hey, so, I have a dilemma that I'm sure most of you faced upon first starting to be a dancer-- I'm nervous as all hell. I auditioned a little while ago, and I've only really worked one shift since I got hired [which was pitiful-- I hid out for most of the six hours], but it's not so much the dancing or being nude that I'm anxious about. I spoke with my sister the other day [she's 10 years older than I am; I'm 18] and came about about the choice to be an exotic dancer, and she started freaking out saying that it will taint my soul and a bunch of other ridiculous spatter... But it really did make me question whether I can handle this type of work or not.

    Essentially I have one question: Have you ever regretted your choice to become a dancer or had doubts about whether you could handle it?

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    Nope. I've seen girls that were better at it and regretted that I couldn't compete at their level, but that's about it.




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    Yes , there are times when I regreted it. I swear , the fast money that comes from it is like a drug , and i'm addicted. There are times I want to stop, but can't.
    I swear I feel like dancing ''takes'' something from you. There is a little part in you that will never be able to go back to the before dancing days. You have just seen and heard and done to much.
    Ever wonder why there are so many girls who just can't seem to fully retire from dancing?
    They try, last maybe a yr or so... but then they come back. Or just move into other work in the sex industry.
    But at the same time , I do not fully regret it. There is things I have been able to do, that never in a million yrs would have been able to without dancing. For that, I am grateful for the chance.

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    well the money is addictive and it would be extremely difficult to go back to a simpler lifestyle, and i definetly hate men a whole lot more now...but those are the only negatives for me, and hating men doesn't prevent me from being in an awesome reltaionship, so no i have never ever regreted dancing
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    Default Re: Hmmm....

    Honestly, when I first started, I was very concerned for the well-being of my soul, and I still am. Not from a hellfire-and-brimstone perspective, but in the sense that I wonder, "is this good for me? Am I doing right by myself and by others?" And I have the sense sometimes that I'm selling something that isn't meant to be sold.

    I balance this guilt with the fact that I have time to pursue goals that ARE important to me and that will benefit society, I have money to donate to charities and other good causes. So I hope this counterbalances some of the harm that I sustain. But it's really a balancing act, and some days I feel worse about it than others.

    It is a very hard question that you've posed and one that you have to answer for yourself. I still haven't come to a satisfactory conclusion myself.

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    I don't regret becoming a dancer. I regret not saving money when I was younger or making some kind of plan for when I can't do it anymore. I have a plan now, but I'm about ten years behind.

    There are things about dancing that I think are bad for your soul. Being constantly objectified, even if you are being paid well for it, isn't good for anyone. Also, We see a side of people that most women will never see, and it can skew your perspective.

    That said, I've always thought that the alternatives to dancing (waitressing, retail, office work etc.) were just as bad for my soul. Every regular job I've ever had has been completely dehumanizing, and paid next to nothing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chris91 View Post
    I don't regret becoming a dancer. I regret not saving money when I was younger or making some kind of plan for when I can't do it anymore. I have a plan now, but I'm about ten years behind.

    There are things about dancing that I think are bad for your soul. Being constantly objectified, even if you are being paid well for it, isn't good for anyone. Also, We see a side of people that most women will never see, and it can skew your perspective.

    That said, I've always thought that the alternatives to dancing (waitressing, retail, office work etc.) were just as bad for my soul. Every regular job I've ever had has been completely dehumanizing, and paid next to nothing.
    I feel the same, my advice is try for a little bit longer and see how u feel, also don't tell anyone else about it until you decide it what you want alot of people don't understand x
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    i think it's your choice. it can touch you only as much and as deeply as you let it touch you.

    i made a choice not to give more than i was willing to lose, you know? i don't make as much money as i could, but i can live with myself, and i could walk away from this without ever feeling dirty or bad. i know i've never compromised myself in any way. i've never let a guy do things i wasn't okay with. i've never said i would let him so i could make more money. i've never worked high or drunk or used drugs to feel better about the job. don't get me wrong, i work full nude and high contact, but i'm comfortable with that. and if a girl isn't comfortable with that, she shouldn't do it.

    it's your life.

    go to the club and work a few shifts, and don't do a damn thing that YOU think is wrong or that makes you uncomfortable. if you think the money you can make is worth it, keep dancing. if you don't think it's worth it, find something else.

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