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    Default Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    I guess I'll tell you the whole story first...

    There is this dancer at my club who is definitely a top earner. Although she seemed fine around the other new girls, she threw me some dirty looks, tried to distract the guys I sit with...I think she even kissed a guy she knew on the mouth while I was in his lap and talking to him...all that ridiculous stuff. I've only had one conversation with her, really short, just wanted to make some small talk since there was some time to kill a few nights ago. Anyway, the conversation went well enough but she was rather chilly towards me still...
    Anywhooo so tonight I was waiting to get paid out and she was ahead of me. I was sitting in front of the DJ booth, out of their view and I overheard the conversation between them. She was telling the DJ how she really didn't like one of the new girls (mind you, there are a few new girls to speak of) and she didn't know the name of the girl she was talking about so she described me to him and he said my name. Then the DJ stands up and sees me sitting there and brings it to her attention...she finishes and walks past, no eye contact lol
    it was actually kinda humorous now that I think about it...it's awkward when you catch someone talking about you lol
    Okay, back on topic though, the two of us have had almost no interaction and I'm very easy to get along with so I was surprised to hear it.
    Oh well. Good thing we are there to make money and not friends, huh?
    Hopefully, it won't go any farther than this...I don't want any stripper drama!

    I suppose I just felt like posting and seeing if I wasn't the only one that this has happened to and any advice you feel like sharing...


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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    I've had this happen before and actually confronted them, some of these types I became very good friends with once they realized that they had no reason to dislike me. I think a lot of times it's a jealousy issue.

    You can either ignore it though or confront it. If you choose to ignore her though just don't let it get to you personally.
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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    yeah as soon as i read the title i thought there hs got to be a reson, jelousy usualy, at my first club a girl i never spoke to always was icy etc and then i went on to be top earner there everynight without fail and she'd do it to all the girls who could earn well even before they even got to that stage, the girl your talking about must be very insecure x

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    might be jealousy... maybe you did something and didn't realize it.... I say just leave it at that. If it doesn't get in the way of you making money then just avoid her and don't get caught up in drama.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    Thank you ladies!
    My first instinct was just to ignore it as long as it doesn't start affecting work...like as long as she isn't talking trash to the customers or anything. I don't see any reason why she would have a reason to be jealous, she is far ahead of me in money making, been at it much longer than I have and she's a big hustler...but oh well. Hopefully things will remain relatively chilll and we can stear clear of each other.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    I would guess that she sees you as a threat to her money. For some reason, she has identified you as a potential challenger to her status as the top earner. In my experience, almost all conflicts in the SC boil down to money.

    I've had this happen--when a girl just up and decided she didn't like me. It was my first night working in a new club--a dive--and I was one of the best looking ones there (not bragging--just a lot of these girls were way past their prime or just didn't take care of themselves). There was one other girl who was cute enough to be working somewhere better, who bragged about how much she made.

    Well. She and I were the only ones doing lap dances that I saw that night. Later, I found out that after I'd left, she told the manager that she'd found a condom in the lap dance room, and that it had to be me, since i was the only other one back there. I never even said two words to this girl the whole night! Luckily, I knew 2 of the dancers there pretty well, and the DJ I've known for 10 years, and they didn't believe that I was screwing guys in the lapdance room.

    The only reason I can think of that she would start this kind of smear campaign is that she saw me as a threat and wanted to run me out of "her" club. I bet that's what is going on in your club, too.

    Just ignore it and take pleasure in the fact that you're hot enough to get to somebody.

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    I guess I'm posting from the other side of the glass. Sometimes, a girl who is very new to a club does not know that she is doing something wrong or offensive, maybe the top earner just does not want the drama of confronting the newbie.

    I've only been at my club about 3 months, but I'm one of the better hustlers on my shift. The other hustlers and I have a drama-free and fairly fun working time. Lately, with a couple (very) new girls, there has been drama after drama, one girl got fired and the other I see as a two-face. We know she says awful things about girls behind their backs (including me), but I don't want to confront her about it--I don't like drama. But every time she tries to be "nice" to me, I want to rip her face off.

    I know you said you didn't do anything wrong but that might not be true in stripper-world. Or, maybe she might see you as competition, I don't know the whole story--doesn't seem like anyone does but her.

    Maybe you should ask her?

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    I worked with a girl who didn't like me because she thought that i was too nice and fake! I'm the type of person who likes to get on with everyone and never have trouble with girls that i work with, so it was really frustrating that she was such a bitch to me. She wasn't liked very much by alot of the girls that i worked with in the club, because she had such a bad attitude.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    Story of my life! I think we've all had one. At my club now, I had one little girl that used to hate on me and talk shit for no reason, but after I confronted her about it one day, she's super sweet to me now. I basically told her that I am a nice person and the crap she was pulling was really uncalled for. Ever since that day, she smiles at me says "hi" haha

    At my old club, I had a whole GROUP of girls that would harass me pretty bad. I wish I could find the thread I posted about it on here, but it's probably a year and a half old. These girls would harass me to the point of putting me in tears and leaving early. I even had to stop working nights cause it was getting so bad. The worst part was management never did anything about it. They would follow me around, try to trip me, taunt me when I was on stage...and management would just sit there and watch.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    Hmm when i first started at my club they were apparently talking crap about me behind my back for absolutely no apparent reason that i could figure out, and were very icy to my face (though usually not outright rude). There would be times when someone would be talking to a group of us (clearly not a privet conversation) and i'd say something trying to be friendly and get "Butt out, i wasn't talking to you!" so i pretty much just stopped contributing to conversations all together. Which probably makes me just look antisocial, but whatever. I don't tend to like women in general, they spend WAAAY too much time bitching it seems,
    and at least now they have mostly stopped bitching about me (i think) and maybe some of them have wormed up to me a teeny itty bitty bit. So, in conclusion. Shut up, smile, and hope it goes away.
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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    JEALOUSY!!! lol. Just take her for what she is... a hater. And avoid her.... maybe she see's some competition in you. That should be a confidence booster. If you run into her, smile and continue to hustle... and if she tries to start drama, just walk away

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    A top earner doesn't like you?? You should take that as a COMPLIMENT!!!!! DUUHHH.....you are obviously some sort of threat to her.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    what about if you complain about something to a girl, and she snaps at you and starts talking shit about you, including when you're around? how would you guys handle that? I'm trying to just ignore it and not let it get to me, but i dunno.... I've been tired and sensitive lately.

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    Default Re: Ever had a dancer dislike you for no apparent reason??

    I should add that yes, I was complaining about something her friend did (didn't know they were friends), and she said, "I don't want to hear it. You brought it upon yourself." But now, with the shit talking, I just really don't know what to do.

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