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    Default over dancer drama already!

    the club i work at is small and has about 10 girls tops i feel like because im the new girl they want me to play sides because there has been constent drama at the club even befor ei started working


    there was one incident where every girl on the floor had gotten at least the $20 dances from this one guy by the time he called me over to sit with him and give him some dances the girls that were coming off stage asking for there stage tips were being out right obnoxious... the guy stopped tipping them and they were making slick comments... usually after our stage set we go around to everyone and usually get a dollar... the guy ended up leaving with out even drinking the beer he ordered and only got 2 dances from me

    i thought it was rediculous the girls were bitching about there 1 dollar tips when every single one of them had gotten at least 3 dances from him

    me being new i felt like they were stepping on my toes the manager came up to me my next shift and asked how i was doing and how i was getting along with the other girls and she heard what happends on the previous shift so i honestly told her it made me uncomfortable and i didnt put out just 1 dancer because it was every dancer on the floor that night so i said the girls in general

    to make a long story short now the girls are pissed that i went to the manager and think its childish because they think the bartender they have problems with told me to go to the manager and rat them out wich wasnt the case at all...

    im sorry for the long rant i just needed to get it out and maybe get some opinions... im just going to go back to keeping to myself not trying to make friends im there to make money

    i guess this is what i get for trying to open up and be nice to some of the girls

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    Default Re: over dancer drama already!

    yea unfortunately strip clubs are not typically the best place to try to make friends. I have one good friend from the first club i worked at who i still keep in touch with and a freind where i work now but in general i keep to myself. When i started opening up at my old club, thats when shit started getting said about me. Before i knew it, I apparently had been talking shit behind some girls back, stolen someones baby daddy and taken him back to new jersey with me, and stolen a bag full of dancing clothes (all of which are completely false...I still to this day dont even know who this alleged baby daddy is). It got so blown up that it spread to the other club i was working at. I ended up leaving both. Yea ridiculous stuff can be spread about you. Keeping to yourself is a good idea, hopefully it will blow over. If you continue being a target i would consider switching places, unless you are compleely attatched to where you are and are making fabulous money. Clubs are never completely drama free, but some are worse than others. If you start a new club, make sure to keep entirely to yourself this time without being cold.

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    Default Re: over dancer drama already!

    Ignore them, you are there to work not to try to make friends.
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    so i just need to vent the same bitch that said it was childish for me to go to our owner/manager didnt say two words to me last night wich i really dont care about but she was sitting at the bar talking shit within hearing distance n then says oh she can probably hear me... gets up n plays a song on the jukebox i was sitting there just thinking to myself how pathetic...

    and i know i shouldnt let it get to me but it still messed with my mindset for most of the night i want to cronfront her but im to the point she has such a stank ass attitude with EVERYONE if i confront her about it its either going to get blown out of porportion or im going to end up fighting her...

    me being the new girl i want these bitches well this bitch in particular to know im not someone they can just run over

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    Default Re: over dancer drama already!

    if she is talking shit about you, its making her look bad to the customers for starters. It makes her appear trashy and jealous.

    In normal life when dealing with normal people, especially friends, confronting people about problems is a good idea. I think that is generally pretty sound relationship advice. However, this is not normal life, its a strip club. They arent your friends. Strippers are usually not the best people to confront, especially if they dont like you. Usually when you confront friends in real life, its because they are causing a problem for you and arent aware or something similar. If she is talking shit about you she is probably one of the more hotheaded, tempermental strippers and logic probably WONT work. confrontation and reason will probably turn into a screaming match or worse yet, a cat fight, which is NOT what you want.

    The best way you can show that you are not someone they can just run over is to continue making money and not letting it bother you. If you ignore it, it should die down and if you focus on work and customers and demonstrate that you can still make money, then it is showing that you are not a shy little girl who is easily intimidated. Just shrug it off and be apathetic; this will lead to less drama than trying to confront and is not at all the same as being passive.

    If they keep bothering your customers, after talking to the customer for a song suggest that you guys sit at a table away from the bar so you can stop being interrupted.

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