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    he came in with me on my last audition. he knew the dancer on the stage from wen he was a security guy at the last club i worked at and he was hardly making eye contact with me....constantly staring at her. and ive been told im a lot hotter than her...but if that was the truth why is he only looking at her? i feel liek he is a pig sometimes! always loking at other girls bodies and shit....it brings down my self confidence...i am a nwe dancer and he compares his ex stripper gf to me all the time cuase she had a lot of experience...i hate it!!! does nayone else have this going on???

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    This is why it is always a BAD idea to bring your boyfriend to work, and it's why I've never brought mine.

    Either you'll end up getting jealous, or he will, and it will lead to drama that hurts your money.

    Leave the boyfriend, and the drama, at home.

    P.S. Unsolicited advice: He sounds like a douche. Dump him.

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    i think bf should not come in with you. it would mess up my money. my bf came with me for my photo shoot recently. normally, i try to keep business separate, but i didnt want to do this shoot alone for safety reasons. if there would have been problems, i would have brought someone else. he was very well behaved and the photographer was a perfect gentleman. we did a tasteful nude shoot.

    i'm sorry but comparing you to his ex is downright rude. my ex did this. the more he did it, the more i acted like i could care less if he died the next day. and the more i ignored him- to the point i left him. you really dont need that crap, leave this guy.

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    ya i have actually tried several times..but he says how much he cares about me..and i believe it. but he has no job. i am the one making money on cam and going to strip clubs. he says these days with the economy its easier for me to go out and get a job and i would make a lot more a lot faster. i mean am i in the worng if i get jelous if he
    1) talks about his exes
    2) watches the howard stern girls on that vibrating chair and get all excited about it
    3) was the one who got me into stripping (even though i like it now)
    4) he hasnt had a job in 4 months
    5) behind on child support and rent

    but he says he loves me and im not sure i can do any better right now. and ive fallen for him. i jsut hope im not that stupid girl everyone feels bad for. and he is willing to travel with me when i go to stripclubs and i dont want to do it alone. i love company and companionship.

    but i want to feel special and not hear how hot someone else is or hwo many girls hes been with. and he is liek twice my age. i thought he would be more mature. but hes liek a lil teenager mentally and emotionally....grrr!!!

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    wow. he sounds like my ex. LEAVE HIM!

    he sounds like he is living in the past. and like my ex, yours doesnt do a single thing to better himself now. one thing- i never, EVER paid his bills or gave him a single cent, which pissed him off to no end. (and you should do the same) instead, i made suggestions on places that would give him a job- and they would have, esp since i knew the bosses. he was just too damn lazy. i led the horse to water, it was up to the horse to take a gulp.

    as far as work, honey, you're a big girl and you can go to these clubs yourself. i used to greyhound to different cities alone. you'll be fine, just carry yourself with confidence and you may have to seem a bit rough.

    my ex also bragged about his exes and never once ever saw what was in front of him. flat out- he has no self-esteem and seems to enjoy using you as his emotional punching bag, which is what happened to me. so i left and it is the best thing i ever did for myself! you deserve so much better. believe me, the time i wasted with that asshole was so unhealthy for my self-esteem. and mine was older too. not older as in age is just a number, but older as in washed up and damaged goods- pretty much a lemon of a bf!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    This is why it is always a BAD idea to bring your boyfriend to work, and it's why I've never brought mine.

    Either you'll end up getting jealous, or he will, and it will lead to drama that hurts your money.

    Leave the boyfriend, and the drama, at home.

    P.S. Unsolicited advice: He sounds like a douche. Dump him.
    Totally agree. Dump the jackass.

    Oh and don't ever let a guy determine your level of self esteem or worth, girl. Believe in yourself and don't let them influence it.

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    thanks girls...ur soo right. i guess when you are in the situation living and breathing it you force yourself to feel its normal. but yea i do need to be independent more and be able to do this shit on my own. i jsut think i HAVE let guys rip down my self esteem that i feel liek shit. been in abusive relationships. been raped. been addicted to hard drugs. have some scars on my left arm. and i feel liek shit even though in the clubs ive been to they say i am the best looking girl. i always get asked out. always told im hot. its jsut so hard to believe these days. i want my self confidence back! i dotn knwo whats worng with me these days!! and i KNOW its aturnoff to not be confident so i am a different person when i work i am sooo confident or atleast i play the part. but feel liek shit when i come home and i dont think my own man is all crazy about me. i men ai know he thinks im hot i knwo he wants to fuck. but i could get that anywhere. i want him to like rave about me. but i need to feel good about myself on my own. its just hard leaving the past the past and not making it you. and any girl would feel liek shit when she is trying to talk to her man and he is staring at tits and what does he say?

    ME- why the hell were u staring at her the whole time i was trying to talk to you?
    HIM- ii knew her i was trying to make eye contact
    ME- you were staring at her TITS!!!
    HIM- you brought me to a titty bar the girls naked..im not supposed to even look over???
    ME- (feeling like shit and ending the conversation..since apparently none of his x's ever had a problem with this...so by him saying that he is basically telling me to get over it)

    i hate men

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    holy crap, i'm sorry but he sounds like a complete piece of shit. he thinks you should be making money for him? unbelievable.
    i don't know where you live but there ARE better men out there.
    he's had no fucking job for months, of course he's behind on child support. which is super shitty. he can't even take care of his child because he's too lazy. he just dates a younger girl and goes with her while she takes her clothes off for money.
    i just think he's beyond terrible. you really need a good girl friend.
    your self-esteem is in the shitter and having this scumbag around leaching off of you is only going to make it worse.
    where do you live? idk why you have to go around to diff strip clubs, maybe try to find one you like and stick with it. having a routine is good.

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    First off, WHY the hell is he comparing you to his ex? That is a really awful thing to do.

    Also, don't be a damn stereotype and support some lazy-ass mooch who makes you feel terrible about yourself.

    Next, you really need to work on your self-confidence before you will be able to feel secure in any relationship. Jealousy is generally triggered by things that make you feel your position in the relationship may be in jeopardy. Just looking seems pretty mild to me and I'd guess it is your BF and not just your self-confidence that is causing that level of insecurity. He sounds like a real piece of crap.

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    Lose him... seriously - there is no reason for you to have to feel like you are being compared to other women. Find a guy that practically worships the ground you walk on. One of the things I noticed as I got older was the guys I dated got better and better. At some point you get sick of all the BS and don't put up with it, and as a result you may go through relationships faster - but you are getting closer to finding the person who is right for you.
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    i agree with everyone else- he's gots to go. i can understand how this can seem normal, since you're kinda used to be feeling like crap, but i assure you that its not. you can do so much better than him, and be sooo much happier in the long run. he is a total jackass, and he's keeping you down. he doesn't want you to feel good about yourself- cause then you'd come to your senses and drop him like a bad habit- thats why he says all those things and looks at other girls. it chips away at your self esteem and makes you think that you can't do better than him. but you can, and you will.
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    def needs to go, my ex wasnt cool with the dancing and said it turned him off, his excuse for not wanting to have sex alot, but it was ok for me to dance at a club, escort and work a full time sales job. so basically it cant bother him that much if he is living off of me. and guess what ? when i stopped paying his way and left him I gave him an oppurtunity to pay me back and get back together, but shocker....he never bothered to pay me back, just texted me for months about how he missed me, never offered to pay. get yourself out of that situation, you will be much happier.
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    thank you girls! tough to hear...but usually the closest things to your heart or the msot truthful things are just hard to hear

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    He sounds like more of a pimp than a boyfriend... almost 40 years old and he is mooching off his 18 year old girlfriend. Loser.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblyHaillie View Post
    i jsut hope im not that stupid girl everyone feels bad for.
    I feel bad for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    He sounds like more of a pimp than a boyfriend... almost 40 years old and he is mooching off his 18 year old girlfriend. Loser.
    DITTO... if I dated a 40 year old man he better be making 5x more than I do and treat me like a FRIKKEN PRINCESS.. you don't deserve all the crap he gives you. Staying JOBLESS AT 40 is not acceptable !!!
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    Oh wow... what a loser.. PLEASE dump him!

    Think about any prospective boyfriend in this way... would you want him to be the father and role model for your kids? If the answer is a big fat NO, he is no good for you either!
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    He clearly has zero respect for you at all, you should really think about getting rid of him! You will be much happier.

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    Your boyfriend definitely sounds like a jerk...I dunno why he would even need to look at other women because based on your avatar you are REALLY REALLY hot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    This is why it is always a BAD idea to bring your boyfriend to work, and it's why I've never brought mine.

    Either you'll end up getting jealous, or he will, and it will lead to drama that hurts your money.

    Leave the boyfriend, and the drama, at home.

    P.S. Unsolicited advice: He sounds like a douche. Dump him.
    Well put!

    To the OP, you deserve soooo much better than him. I hope you realize that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblyHaillie View Post
    but he says he loves me and im not sure i can do any better right now. and ive fallen for him. i jsut hope im not that stupid girl everyone feels bad for. and he is willing to travel with me when i go to stripclubs and i dont want to do it alone. i love company and companionship.

    but i want to feel special and not hear how hot someone else is or hwo many girls hes been with. and he is liek twice my age. i thought he would be more mature. but hes liek a lil teenager mentally and emotionally....grrr!!!
    i just wanted to add to address some of the things in this paragraph. wow, this is a trainwreck.
    ok, he says he loves you- even if true is irreleveant- this guy is a complete and utter awful loser.no sane person would touch this guy with a ten foot pole. its like saying "but, jeffrey dahmer(?) says he loves me. because this guy is only slightly better than a cannibal.
    you love company and companionship- i think this is what the biggest problem is - you don't want to leave him because you don't want to be alone. trust me, being alone would be mush better than this jerk. its not as scary as you think to be alone. and othe guys think you're hot- you could snap your fingers and get a (hopefully non-loser) replacement.
    the key to all this is your self esteem - because it sounds like you don't think that you deserve and can do better- but you do
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    Default Re: jelous about boyfirend looking at other strippers

    You shouldn't be dancing if you are insecure.

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    And he's an asshole.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblyHaillie View Post

    but he says he loves me and im not sure i can do any better right now.
    please girl... your a stripper!!!! People PAY just to talk to you and look at you! What do you mean you cant do better right now!

    In my experience, dont settle. Its better to be single than have someone bringing you down. Ditch him and enjoy the single life untill you find someone actually worth your time, energy, and affection.

    thats just my two cents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblyHaillie View Post
    he says these days with the economy its easier for me to go out and get a job and i would make a lot more a lot faster.

    Whoa...he expects you to support him?!!? And he's almost twice your age???

    He's being manipulative, and what he's doing is called financial abuse. He has the attitude that it's "easy money," and even more scary, that he's entitled to it. WORST POSSIBLE ATTITUDE FOR A STRIPPERS BF.

    You don't want to be the stupid girl that everyone feels bad for? Well, tough truth time: YOU ARE. You are being stupid and everyone feels bad for you.

    Clearly you have trouble being alone since justify staying with him with "I probably can't find anything better right now." Honey, you can be fabulous and single, and it's much preferable to being manipulated by a lying douchebag who expects you to support him. If you can't be single, you need to get to therapy.
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