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    Thumbs up How has dancing affected you positively?

    If any of you are like me, the first thought that comes to mind when someone says, "You are too good for stripping! It's so degrading!" is "If only you knew how wrong that is..."

    Stripping has it's negative side like anything else does. However, dancing has affected me in so many more positive ways than just about any other life experience I have had so far.

    I'll list mine first and then if anyone would like to list theirs, I think it could be an uplifting thread to look at whenever we are feeling down or not wanting to go to work!

    Dancing has:

    * Made me more assertive. I was one of those girls who wanted everyone to think she was "nice" and that always translated into being walked all over.
    * Given me multitudes more of self confidence. Whereas I would pretend to be confident before dancing, now I can walk into a room and feel powerful and sure of myself. This also carries over into my romantic life - I would never date the men I did in the past! I have more respect for myself and will choose someone outstanding the next time I am in a relationship.
    * Caused me to be more financially independent and actually interested in accruing wealth as opposed to spending recklessly on useless things the minute I had a paycheck!
    * Given me a new interest in fitness and building a healthy, strong and sexy physique that will be an asset at work instead of a reason to be insecure.
    * Caused me to be much more open minded and free spirited about sexuality and how people express theirs.
    * Helped me cut toxic and critical "friends" out of my life. If you can't be associated with a stripper, I can't possibly be associated with a narrow minded person like you!

    Okay let's hear yours!
    Originally Posted by MarvelGirl
    I am, however, very concerned about hair syphillis. I can't seem to find any information about this horrible disease caused by high heels. Somebody please, help me out here before I catch it.

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    What you think about and thank about, you bring about. xox Lexi

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    Default Re: How has dancing affected you positively?

    I, too, have benefited from increased confidence. Things just don't faze me any more. I mean, we take our clothes off for money. There's not much scarier than that to most people!

    I am MUCH more protective of my money! I don't let people rip me off or take advantage of me financially.

    I have a new understanding of sex and money and I feel like I "get" the way the world really works.

    I have no patience for people who want to waste my time!

    I have time and money to pursue and complete creative projects. I just completed a novel and it's the first thing that I've written that I'm really proud of.

    I'm in the best shape of my life.

    I've met fascinating people, both dancers and customers, whom I never would have otherwise.

    My savings account is fatter than it's ever been.

    I feel unfazed by things that might provoke a crisis in other people. I've become a tough cookie!

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    I think a lot of those apply to me too, not to mention.... I can sell a tv to a blindman!!!
    Really, I feel like sales is my ''thing'' now.

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    Default Re: How has dancing affected you positively?

    ive definitely learned alot about the opposite sex, also some about the same sex!

    i learned to protect myself and not be so naieve (SP?) and more positive. it doesnt do you any good to complain, and chances are no one will listen!
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    - I'm in the best shape of my life, for sure. I probably would have stayed just a little bit overweight, had I not decided to dance, and when I gained a bit back, I would have been much lazier about working that off. At 27, I'm in better shape than I was in when I was a skinny teenager!

    - I'm financially independent, and as location-free as I want. I can go almost anywhere in the country that interests me, and find work within a night or two.

    - My sales skills are getting sharper every day. So's my work ethic.

    - Guys have never been much mystery to me, but I was never good at being around girls before I started dancing. Now... well, I'm still not great at it, but the idea of being in a room full of girly girls doesn't make me want to hide or punch stuff anymore, either.

    - With that, I've also learned how to do really cool eye makeup. And walk in high heels. I used to be a strictly combat boots and plain black crayon eyeliner sort of chick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post

    I have time and money to pursue and complete creative projects. I just completed a novel and it's the first thing that I've written that I'm really proud of.
    That is amazing! Congratulations.
    Originally Posted by MarvelGirl
    I am, however, very concerned about hair syphillis. I can't seem to find any information about this horrible disease caused by high heels. Somebody please, help me out here before I catch it.

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    What you think about and thank about, you bring about. xox Lexi

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    Default Re: How has dancing affected you positively?

    I think this job has helped me alot like in the same ways as mentioned above, I like the fact that Im always learing more like hustle and tricks etc, u can neva learn too much, I am much more open minded than before from meeting different types of people girls and guys, I plan to travel more than I would have cos I always meet people who share storys of places, Ive always got goals and plans and neva feel stuck and Ive deffo learned loads since finding SW.

    If I could change anything It would be only to have started dancin a few years earlier.
    xoxo

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    Default Re: How has dancing affected you positively?

    I don't have any ways to share (yet) but I just want to say that this thread is a brilliant idea.

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    1) I have kind of bony legs, badly enough that from about age 4 kids at school would bully me and make fun of me about them. It got bad enough that I used to cry every day after school, and from about age 11 on I refused to ever wear skirts or shorts that were above my knee. That continued until I started stripping about a month before I turned 21. And dancing gave me a huge amount of confidence about them. Now I have no problem wearing skirts or shorts, and you know what? People, at work and in public, compliment me about my legs more than any other part of my body (except maybe my tits and hair, lol).

    2) I've become a lot more open-minded

    3) I've become a lot more confident about saying "no." I used to have a bit of an issue with telling a guy no if he wasn't being really, really forcibly pushy. Like, if they were just gradually testing boundaries, I never really knew exactly where to draw the line, and they'd get away with more shit. Now, at the first sign of something like that, I have no problem saying firmly, "No, I don't do that."

    4) I am more fit and healthy than I've ever been in my life. I weighed 105 when I started dancing, and I was a size 6. I still weigh 105, but now I'm a size 0. It's still kind of weird when I flex my thighs and feel them, and they're hard as a rock.

    5) Ditto on the writing thing. I've had this whole series of books planned out since I was about 13, and now I have the time to write and edit, and when the words are hard to find, I have plenty of time to read other books and find inspiration.

    6) With the money, I can afford to eat a lot healthier, and my body feels a lot cleaner.

    7) I've started fixing the credit that my ex boyfriend totally ruined. I've also started fixing my license, which has been suspended since early 2006, and expired on my 21st birthday over a year ago.

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    I''ve learned to embrace my work strengths and weaknesses as opposed to being what an employer or society expects me to be, instead I've become more of who I really am as a person.
    I've learned the importance of thinking for myself and how this has resulted in an enriching happy life , as opposed to working in a lousy 9-5pm job that limits my potential. I also became aware that I am more of an entrepreneur and I excel better in my life in all aspects working for myself.

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    ^^ Dance77, I completely feel the same way.

    When I would hear people say, "Be Yourself" before it just sounded cliche and didn't mean anything to me. What did they mean, be myself? Who else did they think I was acting like?

    Well - now it holds meaning for me. I've had an interest in adult work like dancing, etc., for a long time but hid that part of my personality because it wasn't "acceptable" for a "good" girl to be interested in those things. I have examples of this kind of behavior that could go on for a whole thread on their own BUT suffice it to say, dancing has introduced me to myself. My real self. And I like her more and more everyday

    It also opened my eyes to the fact that life wasn't over after getting a college degree; I had dreaded picking a major and graduating because all I envisioned was the next 40 something odd years, toiling away at a job that was bearable but not fulfilling. Now I see that I don't have to pick an ACCEPTABLE job to everyone else. I don't have to be something nice and NORMAL just because it's expected. I can actually have an amazing life full of adventure, independence and intense experiences. A "career" does not have to involve a desk and a stale office. Whether I dance for the next 2 years or 20, I know that dancing has irrevocably changed my life for the better.
    Originally Posted by MarvelGirl
    I am, however, very concerned about hair syphillis. I can't seem to find any information about this horrible disease caused by high heels. Somebody please, help me out here before I catch it.

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    What you think about and thank about, you bring about. xox Lexi

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    dancing has affected me positively in a lot of ways, mostly because now i never worry when i'll have the money to buy pampers for my daughter or pay my bills. as a single mom, being a server was a struggle. i have a lot more body confidence and a lot less insecurities, i haven't even been dancing for 6 months and my body seems to have taken on a sexier shape. this job is definately an opportunity and stepping stone for someone trying to make something from nothing. i have a little less stress, because i kno im pretty good at my job and it will always be there... even if i do call off sometimes. ive met some girls i really get along with, as well as more haters, but its nice to be able to meet someone you click w/... since so many people are haters/close-minded... its not hard to lose friends b/c of ur job. overall, i wouldnt trade my job for almost anything in the world right now.. not to sound conceited, but i feel so blessed that i'm able to use to my beauty to get ahead. i'm optimistic that the american dream is still alive somewhere and i'm gonna find it!.

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    I love this thread! I agree with all of you ladies' posts. I'll probably add something myself later, but I wanted to subscribe before I forgot!

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    Dancing has affected me positively:
    1. im no longer as naive because most strippers arent your "friends" and you cant trust them, and also with customers ripping you off. in high school i was a total doormat and i let alot of people get away with too much bullshit around me, i no longer do this
    2. boosted my confidence, its our job to look pretty, stage and vip has toned up my body, since im nake most of the time i take alot better care of my body, hair, skin and the money makes it easier to do this.
    3. encourage me to continue my education, and help me pay for it! an realize i cant do this forever but its a good way to start.
    4. gaine financial inependence, now i can pay all my bills on time, buy a nice condo and a nice car and still be able to save alot.
    5. makes you realize who your real friends are and whos not worth keeping,
    6.i get to travel and potentially work wherever i go

    these are the things that i can think of off the top of my head but im sure theres alot more then i can think of right noww!

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    This is a wonderful thread!

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    I love this thread! You girls are awesome. And I don't want to be repetitive and say the same things as you, though yes, I've been empowered personally and financially. The one thing I will say is, (this may be T.M.I.) I was never comfortable with having someone go down on me before, but since getting a lot of confidence after working as a stripper, I am totally able to enjoy being pleasured in that way (this is in my own personal life, not at the club, lol). Yay!

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    Like a few mentioned it's helped my sales. I learned to "sell" myself (not literally) through dances, and later when I started a party company those skills came in handy. I have a strong aptitude for sales and marketing. I even went back to school to get marketing as a minor (I should have gone for a major). I've managed to get marketing jobs and have done wonderful at them. If I never danced, I wonder if I would have known I have this skill.

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    o More self confidence.

    o Don't seem to have the same problems that girls who are not strippers have. I'm not better and I used to not be a stripper but still. I see and handle things differently now.

    o More assertive. It took a while but I'm less of a doormat than before.

    o Keeping up on the trends. I'm always up to date on clothes, make up, music and hair!

    o Different perspective on a lot of things. I almost feel more worldly knowing more about men, women, money, politics and what have you.

    o I judge LESS. I don't hate men or women and just know how people can be. They can be benevolent or they can be monsters at their best and worst. Some know better, some don't and some have both traits in different areas. I've also found that bodies come in all shapes and sizes too.

    o Don't sweat the small stuff. Learn to move on from the little things that don't really matter.

    o Age is just a number. Did you know Dita Von Teese will soon be in her late 30's? Life really does start at 30.
    Tempest Storm stills entertains and she's like 90!




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    This thread makes me want to go back to dancing

    I was an extremely shy child and teenager and when I started dancing I actually lost a lot of my shyness... most likely from being forced to interact and talk with so many different people. I found that I was able to actually strike up conversations with strangers almost anywhere and just be more social in general.

    I also gained a lot of self-confidence and learned to embrace attention... meaning I wasn't afraid to go out wearing a very sexy outfit or looking sexy and be looked at. Before, I would have been so worried about people thinking "that girl has no right to wear that" because of my own insecurities.

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    dancing have helped me become more sociable and less shy. I've learned a lot of different things just by being around men who are much older with lots of work/educational experiences. I've definitely become a much more open minded and well rounded individual. Oh yes and it helped me with my self confidence also, even though I still need a lot of work in that area!

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    Stripping helped me most in the "drama" department. And the appreciation of my boyfriend - who doesn't create drama in my life. I watch WAAAAY too many girls freaking out and sobbing or punching lockers thanks to home drama, or coming into the DR from the floor tripping out about something some girl said. None of that shit fazes me anymore. I don't let myself get sucked into drama, nor do I associate myself with people who have drama - in or out of the club.

    And it hits me, every night when I come home from work, just how lucky I am to have a man in my life who supports me in everything I do. And who loves me unconditionally - he's not threatened by my job or my tattoos or anything stupid like that. He's secure, and strong. We have a wonderful relationship, and seeing the people around me who aren't so lucky really drive that fact home.

    I don't think I'm better than anyone else - not at all. I hope that didn't come across as arrogant or conceited or anything!

    I also, echoing the responses of a few of the girls here, have learned a lot in regards to self confidence. Women (and men too!) come in all shapes and sizes and from all walks of life. I used to be one of THOSE girls, who thought I wasn't good enough, or judged people and thought they weren't good enough. I cut that shit right out. lol I'm still getting over a lot of my own insecurities and thoughts of "not being good enough" but, when someone tells me that I'm beautiful, or when I notice that I'm getting attention in a sexy outfit - I'm more comfortable with that fact. I went from a "No freaking way, stop lying to me." or wondering if I had toilet paper stuck to my shoe and THAT'S why people were staring to enjoying the attention, and being able to accept that people do, indeed, find me attractive.


    Great thread!
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    ...sweet things alone are not enough. Seduce me with more fire."

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    I have an even more positive body image (because I am more conscious of my body), know how to do makeup, have an easier time talking to people (especially strangers) without nervousness, and am in great shape thanks to pole dancing.

    Oh, and I can finally walk in heels

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