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    Ok. so here's a question for the custies. When you guys compliment strippers do you really mean what you say?
    Backstory: When i was first getting into dancing a stripper friend who works in a diff. club warned me "you are going to get so many insults, i always do... it's like they come in there to pick on your weight/tatoos/exc to feel better about themselves." So that's what i was expecting. But i have yet to get a single guy pick on me. instead i am always getting compliments. "your so attractive" "i love your hair" blah blah. I can never tell if the custies actually think i am all that hot or if they are just bullshitting me for some reason...
    Also the following types of compliments are annoying, (at least in my oppinion) so maybe try to avoid them.
    -you want to tell a girl she is cute. fine. don't repeat it over and over. then it's just acward.
    -don't tell the girl "why are you working here, you could do so much better"... "oh yah? and where do you sujest i work in Wisconsin that is better hah?
    -"you are the hottest girl at this club" or even worse "you are way hotter then (points at current girl on stage)".

    Espetially in regard to that last one. You may think it's a compliment, and maybe some dancers like hearing that they are hotter then their co workers, i find it to be really abnoxious, especially since i like most of my coworkers and it always seems more as an insult to them then a compliment to me in a weird way.

    so i guess my question is as follows
    1) custies, do you mean the compliments you give strippers and
    2) dancers, do you enjoy getting compliments like the ones i have mentioned, or do they just get old and annoying?

    (also, if this whole thing sounded braggy or something, i didn't mean it that way and i can't think of a way to put it that will sound more humble. plus i am not a humble person so just deal.)
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    so from my perspective as a dancer, i know i've had guys lie to me. i assume its because they assume they'll get more mileage that way. i dunno. but some guys definitely do it.
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    I try to be sincere with compliments and if I don't have much to say, then I just don't. I figure dancers have heard it all, and can read through the best custy-shit faster than I could possibly dish it out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    its because they assume they'll get more mileage that way
    that's what i was thinking. though a lot of the compliments do seem genuine they do tend to be piled on a bit more thickly then necessary.
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    My compliments are true. Sometimes, however, I might exaggerate the truth, but the main core of my compliment is true. I'd feel too awkward giving a totally false compliment.

    So, 90% of my compliments would be 100% true, and 10% of my compliments would be true but exaggerated.

    I don't go overboard with compliments. I'll give one every once in a while.

    Over complimenting and being annoying about it may be Customer Shit (CS): Passive aggressive, annoying

    Side note: If a dancer asks me for my opinion on her looks or physique, or is fishing for compliments, then I may tend to exaggerate more or stretch the truth. I'd try to put the best light on whatever she wants me to give an opinion on.
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    I think you've got to put a guy's motivations into this.

    At one end of the spectrum you've got someone with a bad case of 'date the dancer' syndrome who'll see compliments as a way towards getting a dancers phone number. At the other end of the spectrum, you've got someone like myself, who'll pop in towards the end of the shift to pick up a dancer and who doesn't take things too seriously. Unlike "Mr Date the Dancer", I've not got an ulterior motive for any complimentary remarks. Reasons for compliments differ.

    You've also got to take the nature of the compliment into account. I could for example compliment a girl on:

    - Her dress and makeup
    - her pole dancing skills
    - her figure

    This presents a steady progression away from real life.

    Compliments about dress and make-up are common in the real world. If I've gone to meet a girl IRL and she's made an effort to look nice, I'll compliment her on it. Not much difference doing the same thing inside a SC.

    Praising pole dancing skills is still pretty OK. You're talking about a dancers performance - which is not much different from saying someone's played well at tennis or chess or whatever.

    Where we start to diverge from the real world is comments about a dancer's figure. In the real world I wouldn't say "you've got nice boobs" to someone I barely knew - and I try not to so the same in a SC.

    If a girls' got a really nice figure and is angling for a comment, I try and make a light-hearted remark like "you're laying havoc with my blood pressure" or similar. I'd actually feel uncomfortable being really personal about a girl's figure - I wouldn't do it IRL, and I see no need to do it in a SC.

    (And I shudder at the recent memory of a guy who walked up to a dancer and said "I'm Ian - by the way I like your clitoral piercing". How's that for starting a conversation?)

    As to how genuine my compliments are: they're normally a fair reflection on my thoughts. I suspect the reason for that is that dancers are fairly good on picking up on body language. They're more likely to angle for a compliment if I'm responding positively to them.

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    every compliment i give i mean. I wouldnt want to lead her on!!!!!!

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    When I give compliments, it's sincere.

    I'm a lousy liar to begin with, and most dancers are savvy enough to see through BS.

    I figure sincere compliments make for happier dancers and thus happier dances. I'd rather be around positive people.

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    I pretty much agree with the other guys here. I throw a few compliments a dancer's way to make her feel at ease, to have give her a chance to smile at me and start a conversation, to break a long silence, and because (sorry it sounds corny but it is true) it is a gentlemanly thing for a man to do.

    I try to stick with the generic compliments that would likely not be misinterpreted. I usually say something, "wow you are so beautiful". "I love the way you smell, look and feel", etc.

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    I've always figured customer compliments would ultimately be chalked up as CS so it's extremely rare that I offer them. Instead, I just go with the mindset that greater sums of money spent is probably the best way to compliment a dancer.

    But to answer to OP's question directly, on occasions I have complimented a dancer they have been sincere 100% of the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bob_Loblaw View Post
    I've always figured customer compliments would ultimately be chalked up as CS so it's extremely rare that I offer them. Instead, I just go with the mindset that greater sums of money spent is probably the best way to compliment a dancer.
    omg. money makes me feel sooooo sexy. really. comes off as way more sincere than any words ever could. at least in a strip club.
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    After as many years as i've been doing this, the compliments that mean something still make me blush. The ones that don't ... well they get snarky remarks.

    them: "Do you know how beautiful you are?"
    me: "Probably, I hear it often enough."

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    compliments from me are 100% genuine, come out during the natural flow of conversation and are appropriate IRL too. i also expect nothing in return, but a "thanks" tells me that it was acknowledged.

    i stay away from commenting on her body and maintain constant eye contact. some compliments i might give a dancer are that they're pretty, smell good, are wearing a great outfit, have cool hair, can work the stage/poll really well, funny, personable, etc.

    i dont compliment every dancer i meet...it really has to come out naturally from me . one dancer said she blushed at my compliment, which was rare for her. i took it as SS since it was too dark to tell if her cheeks were rosy . i asked another girl if she gets tired of hearing that she's beautiful and she said "no one can ever get tired of hearing that, i love it"

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    I don't compliment on looks, because I assume: (a) they already know they are hot, (b) they hear that all the time and (c) they'll think I'm saying it "to get more mileage".

    I do compliment on other things, though, like their dance skills, choice of clothing, humor or something that comes up during the conversation, etc... and my compliments are sincere.

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    I ignore the fishing for complements if she is not that attractive. If she is hot she doesn't have to ask....I am proactive in those situations.

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    Sure, I mean what I say.... why would I bother to fake a compliment? if you can't find something sincere to compliment someone on, you aren't looking hard enough, or, you have more serious problems

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    If I tell you you are the most beautiful women I have ever seen I mean it.

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    I generally like getting compliments EXCEPT for the last example which, I agree, seems more like a compliment to me at the expense of my lovely co-dancers.

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    Me... I know all my compliments are real cuz' I never plan them. The worst one is when I'm not paying attention and a girl walks by right in front of me and the next thing I hear is something like "dam that's solid", coming out of my mouth then I look up and I can tell from her eyes that I'm about to loose money. Oh oh, or like when a girl is at a bar and I can't stop staring at her, then she looks my way and my brain is screaming look away, but I can't. Then she starts walking over to me and it's like NOOOO!!! look away!!! When she gets there it's like your eyes have already told her all she needed to know. At that point it really sucks, because they no longer even need to ask. At the end of those nights I end up going home thinking, why did I give her all my compliments.

    Oh well, it's worth it.
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    Chalk me up as sincere. I don't compliment dancers a lot since I'll only give my cash to you for a lap/table dance if you have some feature/trait that I want to see more of.

    So if I mention that you have the grace of a classical dancer or the most beautiful face I've seen all evening it's because I really have found something about you that strikes me as worthy of a compliment.

    So I wouldn't read too much into compliments, sometimes they are just compliments.

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    When I say "you have cute feet" I mean it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by datchapin View Post
    Me... I'm not paying attention and a girl walks by right in front of me and the next thing I hear is something like "dam that's solid", coming out of my mouth then I look up and I can tell from her eyes that I'm about to loose money...
    LOL. She obviously knows you mean it.
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    OP -

    In a SC real is already out. The girl's aren't being real. So I say what I feel like saying and don't care why they imagine I'm saying it. It's all pretend anyway so what if I really were lying. Why would I make it up?

    Someone has to be the hottest girl in the club for any one patron. Agree it's bad form to give negative compliments, though it may be reassuring for the dancer (if she believes it). Better to directly compliment the girl.

    If you are stripping I'd hope you don't have anything to be humble about.
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    we are all perverts in the SC in my opinion. Hes a pervert, you're a pervert, I'm a pervert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Idmonstre View Post
    that's what i was thinking. though a lot of the compliments do seem genuine they do tend to be piled on a bit more thickly then necessary.
    -Crimson
    They mean it, but they are piling it on to get your number. Piling it on can also be genuine or playful, though.
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    we are all perverts in the SC in my opinion. Hes a pervert, you're a pervert, I'm a pervert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopper View Post
    They mean it, but they are piling it on to get your number. Piling it on can also be genuine or playful, though.
    Oh, shush you. For some of us sad sacks a genuine smile and glimmer of appreciation in the corner of an eye is payment enough.

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