**PLEASE DON'T QUOTE BIG CHUNKS OF THIS- I may have to delete it later. ***
This is part 2 of this saga
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=130382
I did write him an email confronting him and letting him know I had found out he was married and was pretty angry. He wrote me back, and didn't try to deny it. He said he was very sorry, that he had recommitted himself to his marriage, and stopped drinking because it "led to bad decisions" and that he had never expected what happened between us,that nothing like that had happened before or since, blah blah blah.
Anyway, I had originally decided not to tell the wife. Me reasoning was that I didn't really know if this was something he did habitually or if it really was a one time mistake.
Well...now I'm wondering. I talked to a friend at work who I knew had known him awhile back from a different bar. She was really surprised to find out he was married when I talked to her. She said that one night when he was drunk they had made plans to go out, and he gave her a number to call him at. She did- and a woman answered. She didn't know what to think so she just hung up. She didn't see him again until years later and never brought it up.
Plus...I mean, the guys been coming into my club for a couple years and I've never seen a ring. and the other girl has confirmed that she's seen him out at various clubs around town very frequently and never saw a ring either. That really doesn't sound like he's not looking for action. But I don't know how much to judge someone by that when they're in a strip club. Is it just part of the fantasy environment, like how I lie about my relationship status, and my "real" name?
So...now I'm kind of considering telling her. But I really don't know. Here's some additional factors.
1) I got super curious and looked her photo up online. I swear I KNOW THIS GIRL. I totally recongnize her, but I can't put my finger on it. I know I've seen her more than once, and I can almost remember a voice I associate with her face. I don't know if she's a friend of a friend I met somewhere, or if she works someplace I frequent or what, but I'm pretty sure I know her somehow. Which makes it both scarier to say something, and also harder to just quietly look the other way.
2) I don't know how I'd get ahold of her anyway. She had a facebook account, but strangely, it appears to have just recently been deleted. All I have is a name.
3) She's now pregnant.
4) I'm kind of worried what might happen if I do this. If I do tell her "anonymously", well, he'll probably suspect anyway. And if I show her the email exchange, he'll probably end up knowing for sure it was me. He doesn't seem the time to be vindictive or angry...but hey, I thought I knew him before, right?
So...In light of this new info...do you guys think I should tell the wife? And if so, how?



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