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    Ok, thanks for all your responses. I see your point as to how it could create problems, even when you don't mean it to. I've gotten over my insecurities and fully trust her. I just wouldn't mind seeing her in her element and putting on a show. It'd make me happy to see that she's the object of every guy's desire but I get to be the one dating her. The club she works at is no contact and only topless. So I wouldn't be too put off watching her hustle. She even wants me to come sometime and watch her work. But I'm not pushing the issue, it's up to her and her managers. I'm totally supportive of her no matter what and love her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yaris View Post
    Ok, thanks for all your responses.
    I watch friends dance of course I can't stay for the entire shift let alone a double. I never enter with them and when we leave together I'm just a driver.

    Can't you just stop in and be a PL in the crowd?

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    Quote Originally Posted by yaris View Post
    Ok, thanks for all your responses. I see your point as to how it could create problems, even when you don't mean it to. I've gotten over my insecurities and fully trust her. I just wouldn't mind seeing her in her element and putting on a show. It'd make me happy to see that she's the object of every guy's desire but I get to be the one dating her. The club she works at is no contact and only topless. So I wouldn't be too put off watching her hustle. She even wants me to come sometime and watch her work. But I'm not pushing the issue, it's up to her and her managers. I'm totally supportive of her no matter what and love her.

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    That's a wonderful attitude. Good for you being a supportive boyfriend!

    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    I watch friends dance of course I can't stay for the entire shift let alone a double. I never enter with them and when we leave together I'm just a driver.

    Can't you just stop in and be a PL in the crowd?
    Why in the world would you encourage that? I worked at a club where if they found out your boyfriend or husband was there, you could be fired or fined. And it isn't like she isn't going to see him. I can spot my SO a mile away.

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    Why in the world would you encourage that? I worked at a club where if they found out your boyfriend or husband was there, you could be fired or fined. And it isn't like she isn't going to see him. I can spot my SO a mile away.
    Of course she will see him but she doesn't have to acknowledge him any more then any PL. If you are concerned that she can't do her normal hustle because she doesn't want her husband/boyfriend to know the truth I understand that.

    In North New Jersey there are many clubs and dancers are almost independent contractors. There are very few paid bookings and the dancers dance when and where they can. As long as the husband/boyfriend is drinking and tipping there is no problem.

    I have never had a problem waiting for a dancer when she had a PL in lap dance up to an hour after her shift. Husband/boyfriend/driver/pimp who's to know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    Of course she will see him but she doesn't have to acknowledge him any more then any PL. If you are concerned that she can't do her normal hustle because she doesn't want her husband/boyfriend to know the truth I understand that.

    In North New Jersey there are many clubs and dancers are almost independent contractors. There are very few paid bookings and the dancers dance when and where they can. As long as the husband/boyfriend is drinking and tipping there is no problem.

    I have never had a problem waiting for a dancer when she had a PL in lap dance up to an hour after her shift. Husband/boyfriend/driver/pimp who's to know?
    For me, I would spot him and become uncomfortable, if he had never seen me dance before. Like I have said many times, guys can be ok with it in theory, but once they see "their" girl lapdancing for someone, it can be awkward or weird.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    For me, I would spot him and become uncomfortable, if he had never seen me dance before. Like I have said many times, guys can be ok with it in theory, but once they see "their" girl lapdancing for someone, it can be awkward or weird.

    Ditto.. who's to know? I know. That's all that matters.

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    So most husbands/boyfriends don't know what happens in VIP/LD? Kind of "don't ask don't tell".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    So most husbands/boyfriends don't know what happens in VIP/LD? Kind of "don't ask don't tell".

    Exactly what is it that you are implying?

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    I see the "no SO" thing differently, and it varies, but if she doesn't want you there, don't press it.

    My club has no security, and the only guy working there is the DJ. My BF works as a bouncer elsewhere, so he keeps an eye on things. He's usually there until the DJ arrives, and at the end of the night, when girls are leaving and need someone to walk them to their cars. And we're odd/adventurous. I do better when he's there; he's into voyeurism, and I know it turns him on when I dance for other guys (yes, we are odd). He tips the other girls too. And he primarily chills with the DJ anyway. Plus, he's my ride.

    Only one girl has a problem with it, because they won't allow her bf there. Last time he was there, they got in a fight and made a huge scene... about where she got her coke from! O_o THAT's why that rule exists.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow2 View Post
    Exactly what is it that you are implying?
    We have never meet,
    I KNOW NOTHING.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    We have never meet,
    I KNOW NOTHING.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yaris View Post
    My gf recently wants to strip but she's doesn't like the idea of me being there. We talked it out and she says she's ok with me coming in once in awhile, which I agreed to. Today's her first day and I said I won't come in the first couple days until she's comfortable. However, she just let me know that the club owners don't allow boyfriends while she's performing. I feel like she got them to say this and don't see what's wrong with me watching her perform. It doesn't make any sense that I'm banned from the club for simply being a boyfriend.

    seriously think about what your say?? I have never heard of a club letting a bf go into the club while there gf is working.. most boyfriends are going to get upset and make a scene.. I kinda feel like this was a dumb question.. sorry if thats mean


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    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    seriously think about what your say?? I have never heard of a club letting a bf go into the club while there gf is working.. most boyfriends are going to get upset and make a scene.. I kinda feel like this was a dumb question.. sorry if thats mean
    So bf are like ostriches with their head in the sand; if they don't see it it does not exist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    So bf are like ostriches with their head in the sand; if they don't see it it does not exist.
    I know you are baiting, but seriously. This really, really pissed me off on so many levels.

    First of all, not every stripper is a ho-bag who does extras.

    So let's define what extras means for me: Nipple sucking, mouth kissing, men kissing my neck, me kissing theirs, stick shifting (isnt that what you guys call rubbing a dude's cock through his pants?), handjobs, blow jobs, full sex. A dance with me is that: a dance.

    My SO has been to the VIP room with me. He knows EXACTLY what goes on. That was how we met. So he knows my whole song and dance, and does not mind if I dance.

    HOWEVER-

    Maybe if he saw me in the VIP with someone else doing the same thing I did with him, he'd feel a little twinge of jealousy. Maybe it would make me uncomfortable because I'd be afraid he would feel bad watching me. Maybe he wouldn't, who knows! But I happen to think it is VERY unprofessional to have your boyfriend in the club when you're working.

    Secondly, if I were seeing someone who has never seen me dance, and I DID explain all of the things I did, even give him a sample lapdance at home. He understands, says it's all right. But again, maybe if he saw it right in front of his face, it would cause him to feel pangs of jealousy.

    Last of all, what if my SO was in the club, watching me dance, and the man whom I was dancing for was attempting to mistreat me? Isn't it every guy's natural instinct to protect the girls they care for? I don't need my SO trying to whoop some dude's ass while I am trying to work. That has happened to me once and I left broke because all the customers thought I was dating a psycho, or that he was my pimp. It was not pretty or profitable.

    So no, they don't stick their heads in the sand. They keep their heads out of our workplaces, because nothing good can come from it. And if they're good boyriends, they are there for us when we need to blow off steam, draw baths for us when our bones are sore, and allow us to have a semblance of normalcy in our strange strange world.

    End rant. That statement was BULLSHIT.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    I know you are baiting, but seriously. This really, really pissed me off on so many levels.
    End rant. That statement was BULLSHIT.
    I just stated what I perceive to be a fact. What happens in the "club" will happen whether or not the bf is there but it will not bother him if he does not see it; thus the ostrich analogy.

    My observation was not directed at any individual but the general situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    So bf are like ostriches with their head in the sand; if they don't see it it does not exist.
    Oh no - man, it's just like any other job. I mean - if her dad came into Target while she was working - wouldn't she be awkward and embarrassed? I mean everyone puts down stripping on their resume.

    I mean since it is "just a job" what does her boyfriend's feelings have to do with it?

    He should just man up and know that her feelings, desires, and wants are more important than his and in a relationship he doesn't have shit to say about anything. He should just put that shell of emotional armor on and when it is finally thick enough he can't feel a thing for her anymore - well - he's just an asshole.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    Oh no - man, it's just like any other job. I mean - if her dad came into Target while she was working - wouldn't she be awkward and embarrassed? I mean everyone puts down stripping on their resume.

    I mean since it is "just a job" what does her boyfriend's feelings have to do with it?

    He should just man up and know that her feelings, desires, and wants are more important than his and in a relationship he doesn't have shit to say about anything. He should just put that shell of emotional armor on and when it is finally thick enough he can't feel a thing for her anymore - well - he's just an asshole.


    Dude, you have issues. You really do. You're the same guy that posted that that dancer deserved to be set on fire. Hate women much?

    If you're gonna date a stripper that means that there are certain aspects of the job (like grinding on guys) that you probably don't want to witness first hand. You accept this, and if you have a good woman, you know that she loves you and only you and you don't worry or think about what goes on ITC because it's IRRELEVANT. It is just a job. She's coming home to you. If on the other hand you can't trust her bc she's a dancer DON'T DATE STRIPPERS.

    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    He should just man up and know that her feelings, desires, and wants are more important than his and in a relationship he doesn't have shit to say about anything. He should just put that shell of emotional armor on and when it is finally thick enough he can't feel a thing for her anymore - well - he's just an asshole.
    This entire statement is fucking bullshit.

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    Bullshit is one word.

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    ^Lol. You're right. It's all fixed now.

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    I usually am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post

    If you're gonna date a stripper that means that there are certain aspects of the job (like grinding on guys) that you probably don't want to witness first hand. You accept this, and if you have a good woman, you know that she loves you and only you and you don't worry or think about what goes on ITC because it's IRRELEVANT. It is just a job. She's coming home to you.
    I agree women should understand that what her man does in a club is "IRRELEVANT". Honey I came back home to you. Are you going to bake me a pie?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    I agree women should understand that what her man does in a club is "IRRELEVANT". Honey I came back home to you. Are you going to bake me a pie?
    Umm, unless he's soliciting for sex, it is irrelevant.

    And Im not commenting on the baking a pie comment. It's retarded.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    Are you going to bake me a pie?
    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post

    And Im not commenting on the baking a pie comment. It's retarded.
    If a women is not baking what use would she have for a rolling pin?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    If a women is not baking what use would she have for a rolling pin?
    Wow are you really this thick headed?
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Wow are you really this thick headed?
    Yes he is and it drives me batty. I think it's also used to entice a reaction and be a jerk.

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