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    Question Getting "Regulars"

    Hi!
    By way of introduction, I'm Cinnamon and I'm new to dancing. I just started working at a club about 3 weeks ago, and things are going great...

    But I have one big question that has me a little baffled. Every night, I get asked numerous times for my phone number, for a date outside of the club, etc... even for my hand in marriage!

    I don't know how to handle these guys. On the one hand, I want to build a client base of "regulars", but I don't want to meet anyone for dinner or pretend to be anyone's girlfriend to do so.

    What's the trick to getting men to come into the club to see you regularly, without expectations of seeing you elsewhere??

    Much appreciation,
    Cinnamon

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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    Having regulars doesn't mean that u have to pretend to be anything u aren't or see custies outside of the club.

    Just being yourself, and finding customers that like you and want to spent time with you will ensure that they will be back. Making the ones that spend the most money really like you is the key! Try to figure out exactly what each guy is looking for when he comes to the club. Try to be whatever he needs (within your comfort level, obviously if what he needs is sexual- steer clear!). I find most of my regs don't even get dances, they just need someone to focus on them and make them feel good!

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    I would say if you guys had a good rapport and he was spending good money on you, and wasn't being sleazy, then it might be a good opportunity to establish a regular. BUT, if he asks for your number along the lines of "can I call you to take you out?" that's a no-no. Giving out your number should be mutually understood as a means of him finding out when he can come back to the club and see you again. If he mentions the words "date".... he's not a potential regular, he's trying to weed out extras girls for himself.

    Just my 2cents, learned by experience!


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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    He is a question about phone numbers- all the guys want your number, but I don't know about the safety issue........I've been ok with e-mails, but it isn't generating a kind of return that I want ( again with the fucking free dates they expect---er, hell NO.)
    Do we give out our numbers, or just say we'll call them when we're in next?

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    I'll get a customers number and text him the next time I work. He ends up getting my number from the text, but I don't care. If they start bothering me, I just ignore them.
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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    My usual line is:

    "You're a really nice guy, but the club has rules about not giving out our numbers to the customers or seeing them outside the club. Anyone who breaks the rules gets fired. You wouldn't want me to lose my job would you? I'd love to see you again though! I usually work on _____ from _start time_ to __end time__. Why don't you drop back in?"
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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    If a guy immediately asks for your number, 99% of the time, this guy is NOT going to be someone who will spend good money and be your regular. In my experience, regulars tend to appreciate the service you provide and enjoy what they know you can do for them inside the club.

    However, most regulars DO die off at some point. This could be after they come in and see you three times or 100. They start realizing that you're only there for the money, and they start pushing your boundaries...they think they should be treated differently from the other customers (physical stuff, phone numbers, etc.).

    When guys ask you for your number, try to be coy (or do whatever works for your personality). You can do everything from giggling and saying "silly! I can't do that!" to explaining that you have to "get to know him first" to straight up saying "obviously, I can't give my number to everyone who asks. Would you?" It depends on how hard the guy is pushing for your personal information.

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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    i have an email address that i use for customers, and only for customers. it doesn't have my real name attached to it, it has my stage name.

    even if you have an email account with a fake name, if you use it for other things, a lot of times it's easily searchable (google some of your email addresses and you might see. they can sometimes bring up usernames and posts on forums, on news articles, livejournal accounts etc, many types of accounts you might use it for)

    i email several of my regulars, but i don't give out my email address often either.
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    Default Re: Getting "Regulars"

    ditto Ruby,

    I use an email address that I offer to guys who ask (and even some who dont), and it works really well. It usually makes them happy, and if/when they write, I will write back, and let them know when I'll be in again. A few of them actually come back to look for me, and I totally regret not doing this sooner, because I could have sowed the seeds for regulars earlier in my career, haha.

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