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    Angry I got caught in stripper drama- accidentally!!! Advice?

    Ok- I try not to talk to most girls in the dressing room if I don't have to. Once in a while I'll make a joke or answer someone's question, but for the most part I'm quiet, I don't have any friends or enemies, and I like it that way.
    Get in, work my hours, get out. Easy pie.

    But I made a small slip-up yesterday at the end of my shift!

    I was really hungry and at the house mom's table, there were a bunch of plates of food. Since everyone was heading home, I figured all that stuff was getting thrown away, so i popped a fry in my mouth. And a tiny piece of chicken.
    The house mom started yelling at me because it wasn't my food, and I said sorry and continued getting dressed and ready to go.

    A couple minutes later this girl started SCREAMING and YELLING about how someone ate her food and how she wanted them to pay for it and how disgusting it was, on and on and on. I didn't even think it was me, because I had one fry and a tiny piece of chicken, and she was making the biggest scene, like she was about to cry and fight someone.

    The house mom said, "I don't want any confrontations right now! I told her not to do it!"
    and then POINTED OUT who did it (me).

    The screaming girl starts railing on the girl standing in front of me, in the most shrill and annoying voice, thinking it was her, and then the house mom comes over to me and starts yelling "SEE?? DIDN'T I TELL YOU I DONT WANT ANY CONFRONTATIONS?? I TOLD YOU!!"

    So the girl is still screaming and yapping- you know the way dog pounds sound?

    And all the other girls are begging me to pay for it so she'll shut up, and I can't believe this is even happening to me.
    I'm really tired and annoyed, so I hand her $4 on my way out, but she's still screaming, "WHAT THE HELL IS THIS, THREE DOLLARS" etc etc.


    Did I do the best thing (got the hell out of there asap)? Was the $4 adding salt to the wound? Should I have stayed longer and let her get the rest off her chest?

    Or maybe I deserved that, and I owe her. I did eat her food, it's true. I even thought of just saying "Sorry", or that maybe I should have given her more money, even though I really just want to punch her in the face.

    Anyway, I was wondering if you guys have wise advice for me.
    What's the best way to solve this problem, and go back to Good Times?

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    You definitely didn't deserve to be yelled at like that, but I think you handled it well. I wouldn't hold her reaction against her just yet. She may have been really drunk or upset about something else that happened. I've had girls freak out on me like that before, and then the next day they apologize and tell me how bad they feel about it.

    When people are going crazy like that, usually the best thing to do is get out and give them some time to cool off. I would just find her the next time you work, and tell her that you're sorry and you didn't realize the food belonged to someone. If she still acts like a nutjob, then she's probably just a nutjob and all you can do is stay out of her way.

    Also, I wouldn't eat any food off of plates anymore. People generally don't plate up dinners just to throw them in the garbage.
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    Aw, I'm sorry you got yelled at! I take a similar approach in terms of relationships with peeps at the club just so I can avoid such situations, so I can understand why you'd feel awful after that. Whatever, this girl probably overreacts to something every other day anyway, and you were gracious and more than covered the cost of the food you ate. Just let it blow over and keep doing your thing.

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    I think you totally did the right thing, that girl sounds freaking nuts! Sometimes I feel like when people just go off like that, chances are they're coked out or something, and there's not much you can do!


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    Quote Originally Posted by chris91 View Post
    Also, I wouldn't eat any food off of plates anymore. People generally don't plate up dinners just to throw them in the garbage.
    Yeah, I've definitely learned my lesson. =(

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    Umm, some dancers are psycho and you just got in her way? Seriously, I cannot believe some of the drama I see in the dressing room. Like you, I try to stay out of it. I have more important things to worry about. I wouldn't take it personally and I think you handled it well.

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    One of my friends asked me if the girls ever fight in the dressing room.


    Me: Yeah, there have been a few fistfights already this year.
    Him: Really?? What do they fight about??
    Me: Oh, you know... makeup and stuff.
    Him: Huh????


    But sadly, it's so true.

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    Sounds like the housemom wasn't doing her job. Aren't they supposed to avoid confrontations, as opposed to pointing screeching mad girls to people who don't start drama on purpose?

    Try catching the girl when she's calm, apologizing, and explaining that you thought it was getting thrown out. Granted, I'm generally way too nice in the spirit of avoiding drama, but if it were me, I'd also offer to buy her another one of whatever that particular plate was.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misslizzy View Post
    Sounds like the housemom wasn't doing her job. Aren't they supposed to avoid confrontations, as opposed to pointing screeching mad girls to people who don't start drama on purpose?

    Try catching the girl when she's calm, apologizing, and explaining that you thought it was getting thrown out. Granted, I'm generally way too nice in the spirit of avoiding drama, but if it were me, I'd also offer to buy her another one of whatever that particular plate was.
    That's what I thought too! She could have just not said anything and continued with the tip-out lines, instead of joining in the racket and making it worse.

    I'm going to do that though, because I might as well try and do my part instead of perpetuating the hate right away. And if she continues to be totally crazy, I'll be over it.

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    Wow, sounds like that girl has some serious issues. You handled it well though. The housemom on the other hand...not so much. I agree with misslizzy about just calmly apologizing...you don't need to be on a hate list of a crazy bitch.
    Bah, I hate stripper drama. I don't see why some of them have such bitchy attitudes and flip over the smallest things.

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    I agree that you handled it as best you could. Others would have started screaming back, I have seen many screaming matches over pretty much nothing. What can you do, some peope are just drama hounds, they lap it up.
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    Some girls are so psycho. I'm sorry you got in the middle of that.

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    Wow! I guess everyone has heard the expression that "it takes two to tango" meaning it takes two people for a fight to happen. Well this is a perfect example of why that isn't true. Lily you seem like a cool,easy going person who makes a point to avoid trouble and here comes trouble gunning you down with both barrells. Holy shit,girl,you ate a french fry and a piece of chicken,maybe they should just give you the electric chair. Never have I heard such an example of overreaction and over dramatization. The house mother should have OFFERED you the food if part of it was hers and since at least part of it would end up in the trash anyway. You gave the girl 4 dollars for what was essentially 2 bites of food. But to clear the air,you can explain to the woman that since it was closing time you thought the food was ready to be trashed. You can offer to pay her an amount that she thinks is fair to replace those two morsels of food. If she continues to act like a wacko,I don't think there is much you can do other than STEER CLEAR!!! Anyhoo,don't blame yourself for this;you're a doll!!! Cheers,Harlow
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    Default Re: I got caught in stripper drama- accidentally!!! Advice?

    Wow. This is a great lesson to me to never, NEVER touch unattended food in the DR.
    Yikes.

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    i can understand the girl being mad, but that girl should have done what we do in my club- write her name on a napkin and put it over the food. you gave her sufficient money to buy more food- she could just go to mc d's after work. i know some chicks would not have done something like that. if someone gave me money for my food like that i wouldnt be that angry, and i wouldnt hesitate to tell her ask first before you eat.

    it's happened at my club and the girl would get mad, but not THAT mad. and if someone came forward and paid, i've never seen a girl still be mad about it.

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    Let us know how it goes! I'm glad I was able to offer something (at least potentially) helpful.

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    I personally think you should have ignored her. No one should be allowed to behave that way, throwing a temper tantrum over two bites of food. Maybe a "sorry," but she's acting like a child and giving her money for it is just rewarding bad behavior.

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    ^^ You are extremely right, in the real world of mature adults. But in crazy-stripperland, I find that this sort of logic is often overlooked.

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    he he, rewarding her for bad behavior. I swear sometimes it's like working at a nursery!
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    Well, so far I haven't run into her at work yet this week, but apparently she told on me to the manager! He pulled me aside at work yesterday and gave me an "obedience lesson," and he BEGGED me not to ever do it or bring it up again, because he said his "ears were bleeding" when he went home that night. hahaha

    Wow!

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    Quote Originally Posted by chris91 View Post
    You definitely didn't deserve to be yelled at like that, but I think you handled it well. I wouldn't hold her reaction against her just yet. She may have been really drunk or upset about something else that happened. I've had girls freak out on me like that before, and then the next day they apologize and tell me how bad they feel about it.

    When people are going crazy like that, usually the best thing to do is get out and give them some time to cool off. I would just find her the next time you work, and tell her that you're sorry and you didn't realize the food belonged to someone. If she still acts like a nutjob, then she's probably just a nutjob and all you can do is stay out of her way.

    Also, I wouldn't eat any food off of plates anymore. People generally don't plate up dinners just to throw them in the garbage.

    agreed! yes you ate her food by accident but you should have paid for it in full. Would you eat food that someone you didn't know's fingers had been in? I wouldn't and would be mad that I paid for food I didn't get to eat. But, she definitely went overboard and I agree that she may have had a bad night, been drunk or whatever so don't hold it against her. Next time you see her- at the beginning of the shift make sure to clear the air by apologizing again to make sure it doesn't drag on.

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    I disagree with the last poster, when they said that you should have paid for the food in full. However, I will say this. You walked away the bigger person. I'd just steer clear of the other girl if at all possible; at least until this all blows over. However, this should be a good reminder for us all.... If you're not 100% sure, ask! It doesn't hurt, and let's face it.... It's an easy way to prevent drama.

    NOW. If this girl is as overly dramatic normally as she was that night, she will probably be a brat about it. STAY THE BIGGER PERSON. She already made herself look bad, and if she chooses to be vindictive and talk shit? Well, then just handle it with grace and eloquence. If she chooses to be a pain, calmly talk to the manager about it. If you bring up an issue you have with a manager in a calm way, it gets you more respect.

    Remember. Karma's a bitch. You don't have to be one as a result.

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    Just a little disclosure before I type this: *I* am an asshole, so what I would have done would have gone as followed...

    *Bitch is yelling and screaming, losing her damn mind over a piece of chicken and a fry*

    "Are you REALLY that concerned about a piece of chicken and a damn french fry?"

    *More yelling and screaming*

    "How much was your ENTIRE meal?"

    *Im gonna assume like $10*

    "Here *throws at $20 at her*, apparently YOU need this alot more than I do"

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    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    Just a little disclosure before I type this: *I* am an asshole, so what I would have done would have gone as followed...

    *Bitch is yelling and screaming, losing her damn mind over a piece of chicken and a fry*

    "Are you REALLY that concerned about a piece of chicken and a damn french fry?"

    *More yelling and screaming*

    "How much was your ENTIRE meal?"

    *Im gonna assume like $10*

    "Here *throws at $20 at her*, apparently YOU need this alot more than I do"


    I know that's right!! Compose yourself, lunatic.

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    echomadison, that's awesome.

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