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    hey all, i went to my first club a few weeks ago with my friend and have been to few others since then.

    i know the girls are there to basically be flirtatious and to create a fun atmosphere, but im wondering if a dancer's compliments are genuine or just for show?

    i had 4 different girls tell me i was cute/good looking, smelled good, dressed nice, etc...none of them were on the same shift together and this happened at 2 different clubs. i just say "thanks" and continue on with the conversation we were having.

    im curious to know if this is part of their hustle. what do you girls have to say about this?

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    Genuine? Hmmm, that depends on what you mean. I actively look for something I admire about the customer, so as to make him feel good. It would be absurd to tell someone with no teeth he had a nice smile, or whatever.

    Did the compliments make you feel nice? If the answer is yes, then the dancers were just doing their jobs.


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    ahhh...dreamer...- yup, thats pretty appropriate
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Genuine? Hmmm, that depends on what you mean. I actively look for something I admire about the customer, so as to make him feel good. It would be absurd to tell someone with no teeth he had a nice smile, or whatever.
    , yeah i can see where that would be an outright lie. but see, i think you are being genuine with that statement above. you see something you like in the customer and (i assume) compliment them on it. seems like a win/win situation, he feels good about it and you probably get a nicer tip.

    but im sure not all dancers are like you and would probably tell a customer with no teeth that they have a great smile in hopes of a better tip. so im sure it depends on the dancer.

    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Did the compliments make you feel nice? If the answer is yes, then the dancers were just doing their jobs.
    honestly, i would just say "thanks" and move on with the conversation. 2 of the dancers that told me this didnt ask me for a LD, we just chatted and had our drinks.

    since im a newbie to these clubs, im just curious to know whats a common thing dancers say to customers as part of their job or what could be a genuine compliment, and based on the replies so far it looks like these compliments are probably not genuine (but i guess it depends on the actual dancer):

    "you're cute"
    "you smell good"
    "you're dressed nice"

    can you ladies add some more? im thinking perhaps "you turn me on" could be another.

    p.s. my mom says im cute , so there ...lolz

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    Now unless you have extremely low self esteem ,you probably know if you are dressed well or smell nice. Now the compliment on your looks,well that's a bit more subjective,isn't it? But if your mom says you're cute,how can ya argue with that? Nobody loves ya like your mother!!!

    I just don't understand why so many dancers who responded assume most compliments are insincere. It's absolutely AMAZING to see the effect our kind words have on another human being-saying something as basic as "you look nice today", you can notice the person's posture improves, a smile comes over his/her face that lends a glow to the person's complexion.

    Well,you can find something positive to say about most anyone. Is that wrong? Maybe I'm a goodie goodie in that aspect,but it makes ME feel good to make someone else feel good. Cheers! Harlow
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    I concentrate more on the aspects of him that I think he's trying to get noticed. If he's wearing something button-down, I tell him it's nice to see someone so dressed up. If he bathed himself in cologne, I tell him he smells really good. He believes it's genuine because, deep down, he wanted me to say something.

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    We have a customer who has a fabulous smile and always smells FANTASTIC. The fact that he is respectful, gracious, and generous, clinches the deal. With him, for sure, my compliments are always quite sincere, we all love to see him! There are many customers that are easy to compliment, and I always do.

    When it is not so easy, I, also, still try to find something nice to compliment them on. The only insincere compliments I give are those that are asked for; i.e. if someone horrendously ugly asks me if they are attractive, I am not going to tell them, "no, you are hideously gross looking"... well, not unless he is a douche.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Harlow View Post
    Now unless you have extremely low self esteem ,you probably know if you are dressed well or smell nice. Now the compliment on your looks,well that's a bit more subjective,isn't it? But if your mom says you're cute,how can ya argue with that? Nobody loves ya like your mother!!!

    I just don't understand why so many dancers who responded assume most compliments are insincere. It's absolutely AMAZING to see the effect our kind words have on another human being-saying something as basic as "you look nice today", you can notice the person's posture improves, a smile comes over his/her face that lends a glow to the person's complexion.

    Well,you can find something positive to say about most anyone. Is that wrong? Maybe I'm a goodie goodie in that aspect,but it makes ME feel good to make someone else feel good. Cheers! Harlow
    that was a good post Harlow ...oh and about the mom thing, it was really meant as a joke . i wouldnt brag about that (even if she did tell me )

    anyway, i think my intention of this post might have been taken wrong. im trying to find out what the most common lines are that get told to customers, disguised as a compliment. the reason? well id much rather spend my time/money with a dancer who tries to be more genuine. i know some dudes go just to look at tits and ass, and could give a flying fuck what comes out a dancers mouth. but i dig it when you can have a decent conversation with a dancer who isnt dropping lines on you that she would tell every single soul that walks in.
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    a compliment/line could be absolutely any and everything.

    "you're really funny" "you're really attractive" "you're so smart" "you're really interesting" "you smell good" "i love that shirt"

    whether we mean it or not, part of our job is to make people feel good about themselves. by pretending (or sometimes actually) that we're having an absolutely fantastic time with you, you become attracted to us, and in turn want to spend money on us to continue the fabulous time you're having.

    if you ever spoke to a completely honest, genuine dancer, you'd probably hear things like "your breath stinks like shit" "i'm on my period" "that is the sleaziest mustache i've ever seen" etc etc.

    and how much fun would she be to hang out with, honestly?
    "If she wants to dance and drink all night, well there's no one that can stop her. She's going til the house lights come up or her stomach spills onto the floor. This night is gonna end when we're damn well ready for it to be over, worked all week long, and now the music is playing on our time. Yeah we do what we do to get by, and then we need a release!" - Against Me!, "Thrash Unreal"

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    I never give a customer a compliment that isn't true.

    Today I had a regular come in, and I really don't like him. He spits when he talks, spraying saliva, has nothing interesting to say, and fondles the tag on my dress nervously the entire, entire time. He even cackles creepily when I give him dances.

    However, he ADORES me, and pays a lot of money for my company and my entertainment. So i try to make him happy and say nice things about him.

    I told him, "You smell so good!"- because he did. He smelled pretty good.

    But aside from that, he's kind of cretinous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dreamer1980 View Post
    but i dig it when you can have a decent conversation with a dancer who isnt dropping lines on you that she would tell every single soul that walks in.
    I dig having decent conversations with customers too!

    It's hard for us to answer your question, because every dancer is different. Some of them are genuine, some of them aren't. Some of them give genuine compliments, some of them don't. But they don't necessarily go hand in hand, and "decent conversation" is a whole nother story.


    Example: A genuine, earnest dancer may give ingenuine compliments, out of habit. An ingenuine, dishonest dancer may be giving you a genuine compliment, because she feels like it that day. Either, neither, or both of them may or may not be capable of having conversations about Immanuel Kant, or whatever it is you're into.

    It all depends on what your priorities are, I guess!

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    situation A) I'm at a party, hanging with friends, and I meet a guy. He smells nice and has a great smile. We converse for a while, then continue mingling. End of story.

    situation B) I'm a stripper and I'm working. A customer comes in, he smells great and has a lovely smile. I mention both in the flow of conversation.

    In situation A I have no reason to flirt with this man. I'm not looking for a date, I don't want to lead him on and act interested, and I hardly know him. Therefore I make no mention of his charming smile.

    In situation B I'm relieved that a somewhat attractive man with good bodily hygiene has walked into the club, and make mention of this as part of my hustle. By virtue of the fact that we both know I'm a stripper it's to be assumed that I'm flirting with him for a reason, aka, compensation. That does not make my compliments insincere.

    Basically the only reason I would ever flirt with a man is if I were interested in dating him or making money off of him. If I'm at work you can always assume it's the latter.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Harlow View Post
    Now unless you have extremely low self esteem ,you probably know if you are dressed well or smell nice. Now the compliment on your looks,well that's a bit more subjective,isn't it? But if your mom says you're cute,how can ya argue with that? Nobody loves ya like your mother!!!

    I just don't understand why so many dancers who responded assume most compliments are insincere. It's absolutely AMAZING to see the effect our kind words have on another human being-saying something as basic as "you look nice today", you can notice the person's posture improves, a smile comes over his/her face that lends a glow to the person's complexion.

    Well,you can find something positive to say about most anyone. Is that wrong? Maybe I'm a goodie goodie in that aspect,but it makes ME feel good to make someone else feel good. Cheers! Harlow
    This is how I am! I very, very rarely compliment someone unless I mean it. 99% of the time, I can find something about someone I genuinely like. I also like Paris' response.

    However, the stereotype of "strippers always lie" actually gets in the way of my genuine comments. Many guys I compliment give me a "yeah right...you're just trying to make money" response.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bella du jour View Post
    situation A) I'm at a party, hanging with friends, and I meet a guy. He smells nice and has a great smile. We converse for a while, then continue mingling. End of story.

    situation B) I'm a stripper and I'm working. A customer comes in, he smells great and has a lovely smile. I mention both in the flow of conversation.

    In situation A I have no reason to flirt with this man. I'm not looking for a date, I don't want to lead him on and act interested, and I hardly know him. Therefore I make no mention of his charming smile.

    In situation B I'm relieved that a somewhat attractive man with good bodily hygiene has walked into the club, and make mention of this as part of my hustle. By virtue of the fact that we both know I'm a stripper it's to be assumed that I'm flirting with him for a reason, aka, compensation. That does not make my compliments insincere.

    Basically the only reason I would ever flirt with a man is if I were interested in dating him or making money off of him. If I'm at work you can always assume it's the latter.
    I also like this response. Well said!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Harlow View Post

    I just don't understand why so many dancers who responded assume most compliments are insincere. It's absolutely AMAZING to see the effect our kind words have on another human being-saying something as basic as "you look nice today", you can notice the person's posture improves, a smile comes over his/her face that lends a glow to the person's complexion.

    Well,you can find something positive to say about most anyone. Is that wrong? Maybe I'm a goodie goodie in that aspect,but it makes ME feel good to make someone else feel good. Cheers! Harlow
    I don't see it as insincere, but as a sales stragety that works in every sales environment, not just stripping. A car salesman will compliment her potential customers in a way to get them in a mood to buy a car from her. A good salesperson develops a sense on giving genuine compliments to warm the client into a spending mood. I used this sales technique in selling gowns to brides, or lap dances when stripping. Insincere? Maybe, but if the customer isn't warmed up in this economic environment, then the sale isn't likely to be made.

    Doctors have a huge problem with this situation because customers (patients) are so used to being sucked up to, that if a Doctor isn't utilizing these sales techniques, will be labeled as cold and unfeeling.


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    When I am working, I am in character. Absolutely everything that comes out of my characters mouth is 100% sincere...for her.

    The real me, and what I do outside of the club, is nobody's business but my own. I check my own personal thoughts, feelings, issues at the door because frankly, if I brought them into the club no one would buy a dance from me. I'm not giggly, bubbly, or flirty, and if I heard some of the backhanded or just flat out socially retarded "compliments" that happen regularly at the club while I was at, say, the grocery store, I'd be knocking someone's teeth down their throat.

    Customers should really be grateful that some of us suspend reality to help them achieve their fantasies, otherwise stripclubs wouldn't be a very fun place to be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    This is how I am! I very, very rarely compliment someone unless I mean it. 99% of the time, I can find something about someone I genuinely like. I also like Paris' response.

    However, the stereotype of "strippers always lie" actually gets in the way of my genuine comments. Many guys I compliment give me a "yeah right...you're just trying to make money" response.
    ditto. that's one part of the job i hate. guys come in with their own beliefs about women and strippers. and if they think that nice words from us are all lies, they'll spend their money on the first bitch who tells them to give her all their money, because they think that girl is the only genuine person there. and yeah, i've seen it.

    i never compliment guys if i don't mean it. i never tell someone he's cute if it's not true. what's the point of that?
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    If you smell nice enough for it to be something the dancer mentions, then yes, you really do smell nice. If you're dressed well enough for a dancer to say something about it, it means you can dress yourself and you did a decent job putting your outfit together. Yes the girls bring it up because they're looking for something nice to say to you, but the majority of them will only say something like that if they mean it.

    Now it might be relative. It might be that their last customer stank like kitty-litter, or dressed like a third world refugee, but hey you're one up on that guy, right?

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    ^ Exactly! I love it. Rings pretty true for me.

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    I would image that the genuineness of the compliment would also depend on the courtesy with which the customer treated the dancer.

    A customer that treats a dancer with a degree of respect may well get some genuine compliments in return.

    A customer that behaves like a royal pain in the ar*e - well it doesn't require much imagination to guess how sincere any 'compliments' are likely to be in that case.

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    lots of great responses and insight! thanks gals/guys

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarvelGirl View Post
    When I am working, I am in character. Absolutely everything that comes out of my characters mouth is 100% sincere...for her.

    The real me, and what I do outside of the club, is nobody's business but my own. I check my own personal thoughts, feelings, issues at the door because frankly, if I brought them into the club no one would buy a dance from me. I'm not giggly, bubbly, or flirty, and if I heard some of the backhanded or just flat out socially retarded "compliments" that happen regularly at the club while I was at, say, the grocery store, I'd be knocking someone's teeth down their throat.

    Customers should really be grateful that some of us suspend reality to help them achieve their fantasies, otherwise stripclubs wouldn't be a very fun place to be.
    ITA with every word...

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    You're probably just cute, smell and dress nice.

    As for myself I'm too genuine for my own good. I wouldn't tell a guy he was good looking if he was not. If he has some sort of quirk I usually don't say anything at all. Instead I'll tell them they are polite, they have a gentle touch and love how they are not all grabby, soft hands, nice voice, cool glasses whatever.

    So from this stripper it's genuine. I cannot tell a lie. I'm just not good at it.




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