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    So I have a customer who I love! He's really nice, funny, genuine, and generous. This week he worked up the courage to see if we can hang out elsewhere (dinner, drinks), which I'm totally down for. I hinted that, as fun as that would be, I might want some compensation. I'm worried that if I switch to "talking business" he's going to think I'm *only* interested in his cash, which would be a big turn off. In reality, I'm interested in his company and want to be paid for the time I spend with him so we maintain a dancer-customer relationship instead of starting another kind of relationship. (In other words, I wouldn't do a paid date with anyone - I have to actually enjoy the guy's company! There are some irritating a-holes who couldn't pay me enough to meet them for a drink...) How to navigate this subject with him without a) not making clear that I expect payment b) not offending him or making him feel like this is strictly business and c) not alienating him as a customer?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MSNYC View Post
    In reality, I'm interested in his company and want to be paid for the time I spend with him so we maintain a dancer-customer relationship instead of starting another kind of relationship. (In other words, I wouldn't do a paid date with anyone - I have to actually enjoy the guy's company!
    ^I would seriously consider just telling him what you said here, that way he doesn't get the wrong idea and both of you stay on the same page. PLus, you can convey that you really do enjoy his company.
    You say that you don't want to be strictly business with him, but keeping the customer-dancer relationship means exactly that. You either date him as someone you are actually interested in outside of work or you set it up as a business deal.

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    Just tell him "honey I would love to hang out with you on x day, but I can't afford to miss work" He should get the hint, and if he doesn't say "if you could give me $ x amount, I could skip work and have fun with you" Be blunt. Good Luck

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