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    Well, I've come to the point where I realize that I have a severe drinking problem. When I started back dancing in September after I lost the majority of my baby weight, I started drinking again. At first, it was just a little, then some more, then some more, and now it's out of control. Not only that, I had starting using blow again.

    It finally dawned on my Sunday night when I was leaving a club (not work) drunk that I was in serious trouble. I almost wrecked my car. I could have killed someone, myself, or ended up in jail with a DUI. It's such a blessing that nothing happened, but I know if I don't stop now, it won't be long before something does happen.

    I've taken the first part of the week off to detox and think about things, but first sober night back at work is going to be Thursday. I'm scared I won't be able to cope, but I talked to one of my boucer friends about it, and we decided that if I start drinking, I'm going to get sent home. I'm thankful for that because I think it will keep me in check if I'm tempted.

    However, I would really appreciate some support from you wonderful ladies. It's so hard to do something sober when you're used to doing it drunk. There have only been maybe 3 days since I've been back that I've worked sober, and that was only because I was so hungover from the night before that even thinking about drinking made me sick. Any wonderful words you may have will help me stay sober. If anyone else is going through this and wants to talk, pm me.

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    Think about your child, maybe keep a picture of the baby in your purse or a locker. If you can't stop for yourself, I'm sure you can stop for the baby. Imagine how terrible it would be for her to grow up without you.

    I'd also talk to your boss about it. Can they tag you as underage so the waitresses won't serve you drinks at the club?

    What about talking to a counselor? I would try to suggest AA meetings, but sometimes being around others with the same problem just makes everything worse.
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    If you really feel lost and really have a problem, you need to start going to AA meetings. Don't be panicked, it sounds intimidating and you are thinking "Im not that bad!" but I am telling you, I am in the program and I don't think I could do it alone. I know I can't. I've tried for years. And its always led me back to the same bullshit, drinking and sometimes more (drugs). You can't do it by yourself if you REALLY have a problem. If you can quit on your own, GREAT! No one WANTS to go to AA. But if it is a real drinking problem, you will know b/c it will continue until you get a support group and positive influences that have been there to help you.

    Especially with being in this business, and if you've always done it with alcohol, you need to get a support group. AA is motivating. I promise. it's different than what people think it is, it is a real loving group of people who want to help each other live better lives.
    It is not for those who don't have a true alcohol problem though, it is for people who can not drink a single drink w/o getting D-R-U-N-K. <~Needed emphasis and even that doesn't do it... Im talking a real uncontrollable problem.
    Contact me if you want more information. I am still new in the program but I already feel so much better about my life and know I can do it and have HOPE. Which I never had before. My best friend is 5 years sober and is the happiest she has been in her life.

    I hope your problem is not like this, maybe you can drink normally and control yourself and quit on your own. I am just giving you this info in case you needed to hear it. Good luck sweetie!!!

    *The picture of your daughter in your locker was a great idea, and another tip is bring a notebook and start writing your feelings down. It sounds cheesy as hell I know. But it helps. When you would want/need a drink, take a moment for yourself, go in the dressing room and just write whatever is going through your head. Once you start being sober at work, you get a slight euphoria b/c you know you are being so good to yourself, and it gets much easier. I promise!!! Take care

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    There is also http://www.smartrecovery.org/ for those that don't fit in the AA model. It is a program developed by Doctors for addiction recovery.


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    You are definitely a good step ahead by seeing that you have a problem with drinking, and doing things to take care of it. It takes a strong person to be able to do that! *hugs*

    I agree with maybe getting into some type of program that can help you along. And while you are at work, I definitely agree with having a picture of your child in your locker, or on your bag, or make up case. Somewhere that you are a lot, and that you will see their little face and help you remember one of the biggest, if not the biggest reason that you are doing this.

    Good luck sweetie! *hugs* again!

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    Thank you guys so much! your support really helps. I love having this community of women to talk to.

    I've got a picture of her as my background on my phone, so I do see her throughout the night.

    As for AA, I've been before, and it's not the place for me. A lot of those people have been through worse, and I feel an urge to drink even more. I'm going to check into that website though!

    I chickened out on going to work tonight. I don't think I'm strong enough yet. We don't serve alcohol at my club, but it never fails that there is someone there willing to share theirs, be it a cutomer (byob) or a dancer. I'm going to try again on monday since I don't work weekends. Hopefully I will feel strong enough then.
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    What you're doing is hard, but so worth it. I hope it all goes well for you and you find all the support, in whatever form works, that you need!

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    Hazel-

    I don't drink a lot, but I was regularly having about 2 to 3 beers on every shift I worked and was starting to feel run down.

    About a month ago, I had to go on antibiotics for five days. I could NOT drink, because I would get sick to my stomach with the anti's in my system. Actually, it was 7 days because I was instructed not to drink the day before or after my course.

    I was SCARED of going to work without having my couple of beers.

    I talked to my doctor about how panicky I got at the thought of working without drinking at all. We discussed all kinds of ways of coping. One of them was taking time out for a long meditation before working.

    I tried this. Yes, it takes time but it made me feel less panicky about going to dance. I also drank hot green tea instead of drinking during those days.

    Guess what? IT WORKED!! I don't want to drink at work, really at all. However, if I don't have scalding hot tea, I go bonkers

    I can't really explain why, but drinking tea, especially green, gives me the tiniest boost of energy and a great sense of well-being while at the clubs.

    Now, my big problem is that both of the clubs I work at, don't have hot water behind the bar. One of them has a kitchen. I actually have to tip one the bar staff to go the the kitchen and boil me hot water! But it's worth it to me. I may have to start carrying a thermos with me.

    Sorry this so long, but this has worked for me.
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    The tea is a great tip! thanks! I may have to try that too.
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    Green tea is great at work! Makes you feel like you are treating your body so well, which is great in that environment when everyone around you is putting unhealthy crap into them. Plus the enerygy boost Niiiice. And green tea helps with weight control/loss.

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    i've dealt with being an alkie for about 5 years now, and i have to say its very hard. however, if you can't stop drinking, make sure that you have a specific cut off time. or have a water in your locker/bag, and make sure you have one every drink or every other drink.

    i also stopped drinking shots.

    seriously, though, i really hope things get in order for you. i'm the same way, i've been lucky so far, but its hard.... i just can try to do the best i can every day.

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    i never had an alcohol problem but i was good friends with xanax and i had to go into detox to get off of it and when i was sober the world was alot different and a lot more real. i had to re learn alot of stuff and i am going back to dancing soon and i will have to figure this shit out. AA does help i will admit. so if you ever need anyone to talk to or anything...im here,
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    I'm sorry that you have this issue, but it's just wonderful that you're facing it head-on.

    I would definitely tell your managers about not drinking. We have a couple girls at my club who are sober because of alcoholism, and the whole club supported them when they "came out" about it.

    Tea is definitely a great alternative (and will prevent you from gaining weight like you would with pop) and will help keep you energized without crashing from too much caffeine at once.

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    My first night back was a struggle. When I first walked in, a bottle of vodka was right in my face, but I told the all the girls about what I'm trying to do, and they kept it away. Knowing it was there, coupled with a dead night, made it hard though. They told me they weren't gonna give me any if I asked, so I thank them for that. Everyone has been reall supportive, and management knows as well.

    The tea really worked wonders! Can't wait to see how it goes tonight, though it will probably be slow again since there are tornado watches in place. blah.

    Thank you all again. I can't say enough what wondeful ladies you are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Christyismyalias View Post
    Green tea is great at work! Makes you feel like you are treating your body so well, which is great in that environment when everyone around you is putting unhealthy crap into them. Plus the enerygy boost Niiiice. And green tea helps with weight control/loss.

    I do agree

    I did get a thermos actually. A huge one that keeps my tea scalding hot. What a difference! It's gotta be like 40 oz. or so and I go through all of it in shift
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    Quote Originally Posted by hazel_eyes View Post
    My first night back was a struggle. When I first walked in, a bottle of vodka was right in my face, but I told the all the girls about what I'm trying to do, and they kept it away. Knowing it was there, coupled with a dead night, made it hard though. They told me they weren't gonna give me any if I asked, so I thank them for that. Everyone has been reall supportive, and management knows as well.

    The tea really worked wonders! Can't wait to see how it goes tonight, though it will probably be slow again since there are tornado watches in place. blah.

    Thank you all again. I can't say enough what wondeful ladies you are.
    I'm glad to hear that the tea is working, and it's fantastic that your co-workers are being so supportive! That's great

    Definitely bring the tea in a thermos if you're not already. I do that in the winter to keep my tea hot the whole shift

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