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    I have one regular who has been comming to my club for years, much longer than I have been there. All the staff know and like him and for some reson, when I started there, he took a liking to me. Now every time he comes in, he asks for me, will have a drink sitting on the table for me when I come over and will spend the better part of the night either buying me drinks and talking or getting dances. I acctually kinda like the guy, but still, he's just a customer.

    One night, he asked me how much he would have to pay me to go get a drink with him at a regular bar after work. After asking around with the staff (all who said he was a good guy, and I would be safe) I said yes, on the condition that I picked the bar (we went to one where I know the bouncers and most of the staff). Great. Things kept going like this for a while but lately, each time he comes in he spends less on dances and still excepts me to go for a drink with him after work, but he's stopped payng me for this either. I don't want to lose him as a customer but he seems to just want friendship more (he knows I have a bf). How do I explain I like his company, but only if he's paying, without hurting his feelings (i.e. pissing him off so he wont spend anything on me)?

    To make things worse, he works at my local grocery store so I have to see him everytime I go buy food. Wasn't a problem at first, but I want to keep this as a professional relationship only - whichc he doesn't.

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    Default Re: Regulars and friends

    you need to get this relationship back on track, by hinting that you can't go out because you need the money. "o, i'd love to hang out w/ you, but i still need $200" (wink wink) he needs to relearn that your time = money, so stop any kind of free interaction
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    Quote Originally Posted by saphire123456 View Post
    you need to get this relationship back on track, by hinting that you can't go out because you need the money. "o, i'd love to hang out w/ you, but i still need $200" (wink wink) he needs to relearn that your time = money, so stop any kind of free interaction
    exactly... hint at it. if he still doesn't get it then just be blatantly honest about it.. don't waste ur time on something that's no longer making you any money.

    you have to see him at the grocery store? O man.. I would feel so awkward.lol.

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    I had this same thing happen with a regular that I've had for about a year. Never outside the club, but I always hung out with him throughout the night, he bought dances, etc. If we weren't doing dances he would just randomly put money in my garter just for hanging out.

    Slowly he started getting less dances, then phased out giving me money just to hang out. I hinted by telling him that I needed to get back to work if I was hanging out and not making money. I even mentioned that he doesn't get dances as frequently before. So, he started getting more dances- but now seems pretty distant. I've started redirecting my attention elsewhere- lately it hasn't even been worth my time!

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