^^ See, now, why'd you have to go and get all concise on me? You're supposed to COMPLICATE it all! Now you've made me seem comparatively obscenely verbose.![]()
^^ See, now, why'd you have to go and get all concise on me? You're supposed to COMPLICATE it all! Now you've made me seem comparatively obscenely verbose.![]()
^^ Ha! I'm sure your verbosity is way more enjoyable to the other members than my brevity. Besides, you are very cute and sadly, I look like my avatar
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.





Charlie... Thanks for that post and for your suggested reading. Yes, it is very fascinating stuff... I think that to some extent, every job has the element of emotional labor,... which means that someone is paying (usually a lot of money) for the performance of sympathy, care, advocacy, etc. In my job, my clients confide in me so much that sometimes they forget that I am their lawyer and NOT their best friend... I listen to the unfolding drama in their lives only because I get paid to, and my meter is ALWAYS running... But, they will forget about the running meter and casually spend 1, 2 or 3 hours with me in person or on the phone, to tell me what could have been communicated in three minutes, because they ramble on and on about mundane personal and irrelevant matters... So, basically, I am getting paid $200/hr to PRETEND to be their sympathetic best friend... I've thought about getting a psychology degree so that... I can bill them double... $200/hr as lawyer... and $200/hr as psychologist... But, kidding aside... very fascinating stuff...![]()
^ I suppose you're right. But stripping definitely involves a LOT more than most other jobs. You really should read some of her stuff--she discusses the problems such people incur while mediating the lines between their real lives and work lives. Very interesting stuff. Like MPD (though I believe that term is now obsolete).





I agree.
I will... I wish this forum had an online book reading club... It would be very interesting to read from a select list of interesting psychology, sociology and feminist books that touch on dancers and/or sex workers and then discuss them online... impressions, real-life applications, dancer's perspective, custie's perspective... etc.
^ I think most of us either don't have time to do that because we're in school/working, don't care enough to participate, or just wouldn't be interested. I fall into the former category. It'd definitely be cool though.





^^ I believe to a large extent, the writings would just become masturbatory materials. I mean, the dancers deal with that every day so why bother?
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
^ I actually do enjoy studying sociological perspectives on the sex industry and whatnot. It mentally helps me to place myself amongst others, read pieces written by other women who have done what I do, et cetera. It gives me a community to belong to. Like StripperWeb!
^Beyond the boobs, I am extremely interested in the sociological/psychological aspects and motivations of the sex industry. Reading posts on here is fascinating, both in what we (custies) ask and say, and the dancers responses and interactions with us and other dancers.
Enough babbling.
I detest everyone pretty much equally. Except myself. I LOOOOVE me.



98% strictly business, just for $$
2% - find attractive, so It's a bonus I have someone hot to dance for, but they will NOT get my number, extras or see me OTC.
I don't mix business and pleasure, i'm all about the $$$ when I'm there



90% I'm indifferent to--I don't really dislike or like them, I don't remember them or their name and I don't care one way or the other about anything regarding them.
5% Are cool people, as in I somewhat enjoy their conversation skills. I am not physically attracted to them and would not consider seeing them outside the club OR giving them extras or anything like that, but I do enjoy sitting with them. Doesn't feel SO much like work.
4.99% I absolutely want to maime, strangle, kill, and otherwise dismember. Basically jackasses.
.01% Guys that I would MAYBE find attractive if they weren't in a strip club. This has only happened once to me in New Orleans. Two attractive men came in together and were in a band (my type) and wanted me to hang out after work. I WILL NEVER EVER hang out with anyone outside the club and usually I have NO PROBLEM telling them that. But those two guys have thus far been the only two I've considered breaking the rule for. But I didn't end up doing anything at all, besides lapdances IN the club.










id say about:
50% Indifferent to
25% Incredibly angry at and/or repulsed by
24% Enjoy talking to/dancing for, but am not attracted to. By "enjoy" I mean because they are nice/interesting/fun/etc -not- that it "turns me on".
1% (yes, just like most other girls) I am personally* attracted to.
I gotta tell you, I've been dancing over 4 years and I would say there have been less than 10 guys total who, outside of the club/under different circumstances I MIGHT consider sleeping with. Also, I'm speaking PHYSICALLY only. If we include personality that number probably drops to 3.
*This is my own personal attraction I'm talking about. I -do- recognize a higher number of the customers I dance to are probably considered attractive by women "in general". My guess would be a whopping 2-3% higher.





Just to put it out there, I actually kinda 'target' the unattractive guys. The fat, old, and/or bald guy sitting alone not getting any attention is usually the guy who spends tons of money on me, and at the club, that's all I care about. I'd say 99% of the guys I dance for I'm not attracted to much besides his wallet. Although I do have a few regulars who I think are cool as fuck, I'm rarely physically attracted to customers, and wouldn't think of dating any.
P.S. Why in the hell would I give out free extras? I'm at work to make money.





90% for the money (of that, disgusted by about 75%, but not neccesarily because they are physically repulsive)
10% attracted to if they never opened their mouth
1% if they opened their mouth
1 customer I've ever seen as a potentional boyfriend




I am only attracted to 1%, usually a guy my age who is tall and handsome, and close to my age (I'm 22), somewhere in their 20s. I usually end up exchanging numbers with the guy. I don't follow up or meet them outside though. I don't do any extras or date guys I meet at the club. I don't know why. What does OTC stand for?! I can't for the life of me figure it out.





^Out of The Club or Outside The Club as opposed to ITC In The Club
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