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    Default How would you handle this?

    I just logged onto my myspace and found a message waiting for me from a girl that I worked with at my old club. She was a bartender, and I considered her a friend. Not to mention that I kind of liked her....in the more than a friend sense.

    But anyway, here's the situation. A few weeks before I left the club(I found out I was pregnant) back in June, she had lost a pair of diamond earrings. It was a Saturday night that she lost them, and I was due in on that Sunday to open the club. When I got there I talked to my boss(the owner) and he told me what happened, and asked me if I had seen them. I told him that I had saw them sitting on the counter in the dressing room the night before, but when I was in the dressing room getting ready that day, there was nothing there. I even went and checked again, just to make sure.

    So after I got done talking to my boss, I went outside and called her to tell her what I had told my boss. I felt bad for her because she told me that these earrings were special to her. I also told her that I would keep a look out if I saw them.

    So now, fast forward to this morning. I just get up and log onto myspace, and find a message from her telling me that she is "pretty sure I'm the one who took her earrings, and karma is a bitch." Those were her exact words.

    I'm really upset about this now. Not just pissed off though, like I'm actually near tears sitting here and typing this. I'm pissed though that she is waiting damn near 10 months to ask me about it when all she had to do was call me, it's not like I dropped off the face of the earth. The club even called a few months after my hiatus to come back to work for one night. I'm also pissed that I'm sitting here taking the fall, in her eyes, for someone else....and if I ever find out who did it, well I don't want to be them.

    So now what do I do?

    She used to date the owner's son, who is a manager at the club. They are no longer together though. I'm planning on calling there tonight to talk to one of them, if not both of them about this situation. I've seen them a few times since leaving, and not one person has asked me about this. As a matter of fact, the owner really wants me to come back to work....which I was planning on returning in April or May.

    Out of all the places I've worked in the last 10 years, I really, really loved it there and it's really upsetting me about this right now. I planned on going back when I left, so why in hell would I screw that up?

    I also understand where she's coming from about this too, because I had the same thing happen to me a long time ago at a club I worked at. A girl I worked with stole a diamond ring from me. I even knew who did it too. But that's beside the point. This is one of my pet peeves....Don't touch other people's shit!! I can't even begin tell you how much I hate it.

    So any advice would be so welcome right now.

    Thanx

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    Keep your reply to her simple. Long drawn out explanations would go unread. She has pretty much made up her mind over all this time, so there is really nothing you can do (aside from finding the earring thief) to change her mind.


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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    sorry this happening.. I don't have much advice because I agree with Paris, she's made up her mind. Especially if she has been holding a grudge for this long, and some people just never want to forget or give another person a chance ot defend themself.
    I hope that she either quits before you have to work there again or leaves you alone.
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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    That sux. Paris is right. Keep your reply simple. Tell her she's mistaken, you didn't take her earrings, and that if she doesn't want to believe you, she doesn't have to. If she thought you took her earrings from the get go, she should have said so 10 months ago. I don't know if it's worth your time to call the manager/owner about the situation, especially if nobody has said anything to you about it. Just go back to work as planned. You know you didn't take them and that's good enough.

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    I'd phone her & ask to see her in person....To show that you are innocent and you care about the situation (for obvious reasons) Ask her why she thinks you are the thief, & why did she wait 10 months to say something?

    My theory- the real thief fingered you by saying you were seen with the earrings months later...Since you left soon after the theft occured, the blame could easily be laid on you because 1) you were not around to defend yourself and 2) someone who preferred you not come back to work ever thought it a good way to get you blackballed.

    IMO it's her fault for leaving diamond earrings in a bar unattended. I wouldn't even leave my jacket in the bar overnight. Bar environments are full of cheats, liars and low-lifes.

    What is also possible is the earrings were insured and she committed insurance fraud by "losing" them at the bar. OR her ex-fiance was mad at her and took them (men will sometimes demand gift jewelry back from their women..It happens.)

    This is a Sherlock Holmes case for sure. Keep us updated.

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    Thanx for the replies everyone. We've talked it out and she said the only reason that she "thought" I did it, is because I fell off the face of the earth after I left. But I also told her some things that she seemed to have forgotten, that happened right before I left. So everything is ok between us now.

    It really screwed me up because #1, I don't do things like that to my friends. If I had known those were hers, I would have picked them right up and held onto them for her. And #2, I don't touch other people's things period, because I sure as hell don't want anyone putting their hands on my stuff.

    Snuffle, you're right, she should have never left them laying around. It still sucks though, but like you said, it's a club and there are some real shady people there.

    I had actually thought it was a woman that we worked with, who was dating the cleaning guy/barback. She was always there late with him and always in the dressing room. Plus, she had left for another club and was apparently caught stealing some people's things a few months back. They were also trying to come up with the cash to move at the time. But whatever, it's not like there is proof, you know?

    At least we can put this past us, because I was a mess over this, this morning.

    Thanx again for the replies.

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    Just post a simple reply to her saying that you are hurt by her accusation, you thought you guys were friends, and you are hurt that she would ever think you are capable of something like that, when you so strongly oppose theft.

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    I agree with Paris but make sure to be sugary sweet and not offended that she suspects you. Keep in mind if something like this were to happen to you that you would be furious and not in a perfect frame of mind about it either.

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    Default Re: How would you handle this?

    I'm glad you guys worked it out. I agree with Nakita, but at the same time I would be weary in the future about someone who jumped to conclusions, especially so long after. Accusing someone of stealing lacking any facts is just not cool.
    I may be slightly biased, simply because I have worked in two places that were HORRIBLE about this - and I'm not saying your friend did this - but the girls would constantly be loosing something and then automatically claiming it was stolen. I ESPECIALLY hate this when 90 percent of the time the girl will be drunk or fucked up. UGH!!

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