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    hey every1, im new to the board and have been stripping for only a short time. usually the clubs ive worked are frequented by average guys/older men that im not attracted to at all..

    however, two nites ago a gorgeous younger guy who just stood out came in, by himself and i coudlnt keep my eyes off him. he ruined my hussle for the nite bc i was watching him like mad and seeing how he likedh the other girls...which he didnt seem to. he was about my age (22) and sorta cocky but was so pretty and had some aura about him i couldnt really finger.

    finally i approached him (yes i was actually nervous) while he was at the bar and got him for a dance. the whole time he was nonchalant but at the same time very into it.... i offfered a second dance and he didnt want it

    we talked back at the after and he was just so impressive! smart, sexy, sweet, everything! i think im in love aready

    is this really bad??? im still a "newbie" to this and want advice from all u girls. i almost dont wanna see him again just to forget about him and not allow him to screw up my nites

    but has this happened to anyone??? what do u more experienced girls do in situations like this?..

    thanks! and i love this board girls!! xo vicky

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    I met my boyfriend of 2 years at work. It's nice meeting someone at work, because you never have to have the awkward "I'm a stripper... is that ok?" talk.

    At this point, if you've exchanged numbers, treat it like you had met him anywhere else. Watch out for two things: 1. If he's not ok with your job and he'll eventually make you choose between the job or him (always choose the job, btw) OR 2. If he's really into your job and is only dating you because you're a stripper and not the person you are.

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    This happened to me too. I plunged ahead with it, and my best customer and I have been seeing each other for several months now, and it is BY FAR the best relationship either one of us have had.

    Just be careful!
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    My opinion usually to stay away from guys at the club. However, if you are insistent on dating him at least get a background check done on him. If you don't know why or you think that sounds odd PM me and I'll tell you why.
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    I've had this before....there was a guy in the club that looked a lot like someone famous (he wasn't though) and I was just I asked him for a dance and he politely declined....I wanted to go back and offer to pay *him* for it


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    Nice, Im sure it happens all the time to girls. Its basically like meeting a guy elsewhere, just your working, and it may not be appropriate. Again, I would be careful too though.

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    Like I always say...we meet SO many people on the job, it's statistically impossible to never find someone w/ whom you connect. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

    If you're really new to the job, however, then it's much harder to weed out the really good guys from the "I'm really attacted to you" guys. If you aren't used to a ton of male attention, then it can be overwhelming how suddenly, everyone you see in the club wants to be with you and would gladly give you their numbers. So is this a true connection? Or is this an instant attraction that wouldn't really translate beyond the club doors?

    As other members have advised, be VERY careful with this. You create a fantasy at work, and he can create a fantasy just as easily (as in, he might not be who he says he is). Obviously, any kind of relationship can have unforseen pitfalls, but our jobs tend to come with extra risk that requires extra precautions.

    In my two+ years of dancing, I've requested four peoples' numbers--and THREE of these occurred in my first year. As time goes on, I imagine you too will become much pickier about who catches your attention.

    Then again, he could be your soul mate! Seriously. Just be careful and go with what your gut tells you.

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    Yes yes just be careful you are new to it still. You should figure out yourself completely in the job first before taking it too seriously. You will meet thousands of people in your job. I met my husband dancing but I spent a year getting to know him before even dating him. Take your time and enjoy the ride.





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    thx for the replies girls...its not that im new and not used to male attention. hes just one ofthe sexiest guys ive ever seen.. period. if he stops by again im def nabbing him

    whats this about the background check? can you msg me about it klea 2?

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    Definetelly go nab him...lol, you go girl.

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    I met my guy at work, my friend met her husband at work.
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    Awww, see it does happen. You just have to be careful.

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    Default Re: insane attraction to costumer???

    Just be careful since you are new!

    One night and did a bunch of dances for this guy and thought 'wow cute' and I liked talking to him as he was polite, interesting and seemed to realize that I was 'working' and wasn't trying to wheel and deal me. Not a regular at my club as I had never seen him before. He asked me to meet for coffee/food after work but we both got kinda side tracked but even on that night my intuition was nagging at me. Then I just passed it off as nothing.

    Then a few months later I saw him and my first thought was "there's that cute boy I talked to a few months back".

    Basically I wasn't going to let him get away this time and my thoughts were that night "he doesn't belong here and I think he just needs a good girlfriend."

    He asked me out for coffee/food again and I refused because I don't meet guys from the club after work. He gave me his number this time and I called him a few days later.

    Turns out we have an awful lot in common and get along very well as girlfriend and boyfriend.

    We're good travel partners too.

    FYI I've been working in the clubs for a lot of years and it took me this long to actually DATE someone that I met there. I think the timing has to be right. Maybe if you see this guy again you can give him the hint that your interested. If he doesn't give you his number and he is about to leave out, give him yours because you'll kick yourself if you don't.




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