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    My gf recently wants to strip but she's doesn't like the idea of me being there. We talked it out and she says she's ok with me coming in once in awhile, which I agreed to. Today's her first day and I said I won't come in the first couple days until she's comfortable. However, she just let me know that the club owners don't allow boyfriends while she's performing. I feel like she got them to say this and don't see what's wrong with me watching her perform. It doesn't make any sense that I'm banned from the club for simply being a boyfriend.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    For some added feedback check out these other threads and you will see that she is not alone in not wanting her bf watching her work, and the policy is fairly common....


    Boyfriends visiting you at work?
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=100547
    (see post 3, 6 & 18 )

    Visiting my girl at the club
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=50885
    (see post 3)

    boyfriend in club
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=69552

    boyfriends visiting you at work
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=42512
    (Posted by a girl who actually liked having her bf visit her; see post 3, 6 & 11)

    boyfriend wants to come to work...
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=40145
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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    Pretty much every club I have worked at enforces this rule. Even girl friends aren't allowed in at the club I am working at now. If they find out a guy trying to come in is dating one of the dancers, they just aren't allowed it.
    I doubt she is lying about that.
    Do a search on here, there are many threads that state the exact same ting your gf said.
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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    It makes perfect sense that you are banned. You are a distraction. Being human, your gf will want to make sure you are comfortable and all that and spend time doing so as compared to her making money for herself and the club. You should just stay home. If you feel you have to be there then you might want to evaluate your feelings about having a dancer girl friend.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    This is a strict rule at my club, and it was the very first one told to me when I started. Bf's and/or Gf's are not allowed. They do not want to deal with any problems that may arise from someone's SO being in the club. It makes sense if you think about it. Tbh, my husband has no desire to come and watch me grind on other guys for money. He knows what I do, obviously, but he doesn't really want to see it first hand.

    I very much doubt she is lying to you, especially if you talked it out before hand and came to an agreement.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    Every club I have ever worked at the rule was no boyfriends and no husbands. It makes sense. You may be cool with her dancing in theory, but if you see it in front of your face, you could be jealous.

    Even if you didnt get jealous, it's a distraction for her.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    You will screw up her hustle dude. Don't do it.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    seriously, let her strip at home for you. Do not go, even if you claim you aren't the jealous type. She wasn't so sure at first if she wanted you to go to begin with, always trust your FIRST instinct
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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    Plus um, why the hell would you want to? She is there to make money not hang out with you, dont you see her often enough in her off time?

    ETA: Asked the boyfriend his take, then re-read you OP...I get it, youre super insecure and need to be there to "watch over her" when she strips...fucking lamesauce yo, if you cant handle dating a stripper - FIND SOMEONE ELSE! Quit projecting your insecurities onto her! Effing douchenozzle

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    Quote Originally Posted by echomadison View Post
    Plus um, why the hell would you want to? She is there to make money not hang out with you, dont you see her often enough in her off time?

    ETA: Asked the boyfriend his take, then re-read you OP...I get it, youre super insecure and need to be there to "watch over her" when she strips...fucking lamesauce yo, if you cant handle dating a stripper - FIND SOMEONE ELSE! Quit projecting your insecurities onto her! Effing douchenozzle

    Truly. Plus if some body's SO is in my club to watch her "work" - we automatically assume that's her pimp. So yeah, go hang. Screw up her hustle, make her uncomfortable and give her a bad rep right off the bat with her co-workers. Your such a good bf...

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    Quote Originally Posted by crow2 View Post
    truly. Plus if some body's so is in my club to watch her "work" - we automatically assume that's her pimp. So yeah, go hang. Screw up her hustle, make her uncomfortable and give her a bad rep right off the bat with her co-workers. Your such a good bf...
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    Yea.....

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    Oh wait.. I haven't even started on the automatically assuming she's lying to him bit yet.

    What a douche.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    ^ i know right. that was sooooooo lame.

    if a dude gave me that shit, i would dump him. who wants a boy who treats her like a slutty piece of garbage (okay i know some people are into that, but i think they need therapy)
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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    Not to defend the OP, but it is pretty cool to see the woman you love performing on a stage. It's not the same as at home even if home dances are 3,000 times better in other ways (). If you are into theatrical or artistic type things, and she can really dance, it can be a beautiful sight, that's for sure.

    However, most boyfriends in the club are nothing but trouble--including the boyfriends who work in the club haha! It's a good rule, even the cool boyfriends will interfere with the hustle. I've broken the rule myself on many occasions but have always been very careful to limit it and make sure the woman in question absolutely wants me there at that particular time--usually at the end or if she's having a shitty night and doesn't care to hustle anymore. And the worst thing you can ever do is to even think about going anywhere near her trying to work a guy for any reason--stay the fuck away from that.

    It can be pretty strange to see 'your' girlfriend giving a lapdance. Most guys can't handle it, trust me, though some really get into it which is weird, I think, but that's their deal not mine.

    One of the dancers I work with has her husband come in and she gives him money to get dances from other women which again I find weird as fuck, but again that's their deal.

    In the Daytona clubs, most of the boyfriends coming in were either pimps taking all the money, drug dealers using them to peddle the shit, or most often just fucking assholes trying to fuck all the other dancers and showing off. The dancers' boyfriends in this town tend to be a lot better but there are still a lot of scumbags.


    Agreed that the relationship is doomed if the OP already thinks she is lying or being manipulated or is manipulating the truth, her first night there.

    But then very, very few relationships last more than a few weeks or months after the woman starts dancing, from my experience watching this shit go on. The guys who meet them when they are already in the business tend to last longer, but most of them cannot handle it either.
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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    If you don't trust her to be by herself why would you be with her anyways? either trust her or don't, you can't go through life keeping tabs on what she does anytime shes not with you.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    I never thought this would be a bit deal until I read all the other posts against it. But I guess it makes sense. Besides, it seems the SO's that would be cool to have at the clubs with us would be the types that wouldn't want to go anyway, and those that want to go, we wouldn't want there b/c of the drama.

    I dunno. You sound like the cool bf, but if you're coming here to post that as your first question, it sounds like you may have some of the drama in you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yaris View Post
    don't see what's wrong with me watching her perform.
    ...do you see anything wrong with her watching you watch other dancers perform while you are there?
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    Yeah boyfriends in the club is a bigg NO-NO. It's so bad that the clubs i go to will allow pimps in there but not the boyfriends..lmaoooo. I can always tell when a strippers boyfriend, especially if its a stripper i've seen in the club for awhile,is in the club by the way she acts toward him and how she does her job. Some of them won't even give a lapdance if their bf is in the club. I think the funniest/most annoying is when the DJ or security is dating one of the dancers, they try to keep it business but i've seen so many times when they let their emotions get the best of them

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    The only time I'd EVER let my girlfriend/boyfriend into the club is if I had dated them for awhile and KNEW they got off watching me with other people. I've been with many people who really had a fetish for watching me get sexual with others, and if I was sure they would enjoy it from that vantage point, I wouldn't have an issue with it.

    Other than that, irregardless of what the club rules where, under NO circumstance would I let them come in. NONE. It fucks up my work, creates drama, and is just really stupid. If they wanna see me DANCE, I'll do it at home. But there are usually club rules that prohibit it anyways.

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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    No boyfriends allowed is very normal. She did not get the club to say that.

    Boyfriends can interfere with the business in so many ways. Unless you are truly, truly supportive I've seen boyfriends hang out with their girlfriends on shift without a problem.




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    Default Re: Are boyfriends allowed in the club to watch while their gf is performing?

    There are several reasons a boyfriend is not permitted in a club. They all have to do with it is not good for business. This is what can happen when a boyfriend wants the truth and then can't handle the truth.
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    It is always a bad thing IMO. And it only gets worse if the BF is an employee of the club. Long time members will recall my adventures with Miss B way back in the day. Unknown to me she had started casually dating the DJ. I was in VIP with her one evening and she was giving me a pretty good dance. The DJ apparently had access to the cameras and made a comment over the loud speaker to the effect of "Ladies, if you are going to be whores, do it elsewhere". I didn't think anything of if because short of a little stick shifting Miss B wasn't doing anything significant. Anyways, shortly after that the dude actually showed up in our VIP booth screaming at both of us. It was very disconcerting to say the least and I left immediately which nuked her money for the rest of the night. His behavior was nuts...it wasn't like I was going to take her home or anything. There may be circumstances where it is cool for a BF (civilian or otherwise) to be there but I can't imagine what those might be.

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    Ok, thanks for all your responses. I see your point as to how it could create problems, even when you don't mean it to. I've gotten over my insecurities and fully trust her. I just wouldn't mind seeing her in her element and putting on a show. It'd make me happy to see that she's the object of every guy's desire but I get to be the one dating her. The club she works at is no contact and only topless. So I wouldn't be too put off watching her hustle. She even wants me to come sometime and watch her work. But I'm not pushing the issue, it's up to her and her managers. I'm totally supportive of her no matter what and love her.

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    Jeez FBR, that's fucking awful. What a shitty ending to your evening.

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