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    Ladies - I was not sure where to post this. Forgive me if it's been asked a hundred times. If it has, please point me to the thread.

    I'm feeling newbie-like and way out of touch on this subject because I've been out of the dating/party life for 15+ years. When I hear the term "bootycall," it implies to me a f-buddy with sex for fun but not much, if any intimacy. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but am I generally correct? It almost seems like if a person wants sex soon after meeting someone, it's got to be all fun and sport, but if a person first develops an intimate friendship, it is a whole different path. I know every person and situation is different, but is intimacy commonly a deal killer? Does anybody ever say "make love" any more? Italians excluded :-)

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    Default Re: Bootycalls and intimacy

    Wow... I think I'm going to set a record. So far 82 reads and zero replies. No PM's either. Are the questions that stupid or is the "I" word off-limits here?

    Here are some sample replies:

    You are correct.
    You are an idiot.

    Heck, I'll even accept flames at this point.

    PM's welcomed.

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    haha it is quite a random question.

    Well I have been in the situation where I am 'f buddies' with a guy.. we don't really connect on an 'intimate' level...when we're together its like we're friends and think each other is fit hense we have sex but it would never be anything more than that.

    Wheras I have also been in the situation where I have a f buddy and then it gets more intimate and start to develop feelings..it cant be a situation like that for too long before someone wants to be more than just f buddies.

    It depends where someone is in their life? because there probably could be a situation where two people are f buddies and are intimate and it works for them because neither of them want a relationship.

    I see 'making love' more of a thing than just slow sex..its got feeling etc so I dont think you really 'make love' with an f buddie because you arent in love with them so it doesnt really mean anything.

    Hope this helped.

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    A bootycall lacks intimacy, that's kinda the whole point. You might be friends on some level but the point of a bootycall is a no strings attached sexual encounter. You don't necessarily need to have feelings for someone in order to just have sex with them, you do need to have feelings for that person if you're "making love" with them. It's 2 very different things, and requires 2 very different relationships.

    For me it's seldom that one becomes the other no matter how it starts out.

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    Yes the point of a "booty call" is that its just sex. Sex with someone you like as a person perhaps, but for whatever reason you dont want an actual relationship with.

    And FTR...I find the phrase "making love" really creepy. Whether its a "booty call" or with my husband...I just hate that phrase. I NEVER call sex that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post
    And FTR...I find the phrase "making love" really creepy. Whether its a "booty call" or with my husband...I just hate that phrase. I NEVER call sex that.
    I agree, I hate the phrase as well.

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    ^^ Yup!
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    Default Re: Bootycalls and intimacy

    Helpful feedback - thanks all. I now get it. I also now understand why I keep striking out when I pretend to be italian and say "Now you and I we go make-a-love." :-D

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Happy View Post
    Helpful feedback - thanks all. I now get it. I also now understand why I keep striking out when I pretend to be italian and say "Now you and I we go make-a-love." :-D

    MH

    if youre joking hahaha!
    if not..you deffinatly need a new pick up line or just dont have any lines atall =P

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    Joking? Oui madame. Actualy I rub honey bee butts on my neck for the endorphines and ladies just follow me home. No lines neeeded atall. ;-)

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    Default Re: Bootycalls and intimacy

    I can't do the 'just sex' thing. I have to have some sort of light, informal relationship, even just time for talking, hugging etc.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Happy View Post
    Joking? Oui madame. Actualy I rub honey bee butts on my neck for the endorphines and ladies just follow me home. No lines neeeded atall. ;-)


    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    I can't do the 'just sex' thing. I have to have some sort of light, informal relationship, even just time for talking, hugging etc.

    same, I can be just friends who hang out and have sex but I can't be nothing and just sex and thats it.

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