Yay, Mediocrity! I'm happy for you. Just do your research on this guy too and set some ground rules up front. If he's that good you might want to make sure that he doesn't string you along for nothing if you know what I mean...





Yay, Mediocrity! I'm happy for you. Just do your research on this guy too and set some ground rules up front. If he's that good you might want to make sure that he doesn't string you along for nothing if you know what I mean...
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I really hope it all works out for you , Something similar happened to a friend of mine recently, she met him at work and he paid her normal amount then he asked if he could spend more time with her outside work and pay her , he was a lonley business man not old in london on business from another country, she ended up spending 2 days with him then I saw her a week later and they were engaged he took her to Harrods and got her a £10,000 ring, this was in Oct , she left uk in Nov to spend a few weeks with him they got married, she came back to uk at xmas he took out all the girls out 4 a expensive dinner , I must say my friend has struck gold he is a great guy and so perfect guy 4 her , and now my friend is very happy, so yeah I do think thesse things can work out hope it doe's for you x
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Congrats girl! Hope you continue to have lots of fun with him!




No offense but what makes u think "whale" will want a serious relationship with a girl he pays for companionship? Right now seems like u are only entertainment to him if in fact u are being paid to accompany him. If you really like the guy why would u make him pay to date you in the firstplace, and expect this to turn into something serious? Do u think whale will find it acceptable to continue to pay you for your companionship in a serious relationship? If yes, do you really want to be so dependent on whale? If I was in ur situation, I would continue to see whale as a customer but I would not bother with him otherwise until the current relationship with ur bf and roomate is over. I would also be very careful with how u handle whale. If he thinks u do like him and it may become serious, then an I pay you for companionship relationship will not work, yet if you do not lead him on in a sense to believe u do like him on another level, whale may move on. Tricky situation for sure.





We have established a bond that is beyond customer/dancer and he is not paying me for my time. But, he did take me out for a VERY expensive dinner, and take me anywhere I wanted to go, expecting me not to pay.
I don't want him as a customer anymore. I want him to be in my life. I am not going to wax poetic on all the details. But it does say something when you talk on the phone for 2+ hrs a night, text all day, and I'm flying to see him next month, at his place.
I have ended my previous relationship and we are parting ways after the lease. Thus far we are getting along decently and not arguing; I daresay getting along better than when we were together.
I am taking it slowly, but I am happier than I have been in a very long time. I wish I could post the kissyface photos.![]()


Hi Mediocrity,
having read your posts I decided to share my story as well... I don't want to be too excited about it (I learnt how to be cautious), but I think I'm in a similar situation to you....
I met this guy for the first time 1.5 years ago.... met him again in November, he didn't remember me but as I kept thinking about what we talked about over the years I could tell him specific details about him and what happened to him years ago (we've got very similar life story as well.. ubelievable !). He acted as a complete idiot so I thought to myself that I must have been so wrong about him the first time I met him... but then he came back.. I didn't hustle him bc I though he was a jerk and I actually liked him a lot all the years ago (well, just a couple of years or so) and he's a smart ass so I just didn't want to waste my time with him...
but then he did spend some money in the end... gave me his card... I sent him a very brief e-mail but then just forgot about him as had many things to do.... so he came back just before Xmas... gave me his expensive watch & I said I'd look after it....and I did. Gave it back to him in January, he bought me a new Tag watch instead![]()
To cut the story short, I've been unbelievably lucky to have met him. I'm still cautious but I do believe I've met the love of my life, I've never experienced such mental connection with anyone ever before. It's pretty unbelievable, almost the same things happened to us in the past, we've got the same outlook on life yet we complement each other so well.
He's young, gorgeous, extremely fit (athletics&running) and relatively well-off. I didn't know if he had money or not and wasn't really interested in that (he did spend quite large amount of money in the club but one never knows if it's just credit!), I somehow presumed that somebody who is in his mid 20 and started with nothing wouldn't be rich.
I asked him today... just to know what's whatAnd he said that if he put all his assets together, he'd almost be a millionaire
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But the most important thing for me is that I know that even if he lost everything, he's the kind of person who always does well... because he's smart, hardworking, and extremely ambitious.... very much the same as me![]()
I've never felt about a guy the way I feel about him, I'm just happy to talk to him and be next to him. He really is the best boyfriend/partner one could ever asks for, I still can't believe I've actually met him and not dreamt about him !
I don't know what future holds for our relationship, but I sincerely hope that we'll be together forever.
Hope it goes all well for you, fingers crossed xxx
Syd
I checked my calendar and it's time for an update girl!





At this point in the game I suppose I can stop calling him "whale" and start calling him "M".
He came back to see me AGAIN this past week, from Wednesday to Friday. We stayed in another suite, he took me to dinner and dancing on Wednesday. Thursday morning, I had a beautiful breakfast of caprese salad and a mimosa. It was so hard to get to work, but I managed to do a half day that day. I called him to let him know I was finished and he said he was at the front door of the club. He had come to surprise me and keep me company because I said it was slow! (Not to buy dances from me, just to entertain me) I ended up leaving and just picking him up at the front door. We had a much more low key night that night, before I had to take him to the airport in the morning.
I'm going to see him in Los Angeles in eight days for my spring break! He has expressed he is totally excited to see me again. Actually, Wednesday night, while we laid in bed he told me he "absolutely adores" me. How nice is that?!
We talk every single day, most of the time for hours on end.
My ex and I are getting along extremely well. Actually far better than when we were dating, until I mention my trip. Then, unfortunately, there are water works.
Thank you everyone who shared their stories and gave me input. This was the best decision I could have ever made!




Glad to see that you are taking things to the next step with "M" and most importantly not being dependent. Good for you and best of luck!



AHHH!!
so happy for you![]()





Eeek! I am happy for you! Just keep us updated and be careful.
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I've got one in town until the 28th. He's actually cool. Wish he was a local, but hey, I'll take it.
Totally awesome, decent looking, smells good, does not try to touch me ever, hasn't asked for my number or my real name, or if I have a BF....just wants to come in 2x a week and spend, spend, spend.
God bless his soul![]()









I think what Lklucky is trying to say is that those of us who have worked in Vegas for years have seen this EXACT same thing (including your updates). Whether through our own experience or a friends, is has not once ended with a love match.
I hope yours is the exception. Just don't become dependent or alter your life plans to accommodate him.
I wish you the best but don't allow yourself to be blinded.
^ I'd agree. I had an extremely generous SD in Vegas (and I don't live anywhere near there!), and things seemed perfect...but definitely didn't turn out the way I thought they would. Then again, I kept sexual contact out of the SD/SB relationship...so maybe you'll have more luck.
I hope you do! Seriously.




Well, I am not sure if I missed it but I don't think your updates included anything about being honest about the boy. The only reason it would matter at this point since you have already broken it off with him is because it would give 'M' the opp to fess up for anything he has currently going in his life. I did note that you mentioned that you now have a "NON-EXCLUSIVE" relationship. Does this mean he has someone else in his life that you are not tell us about? It doesn't make a difference to me- I think you could still be happy with him even if he does, but not mentioning it to us would mean that you may have issues with that type of situation?
In any event, whatever 'M' is to you- at least meeting him got you away from the ex! If it doesn't work out you will be sad, but not nearly as unhappy as you were in your last relationship!
BTW, I met my husband while still with my ex. I had been trying to leave for WELL over a year of a 5 year relationship. Meeting my hubby gave me a huge push to do what I REALLY needed to do for myself...get away from the one you can't stand to be with anymore! I am one of the lucky ones who actually traded up and stayed with him!!!
Good luck! You sound sooooooo happy!





Nakita's situation sounds really familiar to mine. I had a guy I was with for a long time. I was trying to break things off with him for over a year. A new guy came around and it really gave me the push to get forceful with getting the old guy out of my life. If anything else someone new can be a motivator!
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Bear with me, as I bare my situation -- you all are always great listeners and commentators. Reading this post, I had to divulge.
A couple months ago, I was working (day shift) and this new guy was there - he was drinking a beer and watching the game but once I came out on stage his eyes were glued to me. He tipped me well on stage and the second I was done he asked me to come sit with him, bought a few dances. After the dances we continued talking and hit it off - talking politics, books, art, race (he found my studies in sociology fascinating). He put in his phone the days I work and started coming back regularly. (I should probably also mention he's really cute!) He would bring me DVD's, spend some good cash, and most importantly, provide really nice conversation. Needless to say, feelings have developed on both our sides.
An aside: I could tell he was a real strip club novice when I first met him. Since then, he told me he met me on his 2nd time in a strip club and since he met me he pretty much only comes back for me.
Anyway, like the 4th time he met he told me that he lives with his girlfriend. Yet, she is cool with him coming to SCs from time to time. However, after like his first few weeks coming in to see me, he told me he was feeling guilty about this, and that his relationship wasn't going very well, and he has never cheated/been dishonest in a relationship before, and given his newfound feelings for me he felt he was now being dishonest. VERY long story short, he has now told his girlfriend about me and they are in the process of breaking up (which will be tricky since they own a place together, etc). I have made it clear that he shouldn't break up with her with the intention of starting a relationship with me (I am in a serious relationship, though its an open one and we are allowed to see other people, of my own). He assured me that he's not breaking up FOR me, or with any illusions about what might happen between us, but that meeting someone exciting and politicized made him realize just how much of a dead end his relationship is in.
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I am very, very happy. Going to L.A. tomorrow!
As far as the "non-exclusive" thing, I am currently the only person in his life and vice versa. But seeing as we live in different cities and that I am not ready for something super serious, I elected to keep it open ended for the time being. My relatiosnhip I just ended was a pretty long one, so even though I enjoy M's company etc etc, I don't want a serious boyfriend right now. Takin' it sloooow.
Oh, and I was honest with M about my status, and broke up with the guy I was with after the first date. Like you Nakita, I just needed a push y'know? Proof there was something better out there!
I will write more when I get there ladies. Thank you!!





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