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they said the best time to ask is when you're having sex since you're in the moment. so when he's choking you and stuff, just be like, "i want you to [email protected]%#$#".

sorry, i meant when he's slapping you cause if he's choking you, you can't really say much...
Im the same way OP. Im a natural take charge female and enjoy the same in a partner.



mmmmm....I have no advice for you, but I just wanted to say, I am exactly like that as well!!! but my ex wouldn't do it![]()
but I agree with baby q, in the moment is how I've always done it, and it worked for me! (besides with my ex, that is)

yeah I'm the same. I'm such a strong character in life, I need someone who can at least equal me in the bedroom...





Get some toys to play with...like a hot collar and leash, or handcuffs, and just tell him you have fantasies about being HIS toy.




Wow, I could have written this myself!
I agree with all the posts here already. And will add, that with one of my current fuck buddies, what I do is piss him off (not for real-obviously). But all day I txt him, IM him or whatever, really wind him up, by the time he gets to my house he is a powerhouse. Calling him a C*** really seems to fire him up.
Feel free to try![]()
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Definitely gotta tell him what you want and like. Either you can do that during sex, or bring it up in a conversation. Start off the topic by asking him what kinds of things he likes in bed. Once he tells you, you may not be so shy about telling him what you'd enjoy.
With my husband, there was some things where I just kind of tested the waters during sex. I remember when I wanted him to put his hand on my neck during a certain position, I just put it there myself to see what his reaction would be. Luckily he took to it, lol. And from there we just went upwards in the things we did in bed...mostly by talking about it.
I'm the same as you though. I definitely enjoy the things in bed that I wouldn't normally like in every day situations.
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oh YES! I LOVE pissing them off. ummm I don't know if this is weird or not but whatever. once, during a one night stand, we were...going at it, and I told him to slap me, so he complied. it just escalated until I was "struggling" to get away, and I would spit on him. is that fucked up? whatever. it was hot.
I think that if you do get him to do little things, usually, it should just escalate. good luck and let us know how it goes!! (if you want to, haha)



oh YES! I LOVE pissing them off. ummm I don't know if this is weird or not but whatever. once, during a one night stand, we were...going at it, and I told him to slap me, so he complied. it just escalated until I was "struggling" to get away, and I would spit on him, and he would "punish me" by slapping me or choking me. is that fucked up? whatever. it was hot.
I think that if you do get him to do little things, usually, it should just escalate. that is my experience, at least. good luck and let us know how it goes!! (if you want to, haha)
hmm. i am the same way. i make my lovers watch Secretary with me. do the same.
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I don't want to sound silly or prude, but please be careful you don't get injured doing any of these types of activities.
That is interesting! I was about to say, "same here!" but then I realized I also like the opposite.. I think it's the Gemini in me. I like everything when it comes to sex.
edit: forgot to post my advice. haha I'd just come out and demand whatever you want him to do, and do it when he's in a dominant position. That might sound contradictory but it will let you both play with the power and go back and forth .. it will strengthen his intentions. have fun![]()
Men are visual. Show him pictures and tell him you want to try that, with an emphasis on WITH HIM. He won't be able to resist you.
I am also very "in charge" in life and submissive in bed. PM me if you want to talk more about it.



If he has even a little natural dominance in his personality, he won't need asking twice...
The girl I am currently dating is quite a high-profile journalist in her home country, a real go-getter. But I simply make my demands of her and she loves to comply!! She sometimes seems a little disappointed if I don't boss her around. But in other areas of life, she would fight to the death for her opinions or rights. So it seems that you aren't alone.
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