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    Okay, I'm always the one at work that gets along with everyone. Or at least I try to. I'm NEVER one of the mean chicks and I'm always helpful. This is why I'm almost alway the girl to "train" new girls.


    So, we get a new girl last week and she's kinda not understanding what to do. On her first day, I showed her the ropes and kinda walked her through everything. Then, by the end of the night, she's crying saying "What am I doing wrong? No one wants to talk to me and i didn't make any $." I suggested that "Firstly, you've been in the dressing room most of the night. Get out there and meet people. Secondly, your walking around without confidence." She went out there and made at least something.

    The next couple of days were just a MESS. Thurs-Sat, she cried EVERY NIGHT. The other girls were so fed up with it and they're like "If your not cut out to do this, just quit already." I FELT SO BAD. She then starts crying and crying. The next night she comes in, follows me around all night, and by the end of the night shes crying again and the girls are ripping on her again telling her to just "quit already because we're not going to baby her." I'm to the point where I'm even irritated. She tells the owner of the club that the girls are being mean to her and he called a meeting where we were all told that we have to work together and blah blah. Then he punished all of us by cutting us all off drinking! Now, I'm kinda getting sick of her.

    Sorry for the RANT but what should we do?

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    Tell the owner to help her....... hahahah.
    I know dancing can be really hard, especially if you are starting out in these times when more is expected, guys are pinching pennies, and girls are more aggressive. Maybe you need to say something to her to the effect of that? Like dont feel bad, you just need to get used to it kind of thing. It could also be that the club is not really for her- i have clubs that i worked at that made me want to cry because it wasnt really my kind of people there.

    But then again some girls just cant do this shit. A lot of girls think they can do it because they want or need the money but are not being honest with themselves about what it takes. In this bad economy more and more chicks who dont belong in this business are filtering through trying to find their place- some of who never will!!! I cant stand it because many times they pass their scaredy cat energy around. What goes through their minds is all kinds of judgements that make it hard for them to accept what the job really is. I have girlfriends that stay aways from ALL other girls in the club for exactly this reason. Imagine how strippers talk about "extras" girls- and then think that this is what the newer girls or girls who dont dance think of us. Its like a ladder where everyone is judging the girl next to her for doing a little more than she would feel comfortable doing.

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    Rican, I'll be honest, stop wasting your time trying to be a mentor to these newbies. I can only imagine how this can mess up her hustle.

    Maybe tell her she should check out SW. Or, tell her to read the book SuperFlirt by Stacey Cox.







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    Hey Cinnamon. Long time no talk. How are you doing?

    Yea, I think I'm to the point where I'm just going to ignore her. I feel like she thinks I'm the only one she can come to. I'm going to tell my work I need a break from training new girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Rican, I'll be honest, stop wasting your time trying to be a mentor to these newbies. I can only imagine how this can mess up her hustle.
    You're at work to make money for yourself, not to hold the hands of girls who have no business being in a strip club. You'd actually be doing this girl (and any others like her) a giant favor by making her go it alone. If she has no one to lean on and cry to, she'll figure out a lot sooner that she's not cut out for dancing and she can move on. Like the poster above said, just b/c you need/want money doesn't mean you can be a dancer.

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    She honestly sounds like she's not cut out for the hardships of the job.

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    Yeah, she does. I mean if she keeps crying every night. Not seeming to make much money, i dont know if this area is for her.

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    Yea, if she does this at work tonight and decides to "snitch" on all of us again. I'm going to just tell the manager that she shouldn't be working here.

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    True, but has she changed yet. If she hasnt then yeah i think that might be best. Say its for her best doing because she cant handle it

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    It's really nice of you to help her out. I definately agree with cinnonman kisses about suggesting stripper web to her. By telling the manager that everyone is mean to her, she is only going to create a hostile work environment and that will only makes things worse for herself! Silly girl!
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    Well not trying to create a hostile enviroment. I just meant if it looks like it is really affecting her, emotionally, and effecting the customers as well. I dont mean anything bad by that.

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    I totally agree with ya Angel! I meant the dancer who keeps crying and telling the manager on everyone is going to create trouble for herself!

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    If the manager knows that you're always the one who ends up being the "new hire trainer," can you talk to him and explain the situation? Just tell him, "look, I tried to help her, and then she spends all this time crying and freaking out. Nobody's trying to be mean, but she's affecting everyone."

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    Personally, I feel that "new hire trainers" should train (i.e. hold the hand of) the new girl for half of a shift (or an entire shift, at most!). Then, it is up to the new girl to either sink or swim. She can come back and ask questions/advice from time to time but that's about it... It sounds like the job doesn't fit her if she has been crying for days, she might have to look into other industries.

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    Thats true. I think she came into the business thinking she can handle it, but found out she couldn't. Or maybe its just the club atmosphere or the certain club that is getting to her. Sometimes its good to just ask too. Then suggest the right move for her, or talk to the "new hire trainer" because if she continues to work there, and crying every night she just might bring the whole clubs vibe down, and that might be bad for business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by *~Angel~* View Post
    Thats true. I think she came into the business thinking she can handle it, but found out she couldn't. Or maybe its just the club atmosphere or the certain club that is getting to her. Sometimes its good to just ask too. Then suggest the right move for her, or talk to the "new hire trainer" because if she continues to work there, and crying every night she just might bring the whole clubs vibe down, and that might be bad for business.
    I agree. The club might not fit her work style or it just probably isn't a comfortable environment for her. She sounds super young. Maybe she doesn't know that there are other options and she doesn't have to keep on coming back to something that isn't making her feel emotionally well. Let her know that if she really wants to be in the business, there are other clubs to try.

    On the other hand, it also could be a personal problem. And, all that crying might not have anything to do with work...

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    Try there are some places that arent that bad to work at, especially for a young girl. Aah, that could be true. Maybe something personal, before you do anything you should attempt talking to her to try to figure out what is hurting her so much, and then you can work it from there. If it was a personal problem, im sure with a little help and support she will pull through. Just check up on her okay, don't just totally assume its work related. I dont know, i guess my advice would be to talk to her to see if she would confide in you and tell you whats been bothering her.

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    She cries all the time because it gets her attention. Ignore her from now on. If she doesn't get any more attention from her crying fits, she'll eventually either quit or get to work.

    Her parents probably gave her whatever she wanted if she just cried enough. The real world isn't quite as simple as that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    She cries all the time because it gets her attention. Ignore her from now on. If she doesn't get any more attention from her crying fits, she'll eventually either quit or get to work.

    Her parents probably gave her whatever she wanted if she just cried enough. The real world isn't quite as simple as that.
    I agree. She's just crying to get attention, so you're best bet is to just ignore her as best as you can. She doesn't sound like she can handle the job, if she's crying about it every night.

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    One of the best things I loved about dancing and starting out as a 19 year old is that it was one of the first times I was treated like an adult!

    I don't know how old she is and it doesn't matter but I agree with others that she is seeking attention.

    You are too kind to help her out as long as you did. One night of training is all she needs to get started and if she is crying, the management should send her on her way and maybe tell her to come back in a week or two. Devastating as that may be that's how the world works.

    If she can't deal by then she is probably in the wrong line of work.

    She may have some other underlying issue that she needs to take care of. She is either unaware of if or already knows what her own deal is.

    Good luck.




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    Im surprised your club even asked you to help... at my first club I wasn't assigned anyone. I was given a tour and then just told to start working.lol.

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    Off topic but the past week I've wanted to bawl my eyes out.
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    Does she want her ass beat?! Why the hell would she call out all the girls like that to the manager? She probably does want attention or something.

    Like some of the other girls said, I would ask the girl what her problem is, because she may not be cut out for this job. Really, she sounds like a spoiled brat who wants everything handed to her.

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    She might snap out of it, but my guess is probably not. I've definitely had days where I come home and cry, but I've managed to keep it together at work. How is the cry baby doing lately? We need an update lol.

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    I went through a period of time about 6 months ago where I was crying all the time at work. It was pathetic and the result of work anxiety and real life stress. I'm glad people were nice but firm with me. Everyone was like "It'll be ok. Go home and get your shit together".

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