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Last edited by lexxx; 08-15-2011 at 02:40 PM.




Everyone has a different idea of their "morality".
Unless your folks are going to pay for your education - they really have no right to complain. Your not on welfare and supporting yourself with a way to better yourself.
This is why it's "right". It is an opportunity for a better future for yourself. The cold hard reality is that while a straight arrow sort of morals is all well and good - those views don't always mesh with someone else's. Especially our parents. IE: Individuals raised in a different era.
As long as you are safe and a decent money manager, things are good.
I dont even think you have to be doing it to pay for college or anything
Just do it for whatever reasons.. if youre not harming anyone else or yourself..then I think everything is fine. But the world is full of close minded people who like to judge other people and like to define what is 'right' and 'wrong' its pathetic..who are they to judge anyone?
This is probably not helpful haha
i just started dancing. im 18 and im married, and for half my pre-adult and adult life, my parents havent agreed with what I do. i never did anything bad, get in trouble with the law, go out drinking, do drugs or anything like that. they didnt like the way i dressed they didnt like the music i listened to blah blah blah. And if they KNEW what i did now? HA! they would keel over and die.
look at nude beaches. people go to nude beaches, but SC's are so totally wrong and horrible. Hypocritical and off base. Dancing improves your social skills, it gives you a workout, you feel sexy shaking your ass where everyone is watching you. Its a real ego boost for me, cuz I was the odd looking chubby kid who sat in the back and read sci-fi books. And now i have guys coming up to the stage with their mouths hanging open to pay me to dance on them.
most people are going to view strip clubs as horrible, sin-infested places. You have to keep your head up and keep in mind WHY you are doing this. Im doing it mostly out of curiosity and to jump start my financial situation. I've found that I like what i do, and will keep doing it. Damn what anyone else says. I have my friends and my husband who support me and thats all i need.
good luck to you! i hope things work out.![]()
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What "society" says usually means very little to me. If prefer to analyse things and make up my own mind. Individuals are typically rational beings, where I look upon "society" as too often having a mob mentality, and mobs have the tendency to act irrationally.
There is way too much hypocracy in the collective known as "society". For example, there are groups of people who feel abortion is wrong. They feel it so strongly, that they are willing to cause harm to those who don't agree with them. Wtf?
Is society always right? It was once socially acceptable to own slaves. It was socially acceptable to view women as not being equal to men. The list goes on and on.
Persecuting an individual because of what "society" says without hearing their case is little more than a witch hunt - another once socially acceptable practice.
IMO, dancing is like any other endeavor where one has an opportunity to leverage their skill sets to their advantage. Not everyone can be an exotic dancer, just like not everyone is suited to be a mechanical engineer. If you have the right skill sets, and can do it in a professional and responsible manner, than more power to you.
If you can't win. Make the fellow in front of you break the record.

i think when you say the word "stripper", the average person thinks trashy/slutty/etc. but like SERIOUSLY!, look at this site, for example. the women who post on this site are making their own money, becoming confident, and helping other women do so too. just bc other people have a regular 9-5 (or whatever) job doesnt mean they are gaining life experience from it. most people with a regular job just sit there like zombies. how is that supposed to enrich your life?
Edit: i didnt really answer the question but thats what my argument would be. lol

In my past experiences with clubs, one of the true pleasures of my business was that I got to go recruiting from time to time. The taboo mentality is so entrenched into society as a whole that most women would walk away, or turn their nose up...
The simple fact of the matter is this:
Women DO NOT make the same amount of money as men do in the blue-collar or white-collar worlds. They do the same jobs, often times better, and get passed over for promotions, or treated as sex objects. So, with that being the attitude that is the "norm" many of them turn to exotic dancing as a way to make good money. The very same men who objectify women in the workplace are the same ones who come into strip clubs and throw money around like it's meaningless to them. Why NOT take advantage of it? To me, it's a nice way to get a laugh out of the situation.
Furthermore, for almost every woman's body type, there is a man who digs it. If you have a bit of rhythm, can think on your feet, and feel good enough about your body to show it off and make money doing it... why not?
Say what you want... I've been there and have ALWAYS made friends with the girls FOR whom I worked. I held them in the highest regard, because they were, for all intents and purposes, my boss. Dancing beats the hell out of flopping Whoppers for a living.
Who decides what is socially acceptable?
According to the Clubs and Reviews section on this site there are over 3,000 strip clubs in the United States. That's and average of 60 clubs per state
Also according to industry statisics adult entertainment clubs contribute over $2 billion annually to the national economy. (This number is hightly likely to be under reported due to the lack of actual documentation kept in the industry.)
So obviously there is a significant part of society which both patronizes and is employed in the industry.
Yet the industry still exists under the perception that it is "socially unacceptable". Hrm. How often do we find that it is really the vocal minority that tries to direct people as to what is and is not socially acceptable. Pffft.
If you can't win. Make the fellow in front of you break the record.





Everything seems ok about it except that it was causing me to lie to people I cared about . I froze/paused/whatever you call it.
I just looked at it as a unique oppurtunity too ........




i agree. i dont think there has to necessarily be a reason why someone has to do it. if anything i think when people try to justify it they make it so that those that dont seem even worse. just do it if you want to do it and it doesnt harm anyone then who cares what society has to say about it.



this is absolutely true. and too often, people are ruled by their stereotypes and allow these stereotypes to become justification for their so-called "morality."
when my parents found out they both cried, and my mom told me "how can you cry rape when you're up there giving it away for free?" (at the time, I had been raped about 3 months before.) they now think I'm working in a bank...little do they know, I'm only making bank!! bwhahaha! (sorry for the bad pun)
I have heard the worst things about what I choose to do out of the mouths of supposedly "moral" people.
ok sorry for the mini-rant!
but really, stay strong. if you can't deal with their criticism, (and I'm not recommending this, it is difficult) but tell them you quit and are now working in a bar/bank/whatever. kudos to you, however, if you can hold your head up high!
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