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    Default Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    grrr. This woman on another forum keeps bragging about how she goes to stripclubs and gives lapdances to fellow customers, then takes them home.
    And she cant see how dancers could possibly be annoyed at this!
    So what would YOU say to her to explain the correct etiquette?
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    ive been on both sides of the spectrum used to go to sc with mixed group girls and guys before i started dancing we used to dance with our guy friends but if dancers came over they were more then willing to get dances from them.. same with me and my friends that were females we would buy dances and tip the girls on stage...

    it wasnt untill i started dancing that i realized that it would be annoying for female customers to come in who dont tip or buy dances from anyone period and then sit there grinding and dancing all over male customers...

    this hasnt happend at the club i work at the females that have come in have tipped the girls and bought dances but if it happend to me i would probably ask the girl if she would like to tip me for my dance i just did on stage or ask her if she would like a dance or a double dance with her and her guy friend

    if she wanted to be stank about it then i would probably say something slick or at least let her know that as a dancer this is a job we are here to make money if shes kool grinding on guys without getting paid go to a regular dance club theres plenty of d*ck there to grind on without getting paid

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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    Bitch stop. Your messing up my livelihood. IE: Making me loose money.
    Leave the sexiness to the pros.. Honey.

    If you want to be a hooker, do it somewhere else. I'm here to get paid.

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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    Im trying to be polite to her, as I am a moderator on that forum. Ive explained to her in the past that dancing for customers is not on, but she just doesnt get it. Now shes bragging about picking up guys there.
    Ive told my friends who work at that specific club to look out for her, but I work on the otherside of the country, so it doesnt affect my money (except in the general industry cycle thing, where if SHE does it, so might other girls etc)
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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_celeste View Post
    Ive explained to her in the past that dancing for customers is not on, but she just doesnt get it. Now shes bragging about picking up guys there.
    It sounds like it's a power trip for her. A "Look at me, I'm hotter than the stripper" kind of thing.

    Honestly, I wouldn't tell her anything like, "it takes away from my money," because that will validate her and make her feel like she's winning. Like she's so hot that strippers can't compete and have to beg her to stop stealing their precious customers.

    I would say something that reveals how trashy and demeaning her actions really are. Act like you pity her, not like you view her as a threat. Something passive-aggressive like, "I feel so sorry for wannabe strippers, coming in and trying to do my job for free. Did the manager tell you he's hiring intern strippers or something? Because I'm sorry, hon, but that's not how it works."

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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    I was going to say the same thing ....... suggest she work at the club if she enjoys it.....then laugh when she doesn't get hired.

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    Try explaining that the club management may start to assume she's a hooker using the club to pick up customers. And so may the customers, she could get herself into a dangerous situation outside the club.

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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    It's like a mule and a two by four - or trying to speak logically to a drunk.

    Some people really don't care about manners or being polite - anywhere.

    Taking food out of a family's mouth ( hurting their earnings ) is just wrong. Anywhere, anytime. Trying to take the higher road sometimes does not work. However admirable it might be.

    To go to some internet forum and brag about it after the fact is just downright evil. Some of the women that work at that club ought to find out where this woman works and troop in there and just sit around.

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    I replied
    "basically its a HUGE breach of etiquette to go to someones work place and take money away from them.

    An example would be going to a restaurant, walking up to a stranger and saying "dont spend you money here, come back to my place and Ill cook for you"

    Going to a strip club and lapdancing for customers, then taking them home is - stealing income from the girls working there,
    - putting yourself at risk, as many Working Girls use SCs to find punters, (which is rather illegal)
    -encourages customers to hit on OTHER female customers, making them uncomfortable,
    - makes customers try to take home dancers, who believe you me, arent interested in sleeping with random guys from their workplace.
    -puts you at even more of a risk, as in the USA some dancers would take you out back and bash you (Im not joking)

    Its just wrong on so many levels.

    It makes me feel sorry for girls that do this, having to give it ALL away for free, when us dancers can charge for the FANTASY and make a great income from it.


    "I wanna KILL female customers "http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=123263&highlight=female+customers

    "How can I be a worse customer?" http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthr...male+customers

    Also have a read of the stickies at the top of this forum, plenty of hints on how to respect dancers and enjoy the Strip Club world"
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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_celeste View Post
    Now shes bragging about picking up guys there.
    haha, it's not difficult to pick up guys. tell her it doesn't mean shit, it's just that the majority of strippers wouldn't go home with any customers, even if we were offered money.

    I fucking hate women like that. They do that shit for their own self-esteem and never stop to think it's our job. To them, we're "just" strippers, lesser women. they don't see us as people, we're just another form of competition.
    sorry for the mini rant, I really really fucking hate the majority of female customers.
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    Good job. I just hope she gets the hint and nothing seriously bad happens to her.

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    Default Re: Female customers with no idea of etiquette

    If she's bragging about taking home random dudes from strip clubs, then she's got bigger problems than breaching strip club etiquette. I would remind her that being a dirty skank is not something to be proud of.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    Honestly, I wouldn't tell her anything like, "it takes away from my money," because that will validate her and make her feel like she's winning. Like she's so hot that strippers can't compete and have to beg her to stop stealing their precious customers.
    But.. she is winning, isn't she? I mean, if her goal is a power trip, to get attention from the male customers and upstage the strippers and tick em off...

    /devil's advocate

    Why do ya'll get so pissed about stuff like that? I would never walk into a club as a patron and try to dance for male customers - I think it's far from classy and pretty disrespectful - but the fact is there are bitches out there who do this. Why let it get to you? Keep your head up and work the room like you normally would. There's no sense in wasting energy worrying about these ladies. They're not taking money from you. Just ignore them and be you, money will follow.

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    Some women are just downright nasty, and I have no idea why they think getting a man to fuck them is something to be proud of. Even the ugliest, fattest, skankiest woman on earth can get some dick if she offers herself to enough guys, especially some of the losers who hang out in strip clubs.

    This reminds of a time I was working in one of the brothels in Nevada, and these two women came into the bar. They stayed for a little while and then (we thought) they left. Next thing you know one of the girls who had been in town comes in and asks the manager why two women are getting fucked in their car out in the parking lot. The dirty bitches had come to a damn whore house to pick up guys to have sex in a car in broad daylight. How desperate does one have to be to do that? The best part was that one of them had forgotten her purse, so everyone had the opportunity to tell her just how disgusting she was. Some people...

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    It really doesn't take much to find a guy to fuck you inside a strip club.
    We get them sexually frustrated and drunk and send them on their way.

    How does she get a power trip off that? She's stupid for thinking she's hot shit for getting these guys to go home with her.... It's ridiculous. More than be pissed we should feel sorry for her.
    She's feeling sorry for us and we're feeling sorry for her. But who's getting paid?

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    Quote Originally Posted by patchouli View Post
    But.. she is winning, isn't she? I mean, if her goal is a power trip, to get attention from the male customers and upstage the strippers and tick em off...

    /devil's advocate

    Why do ya'll get so pissed about stuff like that? I would never walk into a club as a patron and try to dance for male customers - I think it's far from classy and pretty disrespectful - but the fact is there are bitches out there who do this. Why let it get to you? Keep your head up and work the room like you normally would. There's no sense in wasting energy worrying about these ladies. They're not taking money from you. Just ignore them and be you, money will follow.
    Frankly, if this happened in my club all of the dancers would be livid. It dirties the name of the club, takes away girls' money, and make customers less willing to spend money on a lapdance if they can get sex from a female customer for free.

    My club would never allow this, however. Any time any customer starts doing dance-ish stuff, or is making out with their partner, they get kicked out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Otoki View Post
    It dirties the name of the club, takes away girls' money, and make customers less willing to spend money on a lapdance if they can get sex from a female customer for free.
    def agree. Especially about dirtying the club name - it associates the club with sex. even if it's not with dancers, even having that relation in people's minds is bad news bears.

    ps otoki I you may work at the first club I ever tried out in! woot for MN strippers!
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    i don't know what she's proud of.

    dudes getting frustrated in a strip club where they probably can't even get a blow job (or can't afford one). they can choose between jerking off in the bathroom or maybe being lucky enough to come in their pants during a dance, probably not til a couple dances in, and they won't even get that if it's a low contact club.

    some "normal" girl comes in and is ready and willing to fucking them (is she charging for this, or just doing it for the thrill?)...and most dudes will fuck just about anything if they're horny enough...

    get a monk to fuck you, and you can brag about that.

    getting a horny dude in a strip club to fuck you is like getting a starving refugee to eat a steak dinner. doesn't have to be the nicest steak. there can be some gristle in there. it's food.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blueyedmiss18 View Post
    ive been on both sides of the spectrum used to go to sc with mixed group girls and guys before i started dancing we used to dance with our guy friends but if dancers came over they were more then willing to get dances from them.. same with me and my friends that were females we would buy dances and tip the girls on stage...

    it wasnt untill i started dancing that i realized that it would be annoying for female customers to come in who dont tip or buy dances from anyone period and then sit there grinding and dancing all over male customers...

    this hasnt happend at the club i work at the females that have come in have tipped the girls and bought dances but if it happend to me i would probably ask the girl if she would like to tip me for my dance i just did on stage or ask her if she would like a dance or a double dance with her and her guy friend

    if she wanted to be stank about it then i would probably say something slick or at least let her know that as a dancer this is a job we are here to make money if shes kool grinding on guys without getting paid go to a regular dance club theres plenty of d*ck there to grind on without getting paid
    i wish there was a no thanks button for posts like this, dancing for guy friends in a club is very annoying and makes you look dsperate and pathetic!

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    has she replied to your reply yet, celeste?

    i think what you wrote was really polite and informed, but i do think there should have been a clause in there about "if you want to do lapdances, become a stripper. if you want to sleep with random guys, become a prostitute. either way, there's no reason for you to be doing both things for free because it only makes you look bad and takes away from people who are trying to earn a living."
    "If she wants to dance and drink all night, well there's no one that can stop her. She's going til the house lights come up or her stomach spills onto the floor. This night is gonna end when we're damn well ready for it to be over, worked all week long, and now the music is playing on our time. Yeah we do what we do to get by, and then we need a release!" - Against Me!, "Thrash Unreal"

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    Quote Originally Posted by knp001 View Post
    def agree. Especially about dirtying the club name - it associates the club with sex. even if it's not with dancers, even having that relation in people's minds is bad news bears.

    ps otoki I you may work at the first club I ever tried out in! woot for MN strippers!
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    Quote Originally Posted by cashing in View Post
    i wish there was a no thanks button for posts like this, dancing for guy friends in a club is very annoying and makes you look dsperate and pathetic!
    Agreed. I don't understand why people think this is ok. How are strippers going to approach the group if the girls are doing this shit?

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    she just replied with "I dont see how this is a problem? Im not taking money from the girls"
    Theres no point arguing with this idiot.
    I have however warned my friends who work there about her, and security will be keeping an eye out from now on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_celeste View Post
    she just replied with "I dont see how this is a problem? Im not taking money from the girls"
    Theres no point arguing with this idiot.
    I have however warned my friends who work there about her, and security will be keeping an eye out from now on.

    You can't fix stupid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexy_celeste View Post
    she just replied with "I dont see how this is a problem? Im not taking money from the girls"
    Theres no point arguing with this idiot.
    I have however warned my friends who work there about her, and security will be keeping an eye out from now on.
    Hopefully since people are now on the lookout she will either back off or get pushed out.

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